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7 Questions People With Unique Names Hate Answering

Unique names are bittersweet. While being the only *insert name here* on Facebook is great, the headache that comes along with it isn’t. Folks with unique names have no choice but to be great: Beyoncé, LeBron, Oprah, Acecily, Donnica — to name a few. We have to be great to forget all the stress and annoying questions we get in our daily lives.

7 Questions People with Unique Names Hate Answering - The Palmetto Peaches

On top of never finding a souvenir, and giving a fake name to the Starbucks barista, there are several questions we are tired of answering.

7 Questions People With Unique Names Hate Answering

  1. “Did your mama really give you that name?”

    In my head I usually respond with, “Did your mama teach you to mind your business?” OLC people try to avoid calling me Ace because it’s a “man’s name”. K…7 Questions People with Unique Names Hate Answering - The Palmetto Peaches

  2. “Does it mean something, or did your parents make it up?”

    This one isn’t too bad. I appreciate genuine concern about my life, but just know that sometimes folks with unique names get this question A LOT. If I’m being introduced to new people at an event or bar, I answer hear question at least 5 times. Depending on my mood, the response changes.

  3. “Are you from here?”

    Because Americans can’t have names originated in other countries, I guess.7 Questions People With Unique Names Hate Answering - The Palmetto Peaches

  4. “Can I call you something else? I can’t say that.”

    Can you not?

  5. “Why is it spelled that way?”

    The same reason you’re so nosy. That’s an awful comeback, but whatever.

  6. “Can you break it down into phonics for me?”

    Okay, so no one has ever asked me that, technically. It really just reminds me of having to write the phonetic spelling of my name during my college graduation. Long story short, the announcer BUTCHERED it.

  7. “Is it hard for you to find souvenirs?”

    The fact that someone has to ask that should basically answer the question. Yes, it is hard. In fact, I’ve NEVER seen a keychain, t-shirt or Coke can with my the same name on birth certificate.

Do you have a unique name? What questions are you tired of answering?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

Awkward Questions to Ban from Your Dinner Table

My high school global studies teacher always told us:

There are three things you don’t discuss at the dinner table: money, religion and politics.

His words have been my life mantra ever since. I never minded telling folks, “sorry, I don’t discuss politics” in bars or parties. Like, can we talk about this when alcohol isn’t involved?

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Maybe I’m extra careful because I’ve lived a very far from traditional life. Disclaimer: Close friends and family members, who actually care about you and aren’t trying to control your life, may ask you the questions below. I’m referring to the nosy Sherlock Holmes’s who want to push their beliefs on you. Harsh? #IAintSorry 

Awkward Questions to Ban from Your Dinner Table

“What do your parents do for a living?”

I used to respond with, “I don’t have parents,” but that made things even more awkward. You know the movies where a poor person and rich person fall in love, and the rich family disapproves? That’s what this question reminds me of. It also reminds me of all the people who don’t have positive relationships with their whose parents, or the ones living without parents.

“When are you going to start having kids?” Followed by, “Why?” or “Why not?”

Please mind your own uterus friends. Aside from having the right to decide to not have kids, some people deal with infertility, miscarriages and other life changing issues.

“Did you gain weight?”

Actually, I avoid anything weight related. Unless I know the person was working towards a specific goal. Even “Did you lose weight?” is an awkward question for some. Stress, depression and sickness all effect weight. The last thing you need to do is bring it up for discussion around others.

“When are you going to get a ring on that finger?” Also see, “When are you going to put a ring on that finger?”

Let single folks be single in peace. What if you’re ruining a surprise proposal, or pressuring this person to settle for an idiot?

“Who did you vote for?”

This may also be disguised with, “How do you feel about the Presidential Election?” No. Nope. Nah. It’s a setup. A setup to sabotage dinner and/or friendships.

Moral of the story: ask yourself if this question is appropriate for a group setting before asking anything. Spark a conversation, but don’t set the damn room on fire. K? K!

What cringeworthy life questions have you been asked? If you don’t mind reliving it, comment below!

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

How to Survive Mercury Retrograde

What is Mercury Retrograde? Kathy Biehl and OM Times are going to help me explain this one.

“First, the technicalities: Mercury is retrograde when it’s traveling backwards. That’s an optical illusion, of course, and happens when the planet’s orbital speed changes in comparison to the earth’s. It’s the planetary equivalent of speeding up on a highway, passing a car and seeing it fall far behind after you in the rear-view mirror.

How this works: When Mercury is moving in reverse, the areas of life it governs do not play by the usual rules. Anything related to communication and travel requires extra attention. This includes phones, computers and electronic devices, the mail (remember that?), cars, public transportation and commutes.”

From December 19th, 2016 to January 8th, 2017 Mercury will be in retrograde in earth-sign Capricorn. Shout out to my fellow G.O.A.T.S! To some of you that means absolutely nothing, while some of you maybe seeking shelter in your adult fort.

How to Survive Mercury Retrograde -- The Palmetto Peaches

Maybe it’s all in our minds, but here’s what I’m doing to get through the weird communication and technology struggle this year.

How to Survive Mercury Retrograde

Take responsibility.

Please don’t play yourself by blaming your bad decision making on Mercury Retrograde. You did not spend your rent money on a new wardrobe because the planets and stars are out for a twirl. Keep in mind that although this phase lasts a few weeks–the decisions you make could last forever. FOR-EH-VAH.

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Change your perspective.

Mercury Retrograde is a great time to reflect. If you’re going to be stuck in your feelings for a while, you might as well try to make sense of it. A few months ago, I lost precious sleep over this thing called life. There’s an actual note in my iPhone which reads, “What am I doing?” Instead of thinking the universe is against me, I try to switch my attitude. Lately I’ve been saying yaaas to things I normally let anxiety control, and nah to things that didn’t sit well with me.

Write down your feelings and thoughts. 

Writing works for some, but maybe you’re the thinking out loud type. In that case, sitting down for a face-to-face conversation or a phone call might be your thang. If you have tendencies to overreact or overthink, putting it on paper is a good first step to clear your head. My journal has stopped me from saying PLENTY of stupid things. Trust me.

Don’t make any super serious life decisions.

…with lots of emphasis on “super serious”. This is where I went wrong in the past. For years I thought my birth day was jinxed. Now I blame Mercury, and 2016 was the first time I made the connection. Last year’s party was “a time” for lack of better words. I’m still too salty to share those series of unfortunate events publicly. Just believe me when I say that although I’ve had A LOT of great celebrations in my life–there are 28 years of awkward, sketchy and sad birthday stories to be told.

 

The world isn’t coming to an end (at least for now), but life maybe a little crazy during these times. Just grab your sage wand, meditation playlist and good vibes. You got this!

Have you ever felt the force of Mercury Retrograde? How did you survive?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

Jingle Bell Jams: Christmas Playlist

It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Well, it is to some people. If you need a little help getting into the Christmas spirit, here are some tunes to set the mood. These Jingle Bell Jams are great for last minute holiday gift shopping, your festive holiday party and of course, Christmas Day!

Jingle Bell Jams: Christmas Playlist

Jingle Bell Jams

  1. Gee Whiz, It’s Christmas – Carla Thomas
  2. Sleigh Ride – Tamar Braxton
  3. I Listen to the Bells – Luther Vandross
  4. All I Want for Christmas Is You – Mariah Carey
  5. Santa Claus Is Comin’ to Town – Mariah Carey
  6. 8 Days of Christmas – Destiny’s Child
  7. This Christmas – Donny Hathaway
  8. A “DC” Christmas Medley
  9. Jingle Bells – Patti LaBelle
  10. Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas – Judy Garland
  11. I Want to Come Home for Christmas – Marvin Gaye
  12. Frosty the Snowman – The Jackson 5
  13. One Little Christmas Tree – Stevie Wonder
  14. Little Drummer Boy – Four Tops
  15. Santa Baby – The Pussycat Dolls
  16. Ave Maria – Stevie Wonder
  17. Give Love on Christmas Day – The Temptations
  18. Joy to the World – Whitney Houston
  19. The Christmas Song – Anthony Hamilton
  20. Winter Wonderland – Andra Day
  21. Sleigh Ride – TLC
  22. I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus – Jessica Simpson
  23. Mistletoe – Colbie Caillat
  24. Carol of the Bells – Destiny’s Child
  25. O Come, All Ye Faithful – Pentatonix
  26. Blue Christmas – The Lumineers
  27. Last Christmas – Ariana Grande
  28. Feliz Navidad – José Feliciano
  29. Silent Night – Boyz II Men
  30. Run Run Rudolph – Straight No Chaser

What are your favorite Christmas or holiday songs? Did they make my list? Comment below or tweet me @PalmsInATL!

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Social Media Christmas Wishes

Writing a list of social media Christmas wishes is one way I’m attempting to get in the holiday spirit. Nothing reminds me of Christmas like writing a list of things I’ll probably never get.

My Social Media Christmas Wishes - The Palmetto Peaches

Dear Santa,

I’ve been a little petty this year, but sending you a Christmas list is worth a shot. The way 2016 went, asking for World Peace is unrealistic. I still have a little faith, just not in 2016. *insert awkward laughter here*  Instead, I have a list of social media Christmas wishes that you can hopefully grant for me this year. Santa, I’m asking for these things not only as a social media manager, but as an innocent bystander.

Social Media Christmas Wishes

I want…

  1. People to stop sharing fake news from unreliable sources.
  2. On that note, I also want media outlets to stop sharing news before fact checking.
  3. To be able to turn on off Facebook Live notifications.
  4. Auto correct for “your” / “you’re”, “to” / “too” and “breath” / “breathe”. I’ve seen too many great rants get ruined by grammar mistakes.
  5. Facebook to allow media outlets to disable comments.
  6. Couples to not share Facebook personal pages.
  7. Social media users to not leave ignorant comments under posts.
  8. Businesses to stop using “friend pages”.
  9. To not get tagged in posts or pictures that don’t have anything to do with me.
  10. The pyramid and “get rich quick” schemes to end.
  11. People to not type statuses in all caps. I feel like I’m being yelled at, and I don’t need that negativity in my life.
  12. Last but not least, I want for everyone to unplug a little, and not mindlessly scroll their timelines while missing out on quality time with loved ones.

Thanks Santa! You da best.

Do you have any social media related Christmas wishes on your list? What are they?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

Get Lit With These Holiday Cocktails

Holiday cocktails can be used for 2 things: bringing strangers together and avoiding nosy loved ones. Christmas trees can get lit, and so can we! If you’re hosting a holiday party or just looking for a way to unwind after shopping, try these holiday cocktails.

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Get Lit With These Holiday Cocktails

It was hard, but I ONLY chose 19 cocktails for you to enjoy this holiday season. Note: 2 of those recipes are mocktails for anyone who doesn’t drink alcohol. Disclaimer: Pinterest widgets aren’t always my friend, so if you can’t see the board in this post, click here!

The white sangria I made for Thanksgiving was amazing. I soaked some cranberries in rum, that I thought would last until Christmas, but I’ve been adding them into my hot chamomile tea instead. Whoops. For Christmas, I think I’ll make a non-alcoholic version of The Grinch Hot Chocolate for my nephews, and the “everything else on the list” for myself. 🙂

What’s on the list?

Holiday Moscow Mule – Hot Beauty Health
Vanilla Cranberry Mimosa – Honey and Birch
Cucumber-Mint Gin and Tonic – Martha Stewart
White Peach Sangria – Vegan Family Recipes
Blackberry Ombré Sparkler – FoodBlogs
Holiday Punch – The Cookie Rookie
Christmas Cookie Jello Shots – Ann’s Entitled Life
Frozen Chocolate Brandy Alexander – Diethood
Grinch Hot Chocolate – Cooking with Curls
Honey Winter Bourbon Cocktail – One Broads Journey
Pomegranate Citrus Champagne Cocktail – Delightful E Made
The Blizzard – The Speckled Palate
Cranberry Orange Margaritas – Half Baked Harvest
Jingle Juice Holiday Mocktail – NoBiggie
Pomegranate and Rosemary Gin Fizz – Creative Culinary
Jolly Pop Lemon Drops – Life as a Strawberry
Spiced Bourbon Eggnog – Rhubarbarians
Sparkling Raspberry Peal Mocktail – Sprinkle Some Fun
Candy Cane Vodka – The Speckled Palate

The 5 Holiday Cocktails I can’t wait to try

Spiced Bourbon Eggnog
Honey Winter Bourbon Cocktail
Vanilla and Cranberry Mimosa
Pomegranate and Rosemary Gin Fizz
Cucumber Lime and Mint Gin Tonic

(Please remember to drink responsibly! Keep the holiday season a great time for yourself, friends and family.)

What are you sipping on this holiday season? Have you made any of the holiday cocktails on my list? Comment below or tweet me @PalmsInATL.

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches