Ok ya’ll. We have to talk about this season of The Bachelorette. Now I’m a pretty inconsistent watcher of The Bachelor/ The Bachelorette franchise. I basically decide if I’m going to watch based on who is cast as the lead. I mean sometimes they just choose big douche bags/ f*ckboys — I’m looking at you Juan Pablo! Or the bachelorette is just uninteresting. However, this season is probably the one I’ve been the most excited for and not only because the lead, Rachel Lindsay, is the
first black Bachelorette!
Although, this is important. The Bachelor began in 2002 and The Bachelorette a year later. Neither show has had a black lead, although one Hispanic man has been the bachelor. Y’all it took 33 seasons – 33 damn seasons!! Interestingly enough, Rachel’s also the oldest (not old though) – she’s only 32. So why is Rachel’s race important?
Black women are often overly sexualized, but not seen as objects of affection or marriage material. There are studies that show black women on online dating sites have the lowest message response rate from men of all races, while being the most likely to reply to men. To see the beautiful, intelligent, funny, black bachelorette be courted by men of all races vying to be her husband, is such a beautiful reminder for women that look like me that we are desirable and deserve the love we seek.
More about Rachel:
Rachel is a lawyer from Dallas.
She’s got an adorable dog named Copper… like Copper and Tod from The Fox and the Hound.
We’re only two episodes in and while I think you would be thoroughly entertained binge-watching these four hours of greatness, here’s a quick catch-up. If you plan on watching and don’t want any spoilers here is where you need to stop reading.
So earlier this week, Ace and I shared our Hangout Festival playlist with you all. Now maybe you’ll be out at Gulf Shores like us or perhaps you’re hitting the road to Sasquatch!, Governors Ball, Bonnaroo, Essence Music Festival, Lollapalooza or one of the many amazing summer festivals. Either way you’ll probably need to pack a few items and I’ve got you covered with some music festival essentials.
If you’re going in a group there’s a likely chance that not everyone will want to see the same sets. I personally think you should have a festival buddy. But in case you plan on wondering off. I would suggest a portable power bank to charge your phone in case it dies before you can link back up with your squad. There are plenty on the market, but I purchased the Polanfo 12000mAh Portable External Power Bank last year when my old Samsung S6 had the battery life of a yawn. I recently upgraded, but I’m still packing the power bank.
Many festivals don’t allow you to bring in chairs, so I would recommend a blanket. I ordered one of these really cool round beach throws from Zulilly, but of course it didn’t ship on time.
This is not a game people. Hydrate! Between the heat, the dancing, sweating and the booze, it is so easy to get dehydrated. If you’re camping, buy gallons of spring water to have handy. Otherwise make sure you have a stainless steel refillable water bottle or even consider bringing a Camelbak (if they are allowed).
Sometimes you just need a little refresh. I’m a big fan of the Pacifica Deodorant Wipes because they have coconut milk and essential oils. The wipes are also 100% vegan and cruelty-free. I went to Target and purchased the travel size version, but I love these for after the gym or a workout. Some old-school baby wipes will also do the trick.
Mini Bottle Of Hand Sanitizer
Since we’re on the topic of hygiene. Let’s talk about port-o-potties. They are gross, but you have to just suck it up. For these instances, make sure you have some hand sanitizer.
In addition to any medication you regularly take, think about packing some Advil or Tylenol. I feel like I read somewhere once that immunity boosters like Emergen-C and Airborne don’t actually work. It doesn’t matter, I will not let anything have me down and out for the festival so I plan on packing some Airborne for a little extra dose of Vitamin C.
Optional: Flower crown
Listen…I’m that girl. Flower crowns are on everyone’s festival bingo. Forever 21 usually has a good selection or you can DIY your own with a few supplies from the craft store. I found some other great options on Amazon as well.
Obviously, your list will include some additional items, but these are some music festival essentials I stand by. Do you have any items that are must haves for you? Let me know in the comments below.
I should have just moved on, but instead I read the comments. You never read the comments.
Is there a specific need to call this “Black boy joy”? I think a more appropriate title would be simply “Boy joy”. Someone from any race would be happy to see someone after being away. The person who captioned this must be trying force segregation.
Yeah, I don’t understand the difference between Black boy joy or white boy joy after not seeing a loved one for a significant amount of time.
This is awesome I agree. However are we going to label emotions by color now also ? Isn’t joy and other emotions the same in all races? Stop the labels !!!!
“Black boy joy” title was unnecessary. Creating animosity for no reason.
Actual footage of me reading the comments:
To be fair many people backtracked after being educated about the hashtag, but a lot of people didn’t. I didn’t understand why the first extinct was to try to criticize something so positive. However, I remembered the first time I wore a my Magical Black Girl shirt and was “lectured” in Starbucks. (More on that later.)
Why We Need #BlackGirlMagic & #BlackBoyJoy
Just in case we’re not all on the same page, let’s break down these hashtags quickly.
#BlackGirlMagic is a concept and movement created to celebrate the beauty, power and resilience of black girls and women and to congratulate them on their accomplishments.
The Root writer Danielle Young has the best definition of #BlackBoyJoy I’ve seen:
It [the hashtag] also shows that black boys and men, who despite life or its challenges, still possess the jovial spirit that you can identify in carefree black boys, that enables them to spread infectious joy and happiness through their smile, their outlook, their confidence or simply their presence. It doesn’t minimize the men by saying they have Black Boy Joy. They’ve just managed to retain what we hope none of our boys lose as they get older – joy.
If you’re looking for some cooking inspiration, you’ve come to the right place. I’ve pulled together a list of seasonal fruits and veggies and some ideas for spring dishes. Also check out the Pinterest board Seasonal Living: Spring Foods for more recipe ideas and inspiration to elevate your plate this season.
Debate me if you dare, but some of the best songs of all-time come from Disney movies. So how can you create a list of the best Disney songs? I started writing down my favorites (my list had 35 songs) and then I took to social media to get some additional perspective for this near impossible task. If the song was one I wrote down and it received more than one additional vote it made the list. I’d like to confess right now that there were no outside votes for any Artistocats songs and I was offended. I added to them the list anyway. 🙂 There were a lot of votes for songs from Beauty and the Beast, but just about every Disney fan has gone to see it, so I expected a lot of votes for those songs.
25 Of The Best Disney Songs of All Time
To be very very clear, this is not a ranking. To quote one of my favorite movies, Ever After: I could no sooner choose a favorite star in the heavens.
One of my friends loves A Goofy Movie and one of her suggestions was I2I. Yup, so although it technically only had one vote, it makes the list as a bonus song. I mean you really can’t go wrong with a little Tevin Campbell.
I’ve always been semi-responsible with money – or so I thought. In college, I didn’t sign up for a million credit cards because they were being offered or because I needed extra money for Bonnaroo. However, within the last year or so I’ve become really serious about transforming my financial situation.
Debt free by 30 is my goal!
At the beginning of the year, I paid off one super high-interest credit card and it felt amazing!! Everyone should have the feeling so let’s talk about transforming your finances.
Transforming Your Finances
The debt snowball method Vs The debt avalanche method
You may have heard of these two methods. I’m not going to persuade you that one is better than the other because honestly either way you’re being proactive and taking a step toward being debt free. You get a round of applause from me either way. But here’s the difference:
With the debt snowball method, you pay off your debts from smallest balance to largest balance, regardless of interest rates. With the debt avalanche method, you pay your debts from highest interest rate to lowest interest rate, regardless of balance. I’m not a math wiz, but in case you care, mathematically the avalanche method makes the most sense.
Here’s what I would consider:
The snowball method gives you small wins. Think about all the little statements you have every month: doctor’s bills, store credit cards, etc.. For me it’s my Victoria’s Secret, Express, and Ashley Furniture cards, in addition to the two credit cards I have.They’re not significant debts by any means, but lots of little minimum payments. When you pay your debts from smallest to largest balance you start to clear those little debts away very quickly- which can be motivating. The avalanche method makes sure you’re paying less in interest thereby saving you more money.
I’m in need of some motivation so I’m going with the snowball method. I’ve got two printables below if you’d like to try it as well.
List all of your debts from the smallest to the largest and include the monthly payments on the payout plan printable
Make minimum payments on all of your debt except for the smallest. For the smallest debt, you will make the minimum payment PLUS extra money monthly. Adjust that extra amount based on what you can afford keeping up with all of your other payments.
Here’s an example:
Express – $450 ($25 per month)
Discover Credit Card #1 – $750 ($40 per month)
AMEX #2 – $1300 ($60 per month)
Car Loan – $8430 ($400 per month)
Student Loan – $30,000 ($200 per month)
In this example, the Express card is the smallest, so you would make the minimum payment of $25 a month with an additional $50 per month – that’s $75 all together, mathletes). With this method you are paying more than the minimum due and cutting the debt down faster. If you’re consistent (and aren’t adding to you balance) in about six months (this all depends on your interest rates) your debt will be paid off.
Next Step in the Debt Snowball
The next step is to add the $75 you were paying on the Express card to your next smallest debt. So in this example, it’s the Discover credit card. For six months you made the minimum payment of $40, but now you’ll pay $115. Again, this varies by your interest rate, but within another six months you can pay of this card. So in this example you’ve wiped out two credit cards in a year.
Click on the thumbnails below to download copies of the two worksheets.
I’m not a financial adviser, but hope this method can work for some of our readers. Feel free to share what other methods you’re trying or completed to reach your goals in the comments below. Good luck to everyone with transforming your finances!