Donni’s Dash of Sparkle

“Leave a little sparkle where ever you go.”
These posts are sprinkled with Donni’s dashes of sparkle on a variety of topics included but not limited to beauty, food, and yes – sports.

Milk and Honey | A Review

I kept seeing posts on Instagram like the one below. Who is this Rupi Kaur I would say?  making a mental note to look up the poet. I would forget until another poem would appear on my feed. When I finally did my homework, I immediate ordered Milk and Honey, Kaur’s first collection of poems.

Milk and Honey…that sounds nice

this is the journey of
surviving through poetry
this is the blood sweat tears
of twenty-one years
this is my heart
in your hands
this is
the hurting
the loving
the breaking
the healing
– rupi kaur

The poem above is featured on the back of the book and is a brief synopsis of the book. Do not let the brevity of the poems fool you. Rupi’s poems are experiences. They are honest. Kaur breaks her book into four parts: the hurting, the loving, the breaking and the healing.

Review: Milk and Honey – Rupi Kaur

The Hurting

The hurting touches on topics of rape, sexual abuse, and abusive parenting. It describes feelings of emptiness and suppression, however, also the ability to transcend the hurt with kindness.  It describes the fractured relationship left as a result of abuse.

you have sadness
living in places
sadness shouldn’t live

The Loving

The loving section of Milk and Honey is about love, hope, sex, intimacy, women’s bodies and being consumed by a relationship.

you might not have been my first love
but you were the love that made
all the other loves
irrelevant.

The Breaking

The breaking is about heartbreak, the bitter aspects of relationships, and relationships that break you down or cause to be someone you aren’t.

i am a museum full of art
but you had your eyes shut

The Healing

The healing is about loving yourself, openness and kindness.  It’s about celebrating and supporting other women’s successes and celebrating feminine beauty in all its different colors, shapes and sizes.

our backs
tell stories
no books have
the spine to
carry
-women of color

 

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What have been your favorite reads this summer? Leave a comment below!

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TV Boyfriends We (Love to) Hate

 As you may know by know, I have strong thoughts on fictional characters: fictional crushes, fictional deaths that crushed me, and favorite couples. While I’ve shared my love for Pacey and Mr. Darcy, I’ve yet to share the TV boyfriends I loathe, but also have at some point liked.TV Boyfriends We (Love to) Hate- The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com

TV Boyfriends We (Love to) Hate

Logan Huntzberger, Gilmore Girls

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To be fair, I actually liked Logan on the show and the damn reunion ruined him for me. So Logan turns up engaged and still hooking up with Rory. I mean yes, he treated Rory well and I loved that outing with the Life and Death Brigade, but at the end of the day, no one likes a cheater. C’mon man! Also, Logan seriously gives me Mr. Big vibes. (P.S. Keep scrolling)


Lucious Lyon, Empire

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Lucious has put Cookie through everything…including jail time. He is a terrible father. He loves them certainly, but good goodness. I’m still not over him putting Jamal in a trash can for wearing heels. As much as I kind of want Cookie and Lucious together, I know he’s bad news bears and will only do something else unforgivable. His problem is that he carries his hate, greed, and desire for power like a badge of honor. Over the course of the show, he has moments where he seems to temporarily let that go, but he picks it up again. Hopefully, the new Lucious fresh from a coma will be different. 


Fitzgerald Grant III, Scandal

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Say what you want. I am tired of Olitz and this isn’t because I am and will always be #TeamJake aka Pillow Lips. I was the happiest when Papa Pope read him to filth and I was most upset when she ran out to the White House Lawn to kiss him. That Olitz music kills me.

Fitz is domineering, arrogant, and child-like. Let’s talk about how they got together. Fitz seduced Olivia during the campaign despite her trying to be professional. That’s called sexual harassment people. As an employer you should not do that. Also, I guess I missed the obvious, he cheated on Mellie (and other women) to be with her. Thankfully, the upcoming seventh season is the final and I wouldn’t be upset if the chopper Fitz is on blows up on the way to Vermont.

Mr. Big – Sex and the City

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I can hear some of the complaints now, but I don’t care. I was never and will never be a fan of Mr. Big. Before I even mention that time he was a runaway groom, let’s talk about how utterly disappointed I am in him as a match for Carrie. As if it isn’t very obvious- I am very much still #TeamAiden. I’ll take him, Pete, and his lovely handcrafted furniture any day.

Mr. Big cheated on Natasha with Carrie. And we all know the saying: Once a cheater, always a cheater. There were definitely commitment issues on both sides, but Mr. Big was the worst. He basically only wanted Carrie when he couldn’t  have her. The minute she would move on, he would suddenly come back into the picture. I’d like to also casually mention he had not one, but two failed marriages. Bruh, it might be you.

One of the biggest pro-Big arguments I hear is that Aiden didn’t give Carrie butterflies. Well and this is more than just a comment about fictional relationships:

Did you ever stop to think those “butterflies” you’re feeling is just anxiety generated by an unreliable guy?

The other pro-Big sentiment: but he changed in the end. That’s all that matters. Let’s be real, he didn’t change which is why we have two SATC movies where their relationship is rocky and not some storybook ending.

Who are some of the TV boyfriends you love to hate or just hate? Leave a comment below!

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7 Things to Remove From Your Résumé

I was recently asked to review a the résumé of a recent grad. I am not a HR specialist, but upon quick glance there were a few items I noticed that could be removed from his résumé, which made me think about putting it all together in a blog post.

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1. Objective Statement

Ultimately, your objective is to get hired.  Usually people use this section to tell the company what they are looking for in a position. Here’s the thing ladies and gents that company’s main concern isn’t what you a looking for. Also, you are taking up precious space on your résumé with an objective statement. I have heard that an executive summary or personal profile can replace the objective statement. However, I say use your cover letter to talk about yourself.

2. Passive Language

If you are updating your résumé, Google action verbs for résumé first.  You want to always use action verbs when describing what you accomplished at your previous job. Now with that being said don’t just drop a bunch of fancy action verbs all over the document. Using non-conversational words doesn’t make you look smart. It makes you look like someone who spends too much time in a thesaurus.

3. A Photo

I’ve seen some creatives include photos so I don’t think this necessarily a hard no. However, there are other ways you can get employers to view your picture without having to add your photo to your résumé. Consider including the URL of your LinkedIn profile. Although, unless you’re an actor, the employer shouldn’t be judging you based on your looks.

4. A Bunch of Short-Lived or Unrelated Jobs

Your résumé is not an autobiography of every job you’ve held in life. Include the relevant ones and delete everything else. You don’t want your résumé looking disjointed. Also, employers are not interested in achievements or abilities that are not applicable to the job. Think about if you’re applying for a public relations job and all of experience is in the healthcare. One exception, is to, if possible, highlight transferable skills.

5. Really Obvious Skills

The last time I updated my résumé this was the first thing I removed. Look –  proficiency in Microsoft Word and basically all of the Microsoft Office suite is kind of expected. Substitute these basic skills with less common skills or more technical skills that will make you stand out from other applicants.

6.  References available upon request

You don’t need a line that states the obvious and takes up valuable real estate for the accomplishments you really want to highlight on your résumé!  Like are you going to refuse to give references if they ask? The answer is no. Employers today expect you to offer references when requested, which is typically during the latter part of the interview process.

7. Personal Social Media Accounts

If you take nothing from this post. Remember this: keep it professional, people! Don’t give that hiring manager a reason to dig into your personal life. The red solo cup picture as your Instagram profile pic may not be the best idea, but don’t go broadcasting it on your  résumé. At most include your LinkedIn profile and leave everything else.

Let’s chat! What has worked for you when creating and/or updating your résumé? Leave a comment below. 

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Summer Anthems – #AllSummer17

You’ll need some summer anthems while you’re living your best life this summer.  So while the temperature is rising and you’re sipping your rosé (or frosé) you can blast these songs or check out our other playlists.

 

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Summer Anthems – #AllSummer17

  • Calvin Harris, Frank Ocean, Migos – Slide
  • Drake – Passionfruit
  • DJ Khaled, Justin Bieber, Quavo, Chance the Rapper, Lil Wayne – I’m The One
  • Kendrick Lamar ft. Rihanna – Loyalty
  • SZA ft. Travis Scott – Love Galore
  • French Montana ft. Swae Lee- Unforgettable
  • Zedd ft. Alessia Cara – Stay
  • 2 Chainz ft. Ty Dolla $ign, Trey Songz & Jhene Aiko – It’s a Vibe
  • Nicki Minaj, Drake, Lil Wayne – No Frauds
  • DJ Khaled, Rihanna, Bryson Tiller – Wild Thoughts
  • Jidenna – Bambi
  • Luis Fonsi, Daddy Yankee, & Justin Bieber, – Despacito (Remix)
  • Sean Paul – No Lie
  • Lorde – Greene Light
  • Major Lazer Ft. PARTYNEXTDOOR & Nicki Minaj – Run Up
  • Firfth Harmony ft. Gucci Mane – Down
  • HAIM – Want you Back
  • Bruno Mars – Chunky
  • Bruno Mars –  That’s What I Like

Let’s keep the playlist going! What are your summer anthems? Leave a comment below. 

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Journaling Through June and July: 10 Prompts To Get You Started

At the beginning of the year, I was a journaling machine – killing my daily affirmations and jotting down my random thoughts and ideas. Daily affirmations became weekly affirmations, which I was fine with until my affirmations disappeared altogether.  Ace wisely reminded me the other day that thoughts become things. So I want to get back on my journaling game.

Journaling Through June and July: 10 Prompts To Get You Started

Journaling has a positive impact on physical well-being, including reducing stress and increasing emotional intelligence, memory and comprehension. Read about other benefits here.

My goal is to sit down once a week (I think I’m saving Sundays for this) for the rest of this month and July and spend 20 minutes journaling. Then I’m going to make it twice a week, but baby steps, people. Anyways, if you’re interested in journaling here are a few prompts to get you started. 

 

10 Journaling Prompts To Get You Started

1)What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

2)Pick a favorite inspirational quote and design a journal page around it.

Write about the wisdom this quote awakens in you and how applies to your life. Why is it important for you at this time?

3) Write a gratitude list.

4) Write your sources of stress.

Write as many things as you can think of. When you are finished, reflect on how long the list is and how strong you are to be dealing with all of it. If you list is long, you may want to sort them into categories.  Sort stress-sources into categories like ‘life’, ‘money’, ‘people’, ‘school’ etc.  Brainstorm solutions to at least one stress source in each category. If your list is relatively short pick one or two that you can tackle fairly easy and jot down ways to alleviate that stressor. 

5) Write a pep talk to give yourself the next time you feel sad, upset, or full of doubt.

6) Find an image or two in a magazine that draws you.

Cut it out, and paste it on a blank journal page. You can write two sentences or two pages. Just let it out. Let the image speak to you. You may be surprised at how much lighter you will feel.

7) Journal about your unhealthy habits.

8) I am amazing because…

9) Find some lyrics that you love and jot them down. Write about why the lyrics resonate with you. 

10) Create a list. Here are a few ideas:

  • Places you’ve enjoyed visiting or would like to visit
  • Your favorite books
  • All of favorite movies
  • Your favorite songs
  • Your top five short term and long term goals

Join me on this journaling adventure. Feel free to journal more frequently than what I’ve set. If you want to share some pics use the hashtag: #JournalingJuneandJuly.

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Summer Bookworm Guide: 7 Books to Read By the Pool

Dear bookworm, whether you prefer the beach or the pool, you know there’s nothing like having a great book to keep you entertained. Here are a few I plan to check off my list this summer:

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For My Bookworm That Loves A Thriller

Into The Water by Paula Hawkins

Have you read The Girl On The Train? If yes, then know the suspense and mystery that will wrapped in this one. In Into the Water. a single mother turns up dead at the bottom of a river and her teenage daughter knows that there’s more to the story than suicide. I can’t wait to crack this one open!

I’ll Eat When I’m Dead by Barbara Bourland

Think Devil Wears Prada with as a thriller. Here’s the synopsis: A high-powered fashion editor dies in her office, her best friend / work wife Cat knows that it wasn’t because of something she ate (or, in this case, didn’t eat). Cat enlists the help of a detective and they get on the case — which winds the duo up in a web of sex, lies, and makeup counter madness.

For The Bookworm That Loves YA Fiction and a Little Romance

Always and Forever, Lara Jean (To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before) by Jenny Han

I’m a big fan of the first two books in the To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before series: To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before and P.S. I Still Love You. So I’m excited to revisit all of these characters sipping frosé by the pool. Start with the first book and you’ve got a summer series.

Summer Days and Summer Nights: Twelve Love Stories


Ok, this one isn’t out until next week, but it’s a perfect beach/poolside read of yeah you guessed it 12 love stories written by young adult authors.

For the Woke Bookworm

The Fire Next Time by James Baldwin

Ace included Between The World and Me on her summer reading list and it’s also on mine. However, I thought I’d give you a classic option to consider. The Fire Next Time was originally a letter, written by Baldwin to his nephew on the 100th anniversary of the “emancipation” of black America and is completely relevant today.

“The impossible is the least that one can demand.”
― James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time

For The Bookworm Who Also Loves Pop Culture

Movie Star by Lizzie Pepper: A Novel by Hilary Liftin


This is a funny pool read that plays out like a E! True Hollywood story and is written by Hillary Liftin who is a ghostwriter that specializes in celebrity memoirs.

For My Bookworm Who Rereads The Great Gatsby

No One Is Coming To Save Us by Stephanie Powell Watts

I saw this book in so many articles about what to read in 2017. The story is basically a 2017 version of Gatsby, but I admit – I’m intrigued.

Do you have any suggestions for summer reads? Leave them in the comments below!

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