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Oshun Goddess Full Moon Party Costume

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Who is Oshun?

Oshun (also spelt Osun) is a beloved West African goddess known as the goddess of love and sweet waters. If you’ve watched Lemonade or Beyoncé’s Grammy performance. you’ve been exposed to the Oshun goddess.

“Oshun is regarded as a healer of the sick, the bringer of song, music and dance, as well as prosperity and fertility. Oshun is also depicted as a teacher, who taught them the art of divination, using cowrie shells, as well as songs, chants and meditations.”

-Ancient Origins

Ain’t nobody got time for that fertility stuff, but YASSS to meditation.

What was I doing at a full moon party? I mean, why would I not be at a full moon party? Right before the holidays, I started working at a supercool bar in Charleston. One of the many things this bar is known for is their Lunacy Full Moon parties.

Why I chose Oshun.

Other than wanting to create a costume with what was already in my closet, or what I could wear again—I was really feeling Oshun’s vibe. Also, it’s Women’s History Month and I wanted to #DoItForTheCulture.

I fell in love with a drawing by Shannon’s Art Werkk about 2 years ago. In an Instagram caption, Shannon explains that Oshun: The Goddess Next Door is associated with “love, abundance, attraction, compassion, & beauty.” After showing her my pictures, Shannon wrote in a separate caption that it was so fitting for me to dress as Oshun during a full moon in Virgo. She associates Oshun with Taurus & Virgo energy which is CRAZY to me. I’m a Capricorn, and every zodiac compatibility “test” or prediction, pairs me with a Taurus or Virgo. Beyonce is a Virgo, so there’s that.

What I wore.

Sunflower Crown:

Made by Aysha & Co. Not every image of the Oshun goddess I saw used sunflowers, but Shannon’s did–and I loved it! Plus, I needed a new flower crown to rock to Hangout Festival anyway.

Make-up:

Slayed by Touched by Toyca. My cousin NAILED IT, especially with my eye shadow. (Oshun is associated with the colors yellow and gold.)
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Hair:

Snatched by Stefon Styles.

Outfit:

  • Yellow sarong, for a flowy goddess vibe.
  • White t-shirt, for blacklight purposes.
  • Black tank, so I wasn’t completely exposed in the black light.
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photo: T. Cooley

Are you familiar the Oshun Goddess? If you went to a full moon party, what would your costume be?

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Oshun image by Shannon D. Little

Black Girl Magic: Exploring My Healing Powers

I was about 8-years-old when I discovered healing powers. One night I was having excruciating stomach pain. My mama grabbed her blessing oil, and wiped it onto my forehead in what felt to be shaped like a cross. Minutes later, the pain was gone. That wasn’t the last time I needed that same oil for pain.

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Fast forward to 12 years later. After burning incense purchased from a store, which I’ll leave nameless, I had weird dreams and nightmares. While visiting a similar store, Natural Vibrations, I told the cashier about my creepy experience. She said:

“You’re not the first person to tell me this. I have something to cleanse your room, but don’t bring stuff from them into your space again.”

Sure enough, the dreams went away that night. Although I come from a predominantly Christian family, I’ve never considered myself a religious person. Gospel music is my jam, the scriptures are inspiring, and I even slide into church from time to time (aka whenever I visit my aunt). However, I became the girl who only prayed when she “needed” something, and as I got older it became clear that I was entering the I’m spiritual, not religious life.

Why I’m Exploring My Healing Powers

It’s been on my to-do list for a year.

One of my 2016 goals was to learn more about chakras. Along the way, I reconnected with things like crystals/minerals and sage wands. Check out my awesome raw rose quartz and chunky pyrite from The Hoodwitch.   Exploring My Healing Powers -- The Palmetto Peaches

I’ve always believed in magic.

As a little girl, I would wish on the brightest stars for all kinds of things, including to wake up with magic like Sabrina the Teenage Witch. In my “adult” years, I’ve discovered things like the Law of Attraction and meditation. Those methods are more centered around self-awareness rather than glitter and wands, but they’re still magical.

Genetics.

While my aunts and mom were the “pray on it” type, they were also the clairvoyant + third eye on fleek type. I can bet money that there’s something in our blood. There are several stories I can tell that might give you goosebumps– like how my aunt saw the 1977 Tenerife airport disaster (deadliest plane crash in history) before it happened. Or how I sensed my nephew’s surgery the night before he was rushed to the hospital.

I’m not casting any spells or reading palms (yet), but I’m definitely tapping more into my spirituality. Have you explored your healing powers? What has worked for you?

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Awkward Questions to Ban from Your Dinner Table

My high school global studies teacher always told us:

There are three things you don’t discuss at the dinner table: money, religion and politics.

His words have been my life mantra ever since. I never minded telling folks, “sorry, I don’t discuss politics” in bars or parties. Like, can we talk about this when alcohol isn’t involved?

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Maybe I’m extra careful because I’ve lived a very far from traditional life. Disclaimer: Close friends and family members, who actually care about you and aren’t trying to control your life, may ask you the questions below. I’m referring to the nosy Sherlock Holmes’s who want to push their beliefs on you. Harsh? #IAintSorry 

Awkward Questions to Ban from Your Dinner Table

“What do your parents do for a living?”

I used to respond with, “I don’t have parents,” but that made things even more awkward. You know the movies where a poor person and rich person fall in love, and the rich family disapproves? That’s what this question reminds me of. It also reminds me of all the people who don’t have positive relationships with their whose parents, or the ones living without parents.

“When are you going to start having kids?” Followed by, “Why?” or “Why not?”

Please mind your own uterus friends. Aside from having the right to decide to not have kids, some people deal with infertility, miscarriages and other life changing issues.

“Did you gain weight?”

Actually, I avoid anything weight related. Unless I know the person was working towards a specific goal. Even “Did you lose weight?” is an awkward question for some. Stress, depression and sickness all effect weight. The last thing you need to do is bring it up for discussion around others.

“When are you going to get a ring on that finger?” Also see, “When are you going to put a ring on that finger?”

Let single folks be single in peace. What if you’re ruining a surprise proposal, or pressuring this person to settle for an idiot?

“Who did you vote for?”

This may also be disguised with, “How do you feel about the Presidential Election?” No. Nope. Nah. It’s a setup. A setup to sabotage dinner and/or friendships.

Moral of the story: ask yourself if this question is appropriate for a group setting before asking anything. Spark a conversation, but don’t set the damn room on fire. K? K!

What cringeworthy life questions have you been asked? If you don’t mind reliving it, comment below!

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How To Be A Successful Freelancer

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Choosing to become a freelancer isn’t taking the easy way out. That “work for yourself” lifestyle may look like it’s all about living in a coffee shop, and non-stop deposits into your bank account–but it’s not. If you’re looking for a career change/adjustment in the new year, remember to follow these tips before taking that leap of faith.

How To Be A Successful Freelancer

Do the research

Please know what you’re getting yourself into, before making a big deal of it. There’s no such thing as the perfect time to chase a dream, but it doesn’t hurt to be well prepared. The more you know, the more confident you’ll be in your work, and the more credible you’ll seem to your clients.

Get organized

Freelancers juggle multiple projects at once. Unlike working for a business that provides you office space and work calendars, you have to create your own workspace and schedule.  (You also have to buy your own Post-It notes and highlighters.) Utilize physical calendars, apps and electronics to help keep you on track.

Know the worth of your services and/or product

If you’re like me, you hate talking about money. You know what you will hate even more? Doing a job for half the amount you should be doing it for. Although freelance and contract employees are typically less expensive than hiring a corporation, that doesn’t mean the work isn’t as valuable. Kudos to those who stick to their price list, but if you’re going to adjust your payment, make sure you also adjust the workload.

With that being said…

know your own worth

As a freelancer, I’m guilty of taking on projects that leave me overworked and underpaid. Don’t be me. You can be inspired by others and try to follow their footsteps, but everyone’s journey will be different. Your version of success may not look like the success of someone else. Just because Sarah made 6 figures after a year of blogging, doesn’t mean you’ll achieve the same goal exactly the way she did.

Network

Even if you hate it, you have to get your work out there. How else will your target audience know what you have to offer? Hang in there introverts. Social networking is great too, but you’re going to have to brave a few crowds and awkward ice breakers at some point. Try to find networking events specifically for freelancers, or for the field you’re pursuing a career in.

Continue to learn

Even as a teacher, you can be a student. When I first started my freelancer journey; I consistently joked about having to go back to school so the “young folks” wouldn’t graduate and steal my job(s). Maybe I joked too much, because that’s more real than ever. Take classes, read, ask questions, get a mentor–whatever it takes to keep you at the top of your game. There are too many tools and resources out there to fall behind. You got books, blogs, webinars, chats, Google, Snaps – you naaaaaame it!
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Are you a freelancer? What advice would you add to this list?

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10 Self Date Ideas for Autumn Anxiety

Me: I love the fall.

Also me: I just wanna stay in bed all day, with myself and pizza.

What’s Autumn Anxiety? It’s that icky feeling you get that won’t go away despite all of the pumpkin spice, early Christmas decorations and cozy sweaters. Between the shorter days, not wanting to leave a warm bed and the New Year quickly approaching– fall can take a toll on our emotional and mental states.

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One may think this post is for lonely, single folks, but nah. As much as some claim their lives and partners are perfect –that’s rarely the case. You’re never too perfect for alone time, or a mental health break.

You may need a self date if…

  • Your friends or lover hates your new, favorite band.
  • Money is tight, and you don’t want to pay for the person you extended the invitation to.
  • You have a case of the blues, and want to shake out of it on your own terms and with your own money.
Disclaimer: This list is just for fun. Please seek advice from a medical professional if you’re looking for ways to treat anxiety and/or depression.

 

10 Self Date Ideas for Autumn Anxiety

Take a yoga class.

Yoga is a great way to get the good vibes flowing. A self date to a yoga class is ideal because yoga poses can be hella awkward for beginners. If your friends are like mine, you’ll probably laugh the entire time and get banned.

Drink responsibly at happy hour.

Sometimes you just need to enjoy a hot toddy in an environment other than your home. I used to hit up happy hour solo all the time after work. Bartenders and other folks there alone would always strike up a conversation with me.

Check out open mic or improv night.

If you don’t have a way with words, hearing the stories of others and listening to them express their emotions can help articulate your personal feelings.

See a local band in concert.

Check out a band you’ve never heard of, or one you’ve been wanting to hear. Smaller crowds and cheaper ticket prices are also a plus if you’ve only seen “big” artists in concert.

Get a massage.

I’ve never had a (professional) massage. A self date would be a great time to go, so I can avoid my friends taking pictures of me falling asleep during the massage.

Volunteer.

Gratitude is the best attitude. Give your time to an organization that needs it. Although volunteering is tons of fun in groups, visiting alone doesn’t hurt either. Think outside the box when volunteering. There are lots of opportunities behind-the-scenes: cleaning, admin work, offering transportation etc.

Take a mini road trip.

Try a long drive and car karaoke for your troubles.

Indulge in a culinary or history tour.

Enjoy the good eats and hidden gems by being a tourist in your town. This just reminded me that I won 2 tickets to a culinary tour, and I might go alone…twice!

Visit a museum.

A little culture never hurt nobody. Museums (usually) require more thinking and less talking. A self date wouldn’t be too awkward since you’re just soaking up all the knowledge.

Attend a workshop or conference.

Workshops and conferences are a cool way to meet like-minded individuals while brushing up on a specific skill or hobby. These types of events aren’t as cheap as treating yourself to a coffee self date, so they may take a little more time to plan.

Have you ever been on a self date? Where did you go and.or what did you do? Tweet me or comment below!

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