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5 Reasons Why I’m Not A Typical PANK

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PANK = Professional Aunt, No Kids.

Yes, it’s a real term I discovered while reading Annie Wermiel’s “The most undervalued women in America are childless aunts“. Since the sweet age of 7, I’ve been living the Auntie life. Fast forward to 21 years later, and I’m helping to plan baby showers and bachelorette parties AT LEAST once a year. As I type this, I’m mentally preparing myself for a gender reveal, 2 baby showers and a bachelorette party…within the next 4 months.

“Today, 48 percent of women of fertile age are childless, up 35 percent from 1976. In a 2012 national joint-study by Savvy Auntie, along with Weber Shandwick and KRC Research, we found 23 million North American childless women — or one in five women age 18 and up — have a special bond with a child in their life, by relation or by choice through friendship.”

-Annie Wermiel

This is the part where I tell you that in August 2017, I’ll have a total of 15+ special kiddos in my life. FIFTEEN. They didn’t live in my womb for 9 months, but they’re mine and I’ll fight you if you try to tell me otherwise. Although I love being #AuntieAce, I’m going to admit that I’m not as professional as a typical PANK.

5 Reasons Why I’m Not A Typical PANK

  1. I don’t change diapers. Clearly, I will if I have to but it’s a lot for my weak stomach to take in. In the article, Wermiel said she’s changed her fair share of diapers. Can’t relate.
  2. I’m not going to offer to babysit on a regular basis. Partially because I’ve lived with most of my nephews longer than I haven’t lived with them. Ace: The In-House Aunt. Give me a few years and I’ll be the “come spend the weekend with me” type of aunt.
  3. My favorite dishes to cook are Take-Out and Delivery. Cooking is not my strong point, but I’m can order food and tip very well.
  4. Newborns have to be a certain size before I hold them. Like bottles of wine, babies are precious cargo and they should be treated as such. Also like wine bottles, I would have a panic attack if I dropped a baby. Yes, I just compared children to wine.
  5. I use words and laughter to spoil kids, not gifts. According to The Savvy Auntie, “The average PANK spends $387 on each child in her life, each year, while 76 percent spend over $500 on each niece or nephew.” Remember when I said I’ll soon have 15+ kids in my life? Auntie Ace balls on a budget.

All that really matters is the kids love me, and their parents trust me. We’ll see how they feel after this post though. Are you a PANK or PUNK Professional Uncle, No Kids (LOL)? What’s your life like with your nieces and nephews?

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Goddess Guidance Oracle Card Reading

Goddess Guidance Oracle Card Reading - The Palmetto Peaches

I was that little girl who used to call psychic hotlines (shoutout to Ms. Cleo) and hang-up hoping my mama wouldn’t see the charges on the phone bill. It’s no secret that I’m a lover of the “magical” things: chakras, healing crystals, and the law of attraction. So my desire to have a card reading doesn’t surprise most people.

In January, I met some pretty dope women artists at Living Color! Other than the artwork and good vibes floating in the, a sweet spirit by the name of Julia “JuJu” Catherine gave me her Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards to give myself a reading. I will admit I was a little nervous to see my cards at first, but felt inspired after they were revealed

Goddess Guidance Oracle Card Reading - The Palmetto Peaches

Photo credit: Paul King

 

What are Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards?

I know the thought of an oracle card reading freak a lot of people out because they assume it will predict their death or downfall. The Goddesss Guidance Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue are a little different, because the goddesses are here to sprinkle magic and improve your lives. The oracle cards are empowering and loving, not negative or judgmental.

“Dedicated to the spirit, power and beauty of the goddess, which exists within every woman, man and child. May the goddess reawaken and bring feminine balancing energy to the world. May our feminine strengths of intuition and nurturing fully reemerge.”

-Doreen Virtue

How to give yourself a reading:

The deck comes with a guidebook, because who wants to screw up an oracle reading? “Not I,” said the cat. Read the guidebook before getting started to help you understand how to do a reading. and how to interpret the cards chosen.

  1. Focus on a question you want the oracle cards to answer.
  2. Then you shuffle them until something in your soul tells you to stop shuffling.
  3. Remove 3 cards from the deck.
  4. Place the first card to the left, the second card in the middle and the third card on the right. The card on the left represents your past; the middle represents your present; and the right represents your future.

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My cards:

Before shuffling my cards, I asked myself something along the lines of, “What am I doing with my life?” It was one of those days. Check out the responses below.

Left card (the past):

Goddess: Sekhmet.

Meaning: Be strong.

“You are stronger than you think you are, and your strength assures a happy outcome.”

I always joke about how my biography, starring Debbie Allen as my mom (duh!), would be great for Oprah to direct. My life hasn’t been an easy one, but I’m still here and that’s all that matters!

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Middle card (the present)

Goddess: Aphrodite

Meaning: Inner goddess

“Awaken the goddess within you through dance, self-care, and appreciating your divinity.”

I just celebrated my 29th B’earth-Day, also known as, #TwentyWineSavage. It’s so funny when people ask me, “How do you feel?” Instead of the “This is the last year of my 20s” freak-out like people expect me to have, I’ve been tapping into my inner goddess by being thankful I’m still alive– all while dancing every chance I get.
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Right card (the future)

Goddess: Sarasvati

Meaning: The Arts

“Express yourself through creative activities.”

The arts have always played a special role in my life. (Hence how I got my hands on these Goddess cards in the first place.) Eventually, I’d like to create my own arts program and/or school. Opportunities to help make my dream a reality are trickling in this year– I just have to get focused enough to execute.
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See, that wasn’t so bad.

Have you ever had an oracle card reading? How was it? Let me know in the comments or tweet me @PalmsInATL. If you’d like to give yourself or your squad an oracle card reading, purchase a deck of Goddess Guidance cards here.

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Never Turn Down: Black History Month Playlist

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February is almost over, but feel free to carry this Black History Month Playlist into Melanin March and every other month in the year. I didn’t pick these songs because they’re about “being black”. Some of the jams celebrate blackness, some remind me of my family, friends, and childhood, while others remind me of the struggle. Instead of explaining why this playlist is so necessary to me, I’ll let Tina Lawson school ya.

“It’s such beauty in black people, and it really saddens me when we’re not allowed to express that pride in being black, and that if you do, then it’s considered anti-white. No! You just pro-black. And that’s okay. The two don’t go together. Because you celebrate black culture does not mean that you don’t like white culture or that you putting it down. It’s just taking pride in it, but what’s irritating is when somebody says, you know, “They’re racist!”, “That’s reverse racism!” or, “They have a Black History Month, but we don’t have a White History Month!”

Well, all we’ve ever been taught is white history. So, why are you mad at that? Why does that make you angry? That is to suppress me and to make me not be proud.”

-Interlude: Tina Taught Me (A Seat at the Table)

Let’s be honest, A Seat at the Table (Solange) and To Pimp A Butterfly (Kendrick Lamar) could’ve made up for half of this playlist, but that was too easy. Let me also point out that Beyoncé’s Lemonade isn’t on Spotify, along with a handful of other songs I wanted to add to this playlist — but I did my best! Enjoy and remember to never turn down!

Warning: I tried to find “clean” versions, but some songs may contain explicit language.

 

Black History Month Playlist

What songs would you add to the Black History Month Playlist? Leave a comment, and maybe I’ll add it!

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Why I Don’t Entertain Anti Beyoncé Debates

The anti Beyoncé thinkpieces and discussions are in full swing these days. Between her pregnancy announcement and the GRAMMYs, people have been trying to get a reaction out of me. Well, here you go!Why I Don't Entertain Anti Beyoncé Debates - The Palmetto Peaches

Why I Don’t Entertain Anti-Beyoncé Debates

The BeyHive is full.

We good. We poppin. If you’ve ever tried to get tickets to a Beyoncé concert, you know exactly what this means.

Your opinion is YOUR opinion.

I’m a recovering Spice Girls and Mariah Carey stan. Needless to say, when it comes to my faves–I’ve had my fair share of hateration in this dancerie. Instead of worrying about why I love someone who doesn’t “know” me, worry about why you dislike someone who doesn’t know you.

“If you don’t understand my record, then you don’t understand me. So this is not for you.” -Master P, For Us By Us Interlude

Thoughts become things.

You do realize that talking about how overrated she is, or how much you don’t like is only bringing her more attention, right? To me, it’s similar to politics. Hence, I said similar, not the same. When you’re an advocate for a cause, bringing light to certain issues is necessary. But Beyoncé isn’t healthcare or minimum wage. Like, wyd? Where is your fave?! Go support them!

Me when people say Beyoncé is overrated, and they’re over the hype.

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I do not “worship” Beyoncé.

Will I faint WHEN we make eye contact? Yes. Do I skip a few meals to buy tickets to her concerts? Yes. Am I keeping index cards with facts on why she’s one of the G.O.A.Ts to prepare for your anti Beyoncé debate? Nah. Some fans are on another level of obsessive when it comes to Queen Bey, but let them live! It’s not hurting me or anyone else, so it’s not my business.

This post goes against what I’m venting about, but I needed a written statement to direct people to in the future. I’ve silently sat through too many anti-Beyoncé debates. Yes, I adore her, but she doesn’t pay my bills. See what I did there? It would be a full-time job entertaining these conversations, and I ain’t got the time.

Are you a full-time anti Beyoncé debater? If so, your comment may not get published–but thank you for reading!

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Mrs. K’s Activated Charcoal Toothpaste Review

This is not a sponsored post. I purchased activated charcoal toothpaste from Mrs. K’s SkinCare, because my teeth don’t like my favorite things, like coffee and wine, as much as I do. Opinions are my own, and there are no affiliate links in this post!

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What is activated charcoal?

Honestly, I don’t know how to explain it, therefore, I went to New World Encyclopedia. Also known as activated carbon, activated charcoal, is a “form of carbon that has been processed to make it extremely porous and thus to have a very large surface area available for adsorption and chemical reactions. It is usually derived from charcoal.” (New World Encyclopedia)

The first time I heard of charcoal being used for anything other than a grill, was last year. My sister bought me my first pair of blending sponges (LOL), and one of the sponges was bamboo charcoal infused. Then there was all the hype/drama over charcoal masks. So when I saw Mrs. K’s activated charcoal toothpaste on Instagram—I figured it was my turn to give it a try.

Activated Charcoal Toothpaste Review - The Palmetto Peaches

Photo: Mrs. K’s SkinCare

The Good

Made with natural ingredients.

Mrs. K’s toothpaste ingredients include: activated charcoal, sodium bicarbonate, bentonite clay, virgin coconut oil, essential oil, ginger and sea salt. I’m trying to use more natural products. Her natural deodorant is next on my shopping list.

Leaves my mouth feeling refreshed.

Since the activated charcoal removes toxins from the mouth, my mouth feels insanely clean after brushing. Cleaner than it did with “regular” toothpaste.

Teeth whitening remedy.

Last year I tried one of those laser teeth whitening things, and hated it too much to notice any results. I’ve only been using this toothpaste for about 2 weeks, so I won’t share any pictures just yet. But my teeth are whiter and brighter y’all, and it ain’t just from the iPhone 7 camera.

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Can be used for multiple purposes.

Other than working to get you a healthy mouth, activated charcoal can also be used for food poisoning or digestive problems. I may or may not have tested this theory on a hangover.

Cost effective.

A little bit of this toothpaste goes a long way. I bought the 4oz jar or $10. It’s more expensive than (some) what drugstores carry, but I won’t have to buy any toothpaste for a few months.

Bonus: My order came with a sample of Mrs. K’s lemongrass and sage bar soap. Y’all know I love some sage. The handmade bar, called Maya, makes me want to bite it whenever I use it. LOOK AT IT!
Activated Charcoal Toothpaste Review - The Palmetto Peaches

Photo: Mrs. K.s SkinCare

The Bad

The taste.

The saltiness and gritty texture is different from what I’m used to. It was weird at first, but doesn’t bother me now. Honestly, what did I expect from charcoal?

The Ugly

The mess.

I’ve been brushing my teeth for 29 years, and I still drool all over myself and sink. The activated charcoal toothpaste hasn’t left any major stains, yet, but use something for a cover-up to be safe. I would show ya’ll what the toothpaste looks like on my teeth, but I’m so embarrassed. My selfie skills are bad enough. Imagine what they looked like with black paste in my mouth.

Have you tried activated charcoal toothpaste, or anything with activated charcoal? Let me know what you thought about it in the comments! Visit Mrs. K’s SkinCare if you’d like to try her handmade, natural products!

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Black Girl Magic: Exploring My Healing Powers

I was about 8-years-old when I discovered healing powers. One night I was having excruciating stomach pain. My mama grabbed her blessing oil, and wiped it onto my forehead in what felt to be shaped like a cross. Minutes later, the pain was gone. That wasn’t the last time I needed that same oil for pain.

Exploring My Healing Powers -- The Palmetto Peaches

Fast forward to 12 years later. After burning incense purchased from a store, which I’ll leave nameless, I had weird dreams and nightmares. While visiting a similar store, Natural Vibrations, I told the cashier about my creepy experience. She said:

“You’re not the first person to tell me this. I have something to cleanse your room, but don’t bring stuff from them into your space again.”

Sure enough, the dreams went away that night. Although I come from a predominantly Christian family, I’ve never considered myself a religious person. Gospel music is my jam, the scriptures are inspiring, and I even slide into church from time to time (aka whenever I visit my aunt). However, I became the girl who only prayed when she “needed” something, and as I got older it became clear that I was entering the I’m spiritual, not religious life.

Why I’m Exploring My Healing Powers

It’s been on my to-do list for a year.

One of my 2016 goals was to learn more about chakras. Along the way, I reconnected with things like crystals/minerals and sage wands. Check out my awesome raw rose quartz and chunky pyrite from The Hoodwitch.   Exploring My Healing Powers -- The Palmetto Peaches

I’ve always believed in magic.

As a little girl, I would wish on the brightest stars for all kinds of things, including to wake up with magic like Sabrina the Teenage Witch. In my “adult” years, I’ve discovered things like the Law of Attraction and meditation. Those methods are more centered around self-awareness rather than glitter and wands, but they’re still magical.

Genetics.

While my aunts and mom were the “pray on it” type, they were also the clairvoyant + third eye on fleek type. I can bet money that there’s something in our blood. There are several stories I can tell that might give you goosebumps– like how my aunt saw the 1977 Tenerife airport disaster (deadliest plane crash in history) before it happened. Or how I sensed my nephew’s surgery the night before he was rushed to the hospital.

I’m not casting any spells or reading palms (yet), but I’m definitely tapping more into my spirituality. Have you explored your healing powers? What has worked for you?

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