At the beginning of the year, I was a journaling machine – killing my daily affirmations and jotting down my random thoughts and ideas. Daily affirmations became weekly affirmations, which I was fine with until my affirmations disappeared altogether. Ace wisely reminded me the other day that thoughts become things. So I want to get back on my journaling game.
Journaling has a positive impact on physical well-being, including reducing stress and increasing emotional intelligence, memory and comprehension. Read about other benefits here.
My goal is to sit down once a week (I think I’m saving Sundays for this) for the rest of this month and July and spend 20 minutes journaling. Then I’m going to make it twice a week, but baby steps, people. Anyways, if you’re interested in journaling here are a few prompts to get you started.
10 Journaling Prompts To Get You Started
1)What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
2)Pick a favorite inspirational quote and design a journal page around it.
Write about the wisdom this quote awakens in you and how applies to your life. Why is it important for you at this time?
Write as many things as you can think of. When you are finished, reflect on how long the list is and how strong you are to be dealing with all of it. If you list is long, you may want to sort them into categories. Sort stress-sources into categories like ‘life’, ‘money’, ‘people’, ‘school’ etc. Brainstorm solutions to at least one stress source in each category. If your list is relatively short pick one or two that you can tackle fairly easy and jot down ways to alleviate that stressor.
5) Write a pep talk to give yourself the next time you feel sad, upset, or full of doubt.
6) Find an image or two in a magazine that draws you.
Cut it out, and paste it on a blank journal page. You can write two sentences or two pages. Just let it out. Let the image speak to you. You may be surprised at how much lighter you will feel.
7) Journal about your unhealthy habits.
8) I am amazing because…
9) Find some lyrics that you love and jot them down. Write about why the lyrics resonate with you.
10) Create a list. Here are a few ideas:
Places you’ve enjoyed visiting or would like to visit
Your favorite books
All of favorite movies
Your favorite songs
Your top five short term and long term goals
Join me on this journaling adventure. Feel free to journal more frequently than what I’ve set. If you want to share some pics use the hashtag: #JournalingJuneandJuly.
Have you read The Girl On The Train? If yes, then know the suspense and mystery that will wrapped in this one. In Into the Water. a single mother turns up dead at the bottom of a river and her teenage daughter knows that there’s more to the story than suicide. I can’t wait to crack this one open!
Think Devil Wears Prada with as a thriller. Here’s the synopsis: A high-powered fashion editor dies in her office, her best friend / work wife Cat knows that it wasn’t because of something she ate (or, in this case, didn’t eat). Cat enlists the help of a detective and they get on the case — which winds the duo up in a web of sex, lies, and makeup counter madness.
For The Bookworm That Loves YA Fiction and a Little Romance
I’m a big fan of the first two books in the To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before series: To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before and P.S. I Still Love You. So I’m excited to revisit all of these characters sipping frosé by the pool. Start with the first book and you’ve got a summer series.
Ace included Between The World and Me on her summer reading list and it’s also on mine. However, I thought I’d give you a classic option to consider. The Fire Next Time was originally a letter, written by Baldwin to his nephew on the 100th anniversary of the “emancipation” of black America and is completely relevant today.
“The impossible is the least that one can demand.”
― James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time
Ok ya’ll. We have to talk about this season of The Bachelorette. Now I’m a pretty inconsistent watcher of The Bachelor/ The Bachelorette franchise. I basically decide if I’m going to watch based on who is cast as the lead. I mean sometimes they just choose big douche bags/ f*ckboys — I’m looking at you Juan Pablo! Or the bachelorette is just uninteresting. However, this season is probably the one I’ve been the most excited for and not only because the lead, Rachel Lindsay, is the
first black Bachelorette!
Although, this is important. The Bachelor began in 2002 and The Bachelorette a year later. Neither show has had a black lead, although one Hispanic man has been the bachelor. Y’all it took 33 seasons – 33 damn seasons!! Interestingly enough, Rachel’s also the oldest (not old though) – she’s only 32. So why is Rachel’s race important?
Black women are often overly sexualized, but not seen as objects of affection or marriage material. There are studies that show black women on online dating sites have the lowest message response rate from men of all races, while being the most likely to reply to men. To see the beautiful, intelligent, funny, black bachelorette be courted by men of all races vying to be her husband, is such a beautiful reminder for women that look like me that we are desirable and deserve the love we seek.
More about Rachel:
Rachel is a lawyer from Dallas.
She’s got an adorable dog named Copper… like Copper and Tod from The Fox and the Hound.
We’re only two episodes in and while I think you would be thoroughly entertained binge-watching these four hours of greatness, here’s a quick catch-up. If you plan on watching and don’t want any spoilers here is where you need to stop reading.
So earlier this week, Ace and I shared our Hangout Festival playlist with you all. Now maybe you’ll be out at Gulf Shores like us or perhaps you’re hitting the road to Sasquatch!, Governors Ball, Bonnaroo, Essence Music Festival, Lollapalooza or one of the many amazing summer festivals. Either way you’ll probably need to pack a few items and I’ve got you covered with some music festival essentials.
If you’re going in a group there’s a likely chance that not everyone will want to see the same sets. I personally think you should have a festival buddy. But in case you plan on wondering off. I would suggest a portable power bank to charge your phone in case it dies before you can link back up with your squad. There are plenty on the market, but I purchased the Polanfo 12000mAh Portable External Power Bank last year when my old Samsung S6 had the battery life of a yawn. I recently upgraded, but I’m still packing the power bank.
Many festivals don’t allow you to bring in chairs, so I would recommend a blanket. I ordered one of these really cool round beach throws from Zulilly, but of course it didn’t ship on time.
This is not a game people. Hydrate! Between the heat, the dancing, sweating and the booze, it is so easy to get dehydrated. If you’re camping, buy gallons of spring water to have handy. Otherwise make sure you have a stainless steel refillable water bottle or even consider bringing a Camelbak (if they are allowed).
Sometimes you just need a little refresh. I’m a big fan of the Pacifica Deodorant Wipes because they have coconut milk and essential oils. The wipes are also 100% vegan and cruelty-free. I went to Target and purchased the travel size version, but I love these for after the gym or a workout. Some old-school baby wipes will also do the trick.
Mini Bottle Of Hand Sanitizer
Since we’re on the topic of hygiene. Let’s talk about port-o-potties. They are gross, but you have to just suck it up. For these instances, make sure you have some hand sanitizer.
In addition to any medication you regularly take, think about packing some Advil or Tylenol. I feel like I read somewhere once that immunity boosters like Emergen-C and Airborne don’t actually work. It doesn’t matter, I will not let anything have me down and out for the festival so I plan on packing some Airborne for a little extra dose of Vitamin C.
Optional: Flower crown
Listen…I’m that girl. Flower crowns are on everyone’s festival bingo. Forever 21 usually has a good selection or you can DIY your own with a few supplies from the craft store. I found some other great options on Amazon as well.
Obviously, your list will include some additional items, but these are some music festival essentials I stand by. Do you have any items that are must haves for you? Let me know in the comments below.
I should have just moved on, but instead I read the comments. You never read the comments.
Is there a specific need to call this “Black boy joy”? I think a more appropriate title would be simply “Boy joy”. Someone from any race would be happy to see someone after being away. The person who captioned this must be trying force segregation.
Yeah, I don’t understand the difference between Black boy joy or white boy joy after not seeing a loved one for a significant amount of time.
This is awesome I agree. However are we going to label emotions by color now also ? Isn’t joy and other emotions the same in all races? Stop the labels !!!!
“Black boy joy” title was unnecessary. Creating animosity for no reason.
Actual footage of me reading the comments:
To be fair many people backtracked after being educated about the hashtag, but a lot of people didn’t. I didn’t understand why the first extinct was to try to criticize something so positive. However, I remembered the first time I wore a my Magical Black Girl shirt and was “lectured” in Starbucks. (More on that later.)
Why We Need #BlackGirlMagic & #BlackBoyJoy
Just in case we’re not all on the same page, let’s break down these hashtags quickly.
#BlackGirlMagic is a concept and movement created to celebrate the beauty, power and resilience of black girls and women and to congratulate them on their accomplishments.
The Root writer Danielle Young has the best definition of #BlackBoyJoy I’ve seen:
It [the hashtag] also shows that black boys and men, who despite life or its challenges, still possess the jovial spirit that you can identify in carefree black boys, that enables them to spread infectious joy and happiness through their smile, their outlook, their confidence or simply their presence. It doesn’t minimize the men by saying they have Black Boy Joy. They’ve just managed to retain what we hope none of our boys lose as they get older – joy.