Donni’s Dash of Sparkle

“Leave a little sparkle where ever you go.”
These posts are sprinkled with Donni’s dashes of sparkle on a variety of topics included but not limited to beauty, food, and yes – sports.

Frinder: Tinder For Friends

Blame it on Sex and the City, Girlfriends, and the Babysitters Club (the brain, the brain, the center of the chain), but having a strong group of girlfriends is one of those things many women find important. I know I certainly do. And to that end, girlfriends can be difficult to find/keep. I’m not a guy but I’m pretty sure Boy Meets World, The Best Man and Californication prove the same rings true for them as well.

If you ask me right now, I could name all of my best girlfriends from elementary school all the way up to my move to Tallahassee to pursue my graduate degree. When I moved to Atlanta in March 2013, I found myself without girlfriends for the first time. I mean my nearest and dearest were only one Skype session or text message away. However, it was strange not having someone less than five minutes away that I could just show up on their front steps with a bottle of wine and snacks and be completely welcome.

When I moved to Atlanta I was dating someone, but that relationship had been on the decline and I knew it wasn’t going to last much longer. I wasn’t very close to any of the girls I met through him, so it was clear I was not getting any of them in the terms of the break-up. So now what?

In middle/high school, it was easy for me to make friends. Although, I live in a different city, I’m still really close with most of my high school friends. In college, you can find like-minded people in fraternities, sororities, clubs and intramural sports and even at a tailgate. Some of my high school friends attended the same college as me, so I came into freshman year with built-in friends. I ended up becoming super close with girls on my hall and as I joined organizations such as Alpha Phi Omega, I was blessed with some friendships that I hope last forever.

After college, some people are lucky and find a few friends at work. Especially, if you’re all coming in as entry-level employees straight out of college, you quickly bond. That wasn’t an option for me. I am the youngest person in my office and am a part of a really small team. While, it was easy to talk about an episode of Scandal with my coworkers, I knew we wouldn’t be heading out to Buckhead for drink and dancing on Friday night.

I realized that there are countless number of online sites and apps that make it easy to find someone to date. But for a girl looking for a shopping and Starbucks partner or a guy looking for a bromance – the options are limited. Why isn’t there a Tinder for friends? To my surprise there is. The app is called Wiith, but it just launched in May and basically only has people from San Francisco- not really helpful. And the more I think about it, the concept is a little creepy: Oh she looks cute and she says she likes to flat-iron other people’s’ hair – swipe right; Oh she prefers Dunkin’ over Krispy Kreme, swipe left!  OK – so now that we’ve crossed Frinder off the list what is there. Below I breaking down some of the top suggestions I found when I was trying to figure out how to make friends after college and how they did and didn’t work for me.

1. Meetup.com

I tried Meetup, which in theory, isn’t a bad idea. The site is an opportunity for you to search for a group of like-minded people by interests. Gamer? There’s a meetup for that. Salsa dancer? There’s a meetup for that. Do you like to eat desserts after hiking? There’s a meetup for that. Well possibly…you may have to create that one, but I’d totally join.

The first few groups I tried were a definite miss. I realized old guys just showed up trying to drop a roofie in your cup hit on younger ladies or to find a “companion”.  An extremely creepy fellow with a weird odor walked up to me while I was at an event and whispered in my ear, “Chocolate has always been my favorite flavor.”

After I choose better Meetup groups I did find some really cool people. Unfortunately, and not to sound like a mean girl, I ended up befriending a really crazy girl. She seemed really cool at the beginning and then showed her true colors – like ending a friendship over a pair of moccasins. Yes, that’s right I said a pair of moccasins.  Also, she almost ruined my first Beyoncé concert, but that’s a blog post for another day. For now, this is what I have to say:

With that being said, I definitely think Meetup has the potential to be a very good way to make friends. I just didn’t have the best of luck.

2. Networking Events

I went to networking events and tried to mingle and meet some cool ladies.  This was a so-so method for me.  People at networking events are trying to make connections that they can leverage in the future for business or personal advancement.  So while I met some really cool ladies, they weren’t necessarily looking for a girlfriend for happy hour.  Also, I was younger and still in the entry-level phase of my career – in their mind there was not a whole lot I could do for them. I did try a few 20-something or young professionals groups that were interesting, but again people there were business card pushers and not looking for friends.

3. Take a Class

The failure of this idea is mine alone. The only classes I tried were dance classes. There’s not a lot of time in between combinations and choreography to bond with a girl and gather her interest in grabbing coffee. However, I think that a class or volunteering gives you a great opportunity to connect with someone you know shares at least one of your interests. If I had a time machine and could travel back to March 2013, I’d make myself take a wide variety of classes and push myself to meet new people.

4. Just say hello. 

A lot of people told me that I should just go out and say hello to people. Striking up a conversation with a random person isn’t hard for me, but translating that random conversation or compliment into a friendship is where I had difficulty. Another thing I noticed (and I am guilty of this as well), is that people are usually wired to something. Sure it would be easy to chat up someone at Starbucks, but they usually have in headphones. Ace is a MARTA queen, and I’m sure she could tell you that most of the MARTA patrons are on some sort of device only disengaging from it to make sure they haven’t missed their stop. In general, we don’t connect to people as much as we did in the past. While we’re casually scrolling through Instagram, we could be missing an opportunity to meet someone new.

I’ve been lucky to have some of my favorite humans move to Atlanta and to have met some new ladies here. However, I still need to make a better effort to put myself out there. I can admit that I slacked off the pursuit of girlfriends once I seriously started dating my boyfriend. All in all, making friends is hard, but in the end it’s worth it. Pinterest attributes it to Carrie, but it was Charlotte who said:

“Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.”

Friendship in itself is rewarding, but I think there’s something special about having close girlfriends. Through laughter and tears, good times and bad, good girlfriends can get us through it all.

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Do you have any tips for making friends after college? What advice would you give to someone starting out in a new city? Comment below or tweet me @donnicakelsey.

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Meal Prep 101

 

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Let me start by saying I’m still fairly new to meal prepping. I’m not a fitness nut, by any means, but I made a goal to make healthier food choices this year. Through meal prep, I’ve kept myself from running to Burger King or whichever fast food joint has the shortest line. Don’t get me wrong, I do quite enjoy grabbing a burger with a Frosty to dip my fries in, but the benefits of meal prep are keeping me consistent. By taking a few hours out on Sunday or Monday:

  • I’ve been drinking more water and my skin thanks me for it.
  • I’ve lost about 11 pounds. This is just with making changes in my eating habits. My goal is get back on a workout plan, but I’m trying to conquer one thing at a time.
  • I don’t find myself scrabbling to put together lunch in the morning causing me to run late (or later) than usual.
  • I’ve actually cut my grocery bill significantly by planning out my meals in advance.

Most people meal prep breakfast, lunch and dinner, but remember there is no right or wrong way to meal prep. For example, I haven’t added breakfast to my prep routine quite yet and sometimes I meal prep for lunch on Sundays and dinner or Mondays depending on my schedule. Figure out what works for you. You may even want to start out by prepping for 3 – 4 days, and allowing one day for you to go out and grab lunch with a friend.

How to Get Started

Decide on your meals for the week before you hit the grocery store so that you know exactly what you need. Personally, I’m a huge comparison shopper, so my meal prep is highly dependent on what’s on sale or what I have stocked up.  I’ll scan the local ads for who has the best deals and get my list together from there. Here are some options for you: I try to go with 1 carb + 1 protein + 1 or 2 veggies. Pinterest is always a great resource if you need help deciding what to make. (Beware of the hardcore: broccoli, sweet potatoes, chicken breast) While the combo is delicious, Eating that for an entire week could dissuade your tastbuds from continuing with meal prep.

  • Carbs: Quinoa, Brown Rice, Sweet Potato, Lentils, Whole Wheat Pasta
  • Protein: Chicken (breasts – skinless, boneless or chicken thighs also ok),  Ground Turkey (93% lean or higher),  Lean Beef (85% lean or higher), Fish (Salmon, Tilapia, Tuna) Shrimp, Eggs Beans
  • Veggies: Broccoli, Green Beans, Cauliflower, Snap Peas, Kale, Spinach

You’ll also need some meal prep containers. I use a set that I found in Sam’s Club, but am going to in vest in some Pyrex or other glass option. However, many people use the ones linked here and here. Once you’ve decided on your meals for the week and have bought all the necessary ingredients, it’s time to cook.

The Prep

A great time saver is roasting/baking one part of your dish while cooking the rest on the stove top. I’m also a bag fan of the crock pot.

Remember, I’m writing about what’s worked for me, so adapt to fit your lifestyle.

I usually start with the meat. Whether I’m baking, grilling, or throwing it in the crock pot, it’s usually a good starting place. I love experimenting with flavors and try to incorporate as much variety as I can so that I don’t get bored of eating the same thing each day. For example, for chicken breasts, I’ll marinate them differently or use two different combinations of spices.  You may even want to alternate your proteins.

If I make brown rice or a carb that needs to be boiled, I usually make that step two. Next are my veggies. After cleaning and cutting, I either throw them on the stove or prepare to roast them in the oven once the meat is out. I’m also a big fan of frozen veggies, I try to keep a few staples on-hand (broccoli, cauliflower, kale).

This week’s meal prep

Lunch Meal Prep - The Palmetto PeachesFor lunch I made orange ginger chicken in the crock pot and paired it with brown  rice, roasted red potatoes and green beans. I used the three large boneless, skinless chicken breasts in my freezer. I added in 1 cup of orange juice, a tablespoon of coconut oil, red pepper flakes, pepper, 1.5 TB of honey into the crock pot on high for 2.5 hours. When there were about 20-25 minutes left, I added a little cornstarch mixed in chicken broth to thicken the sauce.

I cubed the potatoes (2 large) and sprinkled them with extra virgin olive oil, pepper, and a little sea salt. Roast them at 425° for about 30 min. This meal could easily be made for dinner, smaller portions make it appropriate for lunch.

My Favorite Lunch Options
  • Turkey Burgers or Salmon Burgers with Sweet Potato Fries
  • Baked Tilapia, Mashed Cauliflower, & Broccoli
  • Burrito Bowls (Cilantro lime rice, grilled chicken, black beans, cheese and avocado)
  • Turkey Wraps with Avocado, Red Pepper Hummus and Spinach

 

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I was watching a Paper and Glam vlog where Lisamarie made a delicious salad that looked so good, I ran to buy all the ingredients. I’ve altered/ simplified it a bit,  but it’s been in constant rotation ever since watching the video.

For this, you’ll need garlic, jalapeno peppers, rotisserie chicken (I usually get one from Sam’s Club for about $3.99 and you can use it for lunch and dinner), and I prefer the Sweet & Crunchy Fresh Express Blend (Lisamarie used the Trader Joe’s Cruciferous Crunch).

Toss the peppers (4 medium sized) and garlic (1 clove) in to a food processor and make sure everything is finely chopped. If you’re not a big fan of too much heat make sure you don’t include the jalapeno peppers’ seeds.  I add a spoonful or two (a little goes a long way) of this mixture with my salad along with some rotisserie chicken, and top with Kraft Asian Toasted Sesame salad dressing and yum yum yum. I get an easy dinner salad for the week.

Go to dinner meal prep ideas:1) zucchini or butternut squash noodles and meatballs; 2) coconut curry chicken – chicken breast, coconut oil, onions, red bell pepper, yellow and orange peppers, curry powder, garlic powder, ground ginger; 3) baked salmon with lemon pepper, red potatoes and baked asparagus.

Snacks

I like to hard boil a few eggs for the week, to eat as a snack. I sprinkle one with a little pepper or mash it up and add avocado for a protein packed snack. Other great healthy snack options include: yogurt, cheese, veggies + hummus, and I’m obsessed with NatureBox. If you’d like to try Naturebox out I have three free 1- month subscriptions to giveaway. Please note you will have have to pay $2 shipping, but it’s sooo worth the yummy healthy snacks. Just comment below or send me a tweet and I’ll get back to you.

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Follow me on Instagram to keep up with my meal prep.  I’d also love to hear your meal prep tips and tricks. Feel free to leave them or any questions you have in the comments below! And again, if you’re interested in trying out Naturebox, let me know and I can gift you a free 1 month trial.

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Summer Essentials

Summer is definitely my favorite season. Despite the almost unbearable heat – summer brings pool parties, cookouts, fireworks, and my birthday!! We’re about 10 days into summer and I wanted to bring you some of my summer essentials.

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Summer Essentials

1. Floppy Hat – I’m all about protecting my face from the sun and looking cute while doing it. Go simple or monogram it, but get yourself a floppy hat.

2. Sunscreen – After my first Bonnaroo, I learned that even my melanin rich skin could be burnt. I started to peel and I thought I was dying. So now summer days are not complete without sunscreen. Most days, I’ll mix a little drop of Neutrogena Age Shield Face Lotion Sunscreen Broad Spectrum SPF 110 with my primer. Coola Mineral Face SPF 30 Sunscreen Matte Tint is also a really good choice. My daily foundation, COVERGIRL Queen Collection All Day Flawless, has an SPF of 20, so I don’t feel too bad if I skip this step.  As far as the pool, Neutrogena Wet Skin Sunblock Spray, SPF 85+ is my go-to sunscreen.  Don’t forget to reapply.

3. Blotting Sheets — I don’t know about you, but in the summer no matter how excellent my mattifying primer is I get a little oily. So I always keep some Clean & Clear Oil-Absorbing sheets in my bag. 

4. Dry Shampoo – Not Your Mother’s Clean Freak Refreshing Dry Shampoo is a great hair pick me up during the summer. 

5. Denim Cutoffs –  Five days out of the week, I’m relegated to pencil skirts and cardigans. Because of this I basically live in denim shorts on the weekends during summer. Find yourself one or two pair you love and pair with sandals or sneakers and a tee for relaxed look.

6. Fun Pool Float – Whether you’re at the pool at your apartment complex or floating a river in your city you could probably benefit from a cool float. Look at this awesome doughnut float  and this amazing pizza float.

7. Bathing Suits and Sunglasses – Every summer I tell myself that I don’t need a new bathing suit and inevitably I find myself pursuing the racks for some pieces I can mix and match with. I’m finally jumping on the American trend this summer and found some cute stars and stripes bikinis at Target. Ruffle bandeau tops are my go to and I found some nice ones at H&M. As far as sunglasses, I lose/break at least 3 pair every summer, so it doesn’t make a lot of sense for me to drop $200 on some Ray-bans. I stick to selections at Target or hit up Marshall’s and TJ Maxx for my sunnies. This summer I’m loving mirrored aviators and wayfarers.

8. Treats – Frozen watermelon pops (add coconut rum if you’re 21+) are the perfect summer treat. Simply cut a watermelon into triangle slices, add a wooden popsicle stick and let them sit in the freezer for at least four hours. White Sangria – I don’t think I really need to explain. Sipping white sangria poolside is heaven on earth. This recipe over DamnDelicious.net is so yummy.

Mix these with good music and good weather and you’ve got a perfect summer day. What are your summer essentials? Leave a comment below or tweet me @donnicakelsey.

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OITNB is Back.

Beg, borrow, or steal (well maybe not steal), a Netflix password because Orange Is The New Black is back. Released early last night, there are now 13 new episodes for us to enjoy. Now I know my last post was TV-related, but I’ve had this date marked on my Google calendar and in my planner since it was first announced. Below are ten reasons why you should binge-watch tune in to the new season of OINTB.

First, in case you’ve been sleeping under a rock or prison just isn’t your thing (actual excuse I’ve heard for not watching).  OINTB is the story of Piper Chapman, a woman who is sentenced to 15 months in prison after being convicted of a decade-old crime of transporting money for her drug-dealing girlfriend.  The series chronicles the lives of Piper and her fellow inmates at the Litchfield Penitentiary.

  1. First of all look at this cover! Laverne Cox, Samira Wiley, Danielle Brooks, Vicki Jeudy, Adrienne C. Moore and Uzo Adubo are SLAYING on the July 2015 cover of Essence magazine!!Orange Is The New Black - The Palmetto PeachesOrange Is the New Black - The Palmetto Peaches
  2. This season, we’ll get to watch Daya and prison guard Bennett figure out what to do as her pregnancy comes to an end. Don’t forget, “Pornstache”, who she framed as the father of her baby, was arrested. Even though Pornstache is locked up (and on a new HBO show), I’ve read that his mother will be making an appearance this season. She may try to claim the baby once it’s born / until Daya finishes her sentence. Will Bennett man up and confess (technically, confess again)or will Pornstache’s mom get the baby?
  3. Speaking of Officer Bennett. I recently fell in love with Matt McGorry. Yes, he’s cute. Yes, I love him in How to Get Away With Murder, but this Hollywood cutie takes some awesome stands on social justice issues. If you follow him at all on social media you know what I’m talking about. If you don’t. Shame one you. Back in March, Matt took to Facebook to say: “I’m embarrassed to admit that I only recently discovered the ACTUAL definition of ‘feminism. I believe in gender equality. Being a feminist is for both women AND men. I AM A FEMINIST.” Then on Equal Pay Day he drafted a great response to the wage gap:

    We need to create a society where girls and women are getting the same encouragement and support to build their careers as the boys and men are. From the start.

    That’s just my #78cents.

    *SWOON* and then to top it off, this happened:

  4. Mmk, not impressed by Matt. How about all of the other cast members making some amazing comments in media interviews. My favorite may be from Uzo Aduba.
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  5. The show has already been renewed for season four. Yes, that’s right, before it was made available. Also, a half dozen Marriott hotels have added Netflix to guest rooms just in time for OITNB premiere. The hype is real, people.
  6. Is Vee really dead? I saw her get hit by Rosa’s getaway van, but I’m almost 100% positive I saw her in a trailer. Maybe it was just a flashback?
  7.  Alex is back! And it was ol’ shady ass Piper who got her there. I’m just excited to see Lauren Prepon, but also curious about how her character will respond to Piper’s whistle-blowing.
  8. There’s a new girl coming to Litchfield – Stella. Oh hey girl hey!!!
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  9. Larry is nowhere to be found. Jason Biggs is not on the list of actors I loathe (Morgan Freeman, Nicholas Cage, Samuel L. Jackson), but I could not stand his character Larry. Thankfully, Larry and Polly have run off to have a happily ever after with Polly’s baby. Bye, Felecia!
  10. Taystee and Poussey. They are by far my favorite duo on the show. I could share a bunch of clips below, but it would be too hard to choose my favorites. Just know they are awesome!
 Do you plan to binge watch the season? Have you already started? Let me know your spoilerless thoughts in a comment below or tweet me @donnicakelsey.

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Dance, Dance

Happy Friday, Palmettos and Peaches fam! While you’re munching on your free doughnut in honor of National Doughnut Day, I thought I’d share some art with you.  One of my favorite dance quotes is:

To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. This is power, it is glory on earth and it is yours for the taking.Agnes de Mille

I may not always dance, but I’ll always be a dancer. On Monday, the premiere episode of So You Think You Can Dance’s 12th season aired.  For a decade, the routines on SYTYCD have made me laugh and cry and just feel. A lot of people say they don’t “get art”. I would say that dance is one of the art forms that can make you feel things – even if you don’t have a connection to dance itself. I love SYTYCD because you don’t have to be a dancer to respond emotionally to the amazing choreography that is showcased week after week. I know plenty of people who have never stepped foot into a dance studio (unless to perhaps, drop a little sister), who enjoy watching the show.

I’ve picked 12 of my favorite routines (plus a bonus because it was hard even editing this list down to 12), for you to take a look at.

So what did you think? Did a few of the dances make you smile? Dance? Cry? You can catch So You Think You Can Dance, Monday’s on FOX.

Any readers out there SYTYCD fans? What are some of your favorite dances from past seasons? Leave a comment or tweet me at @donnicakelsey.

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Summertime Flavor: Cookout Playlist

Summertime Flavor: Cookout Playlist - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comOfficially, Memorial Day is the federal holiday in which we remember the people who have died while serving in the country’s armed forces. Unofficially, it typically marks the start of the summer vacation season and the day of the cookout. Today your social media timelines will be full of people asking to “save them a plate”.

In honor of cookout season, I’ve put together a summertime flavor or cookout playlist, if you will.  Now there are a lot of super throwback songs on this because when I first started curating the playlist, I thought off all the songs an uncle (in a white tee and leather sandals) would jam to as he’s making his famous barbecue (Frankie Beverly and Maze, Earth, Wind and Fire), but then there’s some classic rap songs (hello, Summertime by the Fresh Prince) that have to be included. And then personally, I love to dance, so I had to throw in a few dance jams.

I hope you all enjoy your day off and enjoy the flavor of the playlist. There are a few songs that Spotify didn’t have that are linked below.

Summertime Flavor: Cookout Playlist

  1. Lil Wayne – Mrs. Officer
  2. The Notorious B.I.G. – Going Back to Cali (Viceroy “Jet Life” Remix)
  3. Jennifer Lopez feat Fabolous – Get Right
  4. DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince – Summertime
  5. Maze Featuring Frankie Beverly – Before I Let Go
  6. Tupac Ft. Shock G & Money B – I Get Around
  7. Kanye West Ft. T-Pain – Good Life
  8. Nelly – Hot In Herre
  9. Carl Carlton – She’s a Bad Mama Jama
  10. UGK – Int’l Players Anthem (I Choose You)
  11. Cameo – Candy
  12. Brick – Ain’t Gonna Hurt Nobody
  13. Lorde –  Royals (Magnifik Remix)
  14. Le Roux – Bulletproof
  15. Bob Marley – Stir it Up (STYTE DUBSTEP RMX)
  16. Kool & The Gang – Get Down On It
  17. Isley Brothers- For the Love of You Pt 1 and 2
  18. Earth, Wind and Fire – September
  19. Justin Timberlake – Let The Groove Get In

What songs will you spin at your cookout? Leave a comment below or tweet me at @donnicakelsey.

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