“I’m just trying to live my best life” is something I started saying heavily before leaving for Hangout Fest. My friends and co-workers love it just as much as I do. It’s probably because some of our “best life” decisions are questionable. Either way summer is almost officially here, and the only life I want to live is my best one!
How to Live Your Best Life #AllSummer17
Be consciously selfish.
It’s okay to say no to things that don’t benefit or interest you. This doesn’t mean to ignore your loved ones to sip sangria at the pool– at least not everyday. If your family is as big as mine, your calendar is already 50% booked with events. Make sure to make time for the fun and/or productive things you want to do.
Wear the bathing suit.
I know first hand this is easier said than done, but I also know that self consciousness and the heat don’t mesh well together.
If you didn’t Snap about it, did it even happen? Yes. Yes it did. Nothing says summer like a good drink-in-the-air picture, but sometimes we forget to live in the moment. Not to mention that a break from the 24-hour news cycle is good for the soul. Being on your phone too much takes away from quality pool and/or nap time. (Please note that I love a good drink in a float picture just as much as the next person.)
Don’t apologize for living the life you chose.
You’ve earned whatever you’re celebrating. What other people think of your idea of fun has nothing to do with you. Maybe your best life is washing your hair and reading a book–maybe it’s drinking wine out the bottle. If it makes you happy and isn’t harmful to yourself and others–DO IT. Worry about yourself fam.
Here are things I plan to check off my list to help live my best life this summer.
launch my summer arts camp.
This is the year I’m FINALLY beginning the journey of sprinkling art into the lives of Charleston’s youth. The 2-week camp launches in July, so stay tuned for more details!
Take a solo day trip.
A day to myself in a different city would be adventurous, even in a city I’ve visited before.
Attend (at least) 3 festivals
Hangout Fest is 1 out of the 3. Music Midtown is on my list, but I’d like to attend a food or culture related festival too.
How do you plan to live your best life this summer, and every other day of the year?
I remember the days when my summer reading list consisted of Babysitter Club and American Girl books. My, my how times have changed. Instead of reading to earn points for free pizza or colorful bracelets– I’m reading for the soul. Here’s a list of books I recently bought to enjoy this spring/summer.
This story is about a Nigerian couple who tries to flee to America *dramatic pause* post 9/11. The tone is a little more serious than the books I usually, but I’m always down for a dramatic, romantic adventure.
A few months ago, I attended a discussion of Between the World and Me without reading the book. The conversation was great enough to make me want to own the book as soon as possible. You’ve probably read enough blog posts about my nephews to know they’re a pretty big part of my life. They’re the main reason I bought this book. Read below to find out why…
“In a profound work that pivots from the biggest questions about American history and ideals to the most intimate concerns of a father for his son, Ta-Nehisi Coates offers a powerful new framework for understanding our nation’s history and current crisis. Americans have built an empire on the idea of “race”, a falsehood that damages us all but falls most heavily on the bodies of black women and men.” (excerpt from the Publisher’s summary)
I’m behind in all the shows, especially HBO’s Big Little Lies. Reading the book obviously isn’t the same as seeing Reese Witherspoon and Zoe Kravitz on my screen, but it’ll do. If you’re unaware, Big Little Lies follows an investigation of a parent who wound up dead at an elementary school trivia night. Naturally, the investigation gets a little messy.
“What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? Our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty, and every difficulty has an opportunity.”
― J. Sidlow Baxter
The Importance of a Positive Attitude
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
No one likes to be around a Debbie/Donald Downer. If you have a negative outlook on life, you will invite negativity into your space.
Helps the inspiration and motivation flow.
When you feel good about your life, you’ll want to continue to do the things that keep you feeling that way. Even if it’s deciding to take the healthy eating route or discovering a new hobby, a little passion goes a long way.
Being optimistic helps us find the good in every situation. Positive folks complete tasks without worrying about what could go wrong. So if things don’t gi exactly how you planned, there’s still a lesson or experience to be had.
It’s healthier for you.
Nothing good comes from being constantly stressed, angry or sad. Everyone has bad days and gets into funks, but holding onto those feelings won’t help the situation.
Brings more positivity into your life.
A positive attitude is the gift that keeps on giving. It unlocks gratitude for what you already have, which brings more greatness to you.
Despite what you’ve heard, being a server is a tough job. As long as you’re sitting in our section, we’re responsible for your happiness and your lives–if you want to get technical.
Every time I try to leave the service industry, something keeps calling me back. Maybe it’s the money, maybe it’s the family atmosphere or maybe it’s the hundreds of memories the job brings. Every food and beverage job is different, but here are some things the server in your life will relate to.
7 Things A Food & Bev Server Will Understand
When you tell guests to enjoy their meal and they respond, “You too.”
Table: *reads menu for 20 minutes* So what all do you have?
Explaining to your friends that lunch breaks don’t exist.
LOL, what’s a break?
Doing the math when a table leaves the total amount without specifying the tip.
Blaming the Back of House staff when you’re in the weeds.
Knowing “in the weeds” isn’t a drug reference.
I pinky promise it isn’t.
That moment when you’re ready to checkout, and remember you have side work.
Are you a food and bev server? Comment below with anything you’d add to the list!
A side hustle is a way for creatives and part-time entrepreneurs to make a little extra cash outside of their full-time jobs. After college, I started my freelance journey. It was exciting, fun and kept me busy. Fast forward to 5 years later, and I can’t wait to retire. When I first started losing interest a few years ago, I thought it was a combination of laziness and stubbornness. That was partially true, but as my life started to change, so did my interests and goals.
All the signs were there, so my journey will end this summer. If you’re a side-hustler trying to figure out your next career move, these signs might be helpful in the process.
5 Signs You Need To Break Up With Your Side Hustle
You’d always rather be doing something else.
Not your typical “I’d rather be daydrinking or watching Netflix”, but wondering why you even started this in the first place.
You’re only doing it for money.
Most people start side gigs because they’re passionate about something. Once that fire burns out, so will you.
Talking about your product/service gives you major anxiety.
I knew my days as a freelance social media manager were coming to an end when networking events became dreadful. (Even the ones with alcohol.) I hated explaining what I did, because I had no idea what I was doing.
Being unorganized doesn’t bother you.
Like any job, organization is a major key. If being unorganized causes your side hustle to be a hot mess, and you don’t do anything to fix it–you need to let that go.
You have no interest in building or investing.
There’s always room for growth, it’s up to you to take advantage of them. Resources like workshops, classes, books and videos exist for a reason. I know being an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you’re rich, and sometimes you have to spend money to make money. However, Google is free and so is the library.
Did you ever have to break up with your side hustle? How did you know it was time to move on?
Women’s History Month is coming to an end, so I’m sending this glorious month off by showing love to my favorite women-related moments of the week. Women are naturally a big deal, but a celebration of sisterhood is good for the soul.
“It’s not whether or not we feel afraid that matters, but what we do because –or even in spite of–it. What matters is if we can still choose our hearts even when our minds give us every reason not to. There is a lot at stake; there is so much on the horizon, and at times it can be blinding. But, you and I…we are here in this moment for a reason.” – Kate Rose, on the magical beginnings of the recent New Moon in Aries.
Favorite Women Empowerment Moment
March 27th, 2017 marked the first ever #MuslimWomensDay. With all the political chaos going on today, it gave me all the feels to see Muslim women celebrated.
I’m currently reading Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Next on my list from Adichie are Americanah and We Should All Be Feminists.
Favorite Girl Gang
University of South Carolina Women’s Basketball team for making it to the #FinalFour. They’ll be joining our Men’s Basketball team, making USC the only school in the country to have both teams in the Final Four!