Rom-Com Fake Out: The Time Netflix Tricked Me

Rom-Com Fake Out: The Time Netflix Tricked Me - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comAll I wanted was a recommendation for a good rom-com and Netflix let me all the way down. Netflix actually tricked me. I thought no one understood me better than Netflix, but this relationship was a lie. So, if you’ll indulge me: I have a quick story.

Rom-Com Fake Out: The Time Netflix Tricked Me

Let me set the scene for you: It’s a Saturday night and no part of my body or soul wants to go out and drink or socialize with other humans. I had all the conversation I needed chatting with my four-legged bestie, Sgt. Pepper. I’d read a few chapters of a book and decided to Netflix it for the rest of the night. I had wine and about a half a pan of salted caramel brownies at my disposal and all I needed was a rom-com to pair with it.

As I scroll through my options, I realized I’ve watched everything hundreds of times. I know all the dialogue for Two Weeks Notice, so I have to skip that one. Leap Year. I just watched that…next. Bridget Jones’ Diary: meh…Renee isn’t going to do it for me. Next.  Hope Floats..Ok, Netflix I get it. You know I love Sandra Bullock. Step Up. Well, I just watched She’s The Man (the best Channing Tatum movie). So, I decide to skip that movie as well. As I continue to scroll I see a title I don’t recognize: Copenhagen and decide to give it a chance.

How Netflix Played Me

Now, here’s where everything starts to go left. The movie has 3.5 stars which is good enough for me, so I don’t really read the description. Big mistake. Huge!

The movie is about this 28 year old guy (this is important) named William. Moving forward, he will be referenced as homeboy. Homeboy is traveling to Denmark to find his grandfather. However, his only clue is an old letter he finds among the items of his deceased father who abandoned him. Homeboy doesn’t speak Danish and as a result needs help. He ends up meeting a nice girl who decides to help him with his quest. Homeboy clearly has issues with women. However, you see their chemistry and how she’s clearly quite different from all of the other women he’s encountered and is slowly changing him. It’s pretty cute. Here’s where it goes super sideways. Homegirl is 14. 1-4. As in illegal AF.

I’m now distraught and obviously felt the need to go back and read the description. Because how in the hammerhead halibut is this categorized as romance?  I thought this was called pedophilia. Netflix tricked me!!

Actual Description: An immature womanizer in search of Dad. It’s about time someone helped him grow up. Even if it’s a girl half his age. 

Thanks, Netflix! Now, that I’ve been flagged for watching this. My government job is now in jeopardy, but I felt like I might as well finish it since my name will forever be on a list. I might as well see how it ends. I think that there must be a twist. Surely, this 28 year old man knows better than to hang out with this, albeit mature,14 year old girl.

Here’s actual footage of me watching the rest of the movie:

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Me: Homeboy don’t you dare tell her you love her. She’s slamming shots. No, no, no. Cigarettes? Don’t you dare kiss her. Leave your top on, ma’m!!

Suffice it to say, I was and still am very disappointed in Netflix for that rom-com fake out.

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Goddess Guidance Oracle Card Reading

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I was that little girl who used to call psychic hotlines (shoutout to Ms. Cleo) and hang-up hoping my mama wouldn’t see the charges on the phone bill. It’s no secret that I’m a lover of the “magical” things: chakras, healing crystals, and the law of attraction. So my desire to have a card reading doesn’t surprise most people.

In January, I met some pretty dope women artists at Living Color! Other than the artwork and good vibes floating in the, a sweet spirit by the name of Julia “JuJu” Catherine gave me her Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards to give myself a reading. I will admit I was a little nervous to see my cards at first, but felt inspired after they were revealed

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Photo credit: Paul King

 

What are Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards?

I know the thought of an oracle card reading freak a lot of people out because they assume it will predict their death or downfall. The Goddesss Guidance Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue are a little different, because the goddesses are here to sprinkle magic and improve your lives. The oracle cards are empowering and loving, not negative or judgmental.

“Dedicated to the spirit, power and beauty of the goddess, which exists within every woman, man and child. May the goddess reawaken and bring feminine balancing energy to the world. May our feminine strengths of intuition and nurturing fully reemerge.”

-Doreen Virtue

How to give yourself a reading:

The deck comes with a guidebook, because who wants to screw up an oracle reading? “Not I,” said the cat. Read the guidebook before getting started to help you understand how to do a reading. and how to interpret the cards chosen.

  1. Focus on a question you want the oracle cards to answer.
  2. Then you shuffle them until something in your soul tells you to stop shuffling.
  3. Remove 3 cards from the deck.
  4. Place the first card to the left, the second card in the middle and the third card on the right. The card on the left represents your past; the middle represents your present; and the right represents your future.

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My cards:

Before shuffling my cards, I asked myself something along the lines of, “What am I doing with my life?” It was one of those days. Check out the responses below.

Left card (the past):

Goddess: Sekhmet.

Meaning: Be strong.

“You are stronger than you think you are, and your strength assures a happy outcome.”

I always joke about how my biography, starring Debbie Allen as my mom (duh!), would be great for Oprah to direct. My life hasn’t been an easy one, but I’m still here and that’s all that matters!

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Middle card (the present)

Goddess: Aphrodite

Meaning: Inner goddess

“Awaken the goddess within you through dance, self-care, and appreciating your divinity.”

I just celebrated my 29th B’earth-Day, also known as, #TwentyWineSavage. It’s so funny when people ask me, “How do you feel?” Instead of the “This is the last year of my 20s” freak-out like people expect me to have, I’ve been tapping into my inner goddess by being thankful I’m still alive– all while dancing every chance I get.
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Right card (the future)

Goddess: Sarasvati

Meaning: The Arts

“Express yourself through creative activities.”

The arts have always played a special role in my life. (Hence how I got my hands on these Goddess cards in the first place.) Eventually, I’d like to create my own arts program and/or school. Opportunities to help make my dream a reality are trickling in this year– I just have to get focused enough to execute.
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See, that wasn’t so bad.

Have you ever had an oracle card reading? How was it? Let me know in the comments or tweet me @PalmsInATL. If you’d like to give yourself or your squad an oracle card reading, purchase a deck of Goddess Guidance cards here.

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30 Days of Decluttering: A Minimalism Challenge

30 Days of Decluttering: A Minimalism Challenge - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com If you’re interested in participating in this challenge you may want to check out my Minimalism 101 post or my Art of Decluttering post.

I’ve pulled together a challenge for the month of March to tackle some physical decluttering needs that adds adds on some decluttering of items that are using up our mental energy as well.  While I’m calling it a decluttering challenge, you can also think of this as start to your journey to minimalism. If minimalism isn’t your thing, consider this a spring cleaning challenge.

“Sometimes, the only way to figure out what is really important is to get rid of everything that isn’t.”

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Click here or the image above to print off your own copy of the challenge.

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Never Turn Down: Black History Month Playlist

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February is almost over, but feel free to carry this Black History Month Playlist into Melanin March and every other month in the year. I didn’t pick these songs because they’re about “being black”. Some of the jams celebrate blackness, some remind me of my family, friends, and childhood, while others remind me of the struggle. Instead of explaining why this playlist is so necessary to me, I’ll let Tina Lawson school ya.

“It’s such beauty in black people, and it really saddens me when we’re not allowed to express that pride in being black, and that if you do, then it’s considered anti-white. No! You just pro-black. And that’s okay. The two don’t go together. Because you celebrate black culture does not mean that you don’t like white culture or that you putting it down. It’s just taking pride in it, but what’s irritating is when somebody says, you know, “They’re racist!”, “That’s reverse racism!” or, “They have a Black History Month, but we don’t have a White History Month!”

Well, all we’ve ever been taught is white history. So, why are you mad at that? Why does that make you angry? That is to suppress me and to make me not be proud.”

-Interlude: Tina Taught Me (A Seat at the Table)

Let’s be honest, A Seat at the Table (Solange) and To Pimp A Butterfly (Kendrick Lamar) could’ve made up for half of this playlist, but that was too easy. Let me also point out that Beyoncé’s Lemonade isn’t on Spotify, along with a handful of other songs I wanted to add to this playlist — but I did my best! Enjoy and remember to never turn down!

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Warning: I tried to find “clean” versions, but some songs may contain explicit language.

 

Black History Month Playlist

What songs would you add to the Black History Month Playlist? Leave a comment, and maybe I’ll add it!

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Cultivating Stronger Friendships in Your Late 20s

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I’ve touched on the difficulty of making new friends before, but what about the friends you already have. One of my goals for this year was to put more effort into maintaining and cultivating stronger friendships. I’ve thought a lot about why it’s so easy to drift apart from the people you love so much. I finally realized for me, it’s because my friends and I are in all different stages of life.

I’m 27. Single – not actively looking, but open to a relationship. I’m focused on my career and perfectly happy being a fur parent. I love kids, but at this stage I can’t imagine trying to find a babysitter to watch my kid when I want to have a wild night in Buckhead. I also don’t want to go out every weekend. I’m perfectly content with parking my body on the couch with Netflix or a good book, my pup, and sweatpants (wine is always included).

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Some of my friends are married. Some of my friends are married with kid(s). Others are out every weekend, waking up with hangovers. I’ve got a few friends who are actively trying to lock down a significant others, while others are on every dating app – just looking for hookups. A few people have never left our hometown, while others are traveling every chance they have. Some are still doing what we were doing at 21 (how Sway? Is your liver okay?) others have started companies.

So what’s a girl to do to stay connected?

Friendships take work

Don’t forget about how your friends have been there for you. Likely, they’ve seen you through something – even if it was just a rough finals week. Then think about what connected you. Friendships take work, just like any other relationship. So you’ll have to put in a little effort. I’ve been lucky to hold on to a few of my friendships from high school. Oddly enough, I’ve also become very close with some people I went to high school with, but would not – at that time – even think to call them a friend.

It’s hard to stay connected to someone you were friends with when you were 14, but not impossible. One of my high school besties is married and a fantastic mom. Have I ever had a wedding? No, but we talked about all the wedding things. I even designed her Save the Dates. Have I ever had a baby? No, but we talked about all the baby things and I helped her sister-in-law through her baby shower.

My point is as long as you don’t forget about those who have been there for you – you will be able to find  You won’t always have everything in common, but you will always have the common ground that your friendship was based on. Sometimes that is enough, if you both still want to be in each other’s lives.

Maintaining Friendships

This year, I’m determined to make more of an effort. I’m celebrating birthdays. I’m sending letters, cards, care packages – just because. Earlier this month, I sent Galentine’s Day packages to some of my favorite ladies – local and abroad. But it’s not just about gifts. I’m going to schedule regular phone dates and just check-in on people. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone ask you “Are you okay” and mean it.

I realize my friends are my friends because they support me in whatever I do. Sometimes they laugh at me, but I know they love me unconditionally.

So to my friends who may be reading this:

If you need a home cooked meal, to borrow my dog for some puppy snuggles, a hug, a ride, my Netflix password, someone to proofread your resume, occupy your little one while you wash your hair, a wing girl, someone to help you hide the body or someone just to do nothing with – I’m here.  And I love you!

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Anyone else struggling with maintaining friendships? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. 

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#TeamBook: 7 Book-To-Screen Adaptations To Look Forward To This Year

I am always Team Book. I will always be Team Book. However, I do like to see the screen adaptations of the books I read. I have to read the book first though. I’ll wait until a movie is available on DVD, rather than view the screen adaption before getting a change to read the book. I’ve got a few book-to-screen adaptations I’m looking forward to in my list below. You will not find the new 50 Shades movie here because I think the book is trash.  To be clear, it’s not the “sexy” content that I think is trash, it’s the awful writing.#TeamBook: 7 Book-To-Screen Adaptations To Look Forward To This Year - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com

 

#TeamBook: 7 Book-To-Screen Adaptations To Look Forward To This Year

Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty

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I joined the Show Your Blog Love Book Club and Big Little Lies is the book we’re reading for February. My book was just delivered last Friday and It’s a page turner. The HBO miniseries premieres this weekend and I don’t think I’ll be finished in time to watch it live, but I’m off on Monday and don’t plan on leaving the couch much. 🙂

  • Premieres: February 19, 2017
  • Starring: Nicole Kidman, Reese Witherspoon, Alexander Skarsgård, Shailene Woodley and Zoë Kravitz
  • Synopsis: Big Little Lies follows three women: Madeline, Celeste, and Jane, each at a crossroads. The book is a brilliant take on ex-husbands and second wives, mothers and daughters, schoolyard scandal, and the dangerous little lies we tell ourselves just to survive.

 

 Before I Fall by Lauren Oliver

#TeamBook: 7 Book-To-Screen Adaptations To Look Forward To This Year - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comBefore I Fall was recommended to me by a fellow bookworm. The premise reminds me of If I Stay which was also became a book-to-screen adaptation. Before I Fall been sitting on my Kindle for a few months now, but I plan to tackle it after Big Little Lies. 

  • Coming to theaters: March 3, 2017
  • Starring: Zoey Deutch, Halston Sage, Logan Miller
  • Synopsis: Samantha Kingston has it all: looks, popularity, the perfect boyfriend. Friday, February 12, should be just another day in her charmed life. Instead, it turns out to be her last. The catch: Samantha still wakes up the next morning. Living the last day of her life seven times during one miraculous week, she will untangle the mystery surrounding her death—and discover the true value of everything she is in danger of losing.

 

 

The Zookeeper’s Wife:A War Story  by Diane Ackerman

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In one semester of English, in either my freshman or sophomore year of college, (why does this feel like such a long time ago), my professor constructed a WWII unit. In addition to having us all watch Life Is Beautiful, she introduced us to this book.
  • Coming to theaters: March 31
  • Starring: Jessica Chastain, Daniel Brühl, Johan Heldenbergh
  • Synopsis: A true story in which the keepers of the Warsaw Zoo saved hundreds of people from Nazi hands. After their zoo was bombed, Polish zookeepers Jan and Antonina Zabinski managed to save over three hundred people from the Nazis by hiding refugees in the empty animal cages.

 
 
 

Wonder by R.J. Palacio

#TeamBook: 7 Book-To-Screen Adaptations To Look Forward To This Year - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comI saw this book continuously being recommended in my book clubs and I’ve always wanted to read it, especially after I found out it inspired the Choose Kind Movement, an anti-bullying campaign. I recently saw the trailer and I just can’t say no to a Julia Roberts movie. So the book makes my list.

  • Coming to theaters: April 7, 2017
  • Starring: Julia Roberts, Owen Wilson, Jacob Tremblay
  • Synopsis: August Pullman was born with a facial difference that, up until now, has prevented him from going to a mainstream school. Starting 5th grade at Beecher Prep, he wants nothing more than to be treated as an ordinary kid—but his new classmates can’t get past Auggie’s extraordinary face.

 
 
 

Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon

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This is probably the book-to-screen adaptation I’m the most excited about. If you liked The Fault In Our Stars, you’ll love Everything, Everything.Seriously if you don’t tear up watching the trailer, you’re a monster — and not one of Lady Gaga’s.
  • Coming to theaters: May 19
  • Starring: Amandla Stenberg, Nick Robinson, Anika Noni Rose
  • What it’s about: A quarantined girl who’s allergic to basically everything and everyone falls in love with the boy next door, who becomes the biggest risk she’s ever taken.

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