Women’s History Month is coming to an end, so I’m sending this glorious month off by showing love to my favorite women-related moments of the week. Women are naturally a big deal, but a celebration of sisterhood is good for the soul.
“It’s not whether or not we feel afraid that matters, but what we do because –or even in spite of–it. What matters is if we can still choose our hearts even when our minds give us every reason not to. There is a lot at stake; there is so much on the horizon, and at times it can be blinding. But, you and I…we are here in this moment for a reason.” – Kate Rose, on the magical beginnings of the recent New Moon in Aries.
Favorite Women Empowerment Moment
March 27th, 2017 marked the first ever #MuslimWomensDay. With all the political chaos going on today, it gave me all the feels to see Muslim women celebrated.
I’m currently reading Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Next on my list from Adichie are Americanah and We Should All Be Feminists.
Favorite Girl Gang
University of South Carolina Women’s Basketball team for making it to the #FinalFour. They’ll be joining our Men’s Basketball team, making USC the only school in the country to have both teams in the Final Four!
I thought of this idea for my DIY Gratitude Jar while having a Sunday solo dance party in my room. It’s not much different from my first gratitude jar, a recycled wedding party favor, but I put a little more effort into it.
Mason Jar. I’m pretty sure you have a mason jar, or some type of jar that can be used to store all this positive energy. If not, a quick trip to the Dollar Store or Target can help. I conveniently got 3 mini mason jars from a moonshine tasting, so that’s what I used.
Pop sickle sticks. Either buy them from the store, or eat like 30 freeze pops. I bought these rainbow themed ones years ago.
Sharpie. Again, you might have a few at home *cough* or work.
Last but not least: gratitude.
What I’m Grateful For
Clarity and growth.
Yaaaas for personal growth and hair growth! When I started using a gratitude jar in November, I was unemployed and unimpressed with everything around me. Shortly after that, things started to slowly turn around. These days, I’m happily employed and able to make sense of life’s circumstances—even the really annoying ones.
New job/work friends.
Working part-time has helped me afford all the fun things that make life fun. It also gives me a reason to get from behind my computer and interact with humans face-to-face. I haven’t been part of a close, fun work-family since college. This is the same job I randomly applied for while on a “date” I hesitated going on. The same job where I almost let my overthinking talk me out of accepting. But here we are! Which leads me to the next thing on my list…
For lack of better words, “I be knowing”. My third eye chakra was a little fuzzy for a bit. With a (usually) positive attitude and less social media, my intuition is on fleek.
You’ve probably read about the unfortunate retirement of my MacBook. My aunt blessed me with a computer, and it’s made the freelance and blogger life easier. ALSO, my future niece (due in April) and godson (due in August) will be here soon! More kids to add to #AuntieAce’s squad. I’m honestly grateful people trust me enough to love their kids. 🙂
My dreams are starting to scare me, in a good way.
I’m referring to my goals, purpose and passions – not nightmares. It’s almost mind-blowing how the people and opportunities I’ve connected with lately are aligning with my purpose. It’s time to stop focusing on how hard I thinkit might be do achieve something, and just do it.
Do you have a gratitude jar? What are some things you’re grateful for this week? Comment below!
Oshun (also spelt Osun) is a beloved West African goddess known as the goddess of love and sweet waters. If you’ve watched Lemonade or Beyoncé’s Grammy performance. you’ve been exposed to the Oshun goddess.
“Oshun is regarded as a healer of the sick, the bringer of song, music and dance, as well as prosperity and fertility. Oshun is also depicted as a teacher, who taught them the art of divination, using cowrie shells, as well as songs, chants and meditations.”
Ain’t nobody got time for that fertility stuff, but YASSS to meditation.
What was I doing at a full moon party? I mean, why would I not be at a full moon party? Right before the holidays, I started working at a supercool bar in Charleston. One of the many things this bar is known for is their Lunacy Full Moon parties.
Why I chose Oshun.
Other than wanting to create a costume with what was already in my closet, or what I could wear again—I was really feeling Oshun’s vibe. Also, it’s Women’s History Month and I wanted to #DoItForTheCulture.
I fell in love with a drawing by Shannon’s Art Werkk about 2 years ago. In an Instagram caption, Shannon explains that Oshun: The Goddess Next Door is associated with “love, abundance, attraction, compassion, & beauty.” After showing her my pictures, Shannon wrote in a separate caption that it was so fitting for me to dress as Oshun during a full moon in Virgo. She associates Oshun with Taurus & Virgo energy which is CRAZY to me. I’m a Capricorn, and every zodiac compatibility “test” or prediction, pairs me with a Taurus or Virgo. Beyonce is a Virgo, so there’s that.
Yes, it’s a real term I discovered while reading Annie Wermiel’s “The most undervalued women in America are childless aunts“. Since the sweet age of 7, I’ve been living the Auntie life. Fast forward to 21 years later, and I’m helping to plan baby showers and bachelorette parties AT LEAST once a year. As I type this, I’m mentally preparing myself for a gender reveal, 2 baby showers and a bachelorette party…within the next 4 months.
“Today, 48 percent of women of fertile age are childless, up 35 percent from 1976. In a 2012 national joint-study by Savvy Auntie, along with Weber Shandwick and KRC Research, we found 23 million North American childless women — or one in five women age 18 and up — have a special bond with a child in their life, by relation or by choice through friendship.”
This is the part where I tell you that in August 2017, I’ll have a total of 15+ special kiddos in my life. FIFTEEN. They didn’t live in my womb for 9 months, but they’re mine and I’ll fight you if you try to tell me otherwise. Although I love being #AuntieAce, I’m going to admit that I’m not as professional as a typical PANK.
5 Reasons Why I’m Not A Typical PANK
I don’t change diapers. Clearly, I will if I have to but it’s a lot for my weak stomach to take in. In the article, Wermiel said she’s changed her fair share of diapers. Can’t relate.
I’m not going to offer to babysit on a regular basis. Partially because I’ve lived with most of my nephews longer than I haven’t lived with them. Ace: The In-House Aunt. Give me a few years and I’ll be the “come spend the weekend with me” type of aunt.
My favorite dishes to cook are Take-Out and Delivery. Cooking is not my strong point, but I’m can order food and tip very well.
Newborns have to be a certain size before I hold them. Like bottles of wine, babies are precious cargo and they should be treated as such. Also like wine bottles, I would have a panic attack if I dropped a baby. Yes, I just compared children to wine.
I use words and laughter to spoil kids, not gifts. According to The Savvy Auntie, “The average PANK spends $387 on each child in her life, each year, while 76 percent spend over $500 on each niece or nephew.” Remember when I said I’ll soon have 15+ kids in my life? Auntie Ace balls on a budget.
All that really matters is the kids love me, and their parents trust me. We’ll see how they feel after this post though. Are you a PANK or PUNK Professional Uncle, No Kids (LOL)? What’s your life like with your nieces and nephews?
I was that little girl who used to call psychic hotlines (shoutout to Ms. Cleo) and hang-up hoping my mama wouldn’t see the charges on the phone bill. It’s no secret that I’m a lover of the “magical” things: chakras, healing crystals, and the law of attraction. So my desire to have a card reading doesn’t surprise most people.
In January, I met some pretty dope women artists at Living Color! Other than the artwork and good vibes floating in the, a sweet spirit by the name of Julia “JuJu” Catherine gave me her Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards to give myself a reading. I will admit I was a little nervous to see my cards at first, but felt inspired after they were revealed
Photo credit: Paul King
What are Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards?
I know the thought of an oracle card reading freak a lot of people out because they assume it will predict their death or downfall. The Goddesss Guidance Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue are a little different, because the goddesses are here to sprinkle magic and improve your lives. The oracle cards are empowering and loving, not negative or judgmental.
“Dedicated to the spirit, power and beauty of the goddess, which exists within every woman, man and child. May the goddess reawaken and bring feminine balancing energy to the world. May our feminine strengths of intuition and nurturing fully reemerge.”
How to give yourself a reading:
The deck comes with a guidebook, because who wants to screw up an oracle reading? “Not I,” said the cat. Read the guidebook before getting started to help you understand how to do a reading. and how to interpret the cards chosen.
Focus on a question you want the oracle cards to answer.
Then you shuffle them until something in your soul tells you to stop shuffling.
Remove 3 cards from the deck.
Place the first card to the left, the second card in the middle and the third card on the right. The card on the left represents your past; the middle represents your present; and the right represents your future.
Before shuffling my cards, I asked myself something along the lines of, “What am I doing with my life?” It was one of those days. Check out the responses below.
Left card (the past):
Meaning: Be strong.
“You are stronger than you think you are, and your strength assures a happy outcome.”
I always joke about how my biography, starring Debbie Allen as my mom (duh!), would be great for Oprah to direct. My life hasn’t been an easy one, but I’m still here and that’s all that matters!
Middle card (the present)
Meaning: Inner goddess
“Awaken the goddess within you through dance, self-care, and appreciating your divinity.”
I just celebrated my 29th B’earth-Day, also known as, #TwentyWineSavage. It’s so funny when people ask me, “How do you feel?” Instead of the “This is the last year of my 20s” freak-out like people expect me to have, I’ve been tapping into my inner goddess by being thankful I’m still alive– all while dancing every chance I get.
Right card (the future)
Meaning: The Arts
“Express yourself through creative activities.”
The arts have always played a special role in my life. (Hence how I got my hands on these Goddess cards in the first place.) Eventually, I’d like to create my own arts program and/or school. Opportunities to help make my dream a reality are trickling in this year– I just have to get focused enough to execute.
See, that wasn’t so bad.
Have you ever had an oracle card reading? How was it? Let me know in the comments or tweet me @PalmsInATL. If you’d like to give yourself or your squad an oracle card reading, purchase a deck of Goddess Guidance cards here.
February is almost over, but feel free to carry this Black History Month Playlist into Melanin March and every other month in the year. I didn’t pick these songs because they’re about “being black”. Some of the jams celebrate blackness, some remind me of my family, friends, and childhood, while others remind me of the struggle. Instead of explaining why this playlist is so necessary to me, I’ll let Tina Lawson school ya.
“It’s such beauty in black people, and it really saddens me when we’re not allowed to express that pride in being black, and that if you do, then it’s considered anti-white. No! You just pro-black. And that’s okay. The two don’t go together. Because you celebrate black culture does not mean that you don’t like white culture or that you putting it down. It’s just taking pride in it, but what’s irritating is when somebody says, you know, “They’re racist!”, “That’s reverse racism!” or, “They have a Black History Month, but we don’t have a White History Month!”
Well, all we’ve ever been taught is white history. So, why are you mad at that? Why does that make you angry? That is to suppress me and to make me not be proud.”
-Interlude: Tina Taught Me (A Seat at the Table)
Let’s be honest, A Seat at the Table (Solange) and To Pimp A Butterfly (Kendrick Lamar) could’ve made up for half of this playlist, but that was too easy. Let me also point out that Beyoncé’s Lemonade isn’t on Spotify, along with a handful of other songs I wanted to add to this playlist — but I did my best! Enjoy and remember to never turn down!
Warning: I tried to find “clean” versions, but some songs may contain explicit language.
Black History Month Playlist
What songs would you add to the Black History Month Playlist? Leave a comment, and maybe I’ll add it!