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Why We Need #BlackGirlMagic & #BlackBoyJoy

Why We Need #BlackGirlMagic & #BlackBoyJoy - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comScrolling through Facebook I stumbled upon the cutest video ever posted on the Because of Them We Can page.

I should have just moved on, but instead I read the comments. You never read the comments.

Is there a specific need to call this “Black boy joy”? I think a more appropriate title would be simply “Boy joy”. Someone from any race would be happy to see someone after being away. The person who captioned this must be trying force segregation.

Yeah, I don’t understand the difference between Black boy joy or white boy joy after not seeing a loved one for a significant amount of time.

This is awesome I agree. However are we going to label emotions by color now also ? Isn’t joy and other emotions the same in all races? Stop the labels !!!!

“Black boy joy” title was unnecessary. Creating animosity for no reason.

Actual footage of me reading the comments:
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To be fair many people backtracked after being educated about the hashtag, but a lot of people didn’t. I didn’t understand why the first extinct was to try to criticize something so positive. However, I remembered the first time I wore a my Magical Black Girl shirt and was “lectured” in Starbucks. (More on that later.)

Why We Need #BlackGirlMagic & #BlackBoyJoy

Just in case we’re not all on the same page, let’s break down these hashtags quickly.

#BlackGirlMagic

#BlackGirlMagic is a concept and movement created to celebrate the beauty, power and resilience of black girls and women and to congratulate them on their accomplishments.

#BlackBoyJoy

The Root writer Danielle Young has the best definition of #BlackBoyJoy I’ve seen:

It [the hashtag] also shows that black boys and men, who despite life or its challenges, still possess the jovial spirit that you can identify in carefree black boys, that enables them to spread infectious joy and happiness through their smile, their outlook, their confidence or simply their presence. It doesn’t minimize the men by saying they have Black Boy Joy. They’ve just managed to retain what we hope none of our boys lose as they get older – joy.

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“Never Let Go” by Ronald Draper

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Friday Faves: Melanated Edition

Friday Faves: Melanated Edition - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comFebruary is Black History Month. Beyoncé kicked off the month with her pregnancy announcement and dropping a pregnancy photo album. Hey twins!! (If anyone wants to start some sort of pool for baby names- I’m in!). I really do encourage you to use this month to learn about and celebrate all of the contributions black Americans have made to this country. Black history is American history. However, I’m not going to walk you though highlights of black history. Although, I’d love it if you shared your favorites with me in the comments below.

I thought I would have a little fun with our Friday Faves with a Melanated Edition featuring some amazing black-owned businesses. 

Friday Faves: Melanated Edition

Fave Natural Beauty Product – Olive + Aloe

Friday Faves: Melanated Edition - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comA friend had some of this moisturizer on her dresser and I used it in instantly became obsessed. I actually tried to take the little two ounce bottle home. Olive + Aloe is a head-to-toe, all natural handcrafted moisturizer. Go get you some!!

 

Friday Faves: Melanated Edition - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comFave Beauty Subscription Box –  We Are Onyx

I love a good subscription box. I was gifted a Birchbox subscription and while I liked most of the products there were always a few that I couldn’t use because it was not meant for women of color. So I ended up giving a lot of items away (You’re welcome, Kim!). We Are Onyx features products curated for black women. So if you’re thinking of gifting a beauty subscription box to a melanated friend consider this company.

 

Fave Game Night Must Have – Cards For All People

Cards For All People makes fun, nostalgia-filled card games that test knowledge of cultural milestones and moments. Our games aim to bring people of all types together through laughter and friendly debate.  So think a cultural Cards Against Humanity. Their line-up includes Black Card Revoked (with multiple expansion packs), Nerd Card Revoked, Gay Card Revoked, Girls Night Out, and Asian Card Revoked (shipping this spring).


Fave Natural Products and Accessories – Toni Daley 

Toni Daley is one of my all time faves! I watch her vlogs on YouTube and she is serious manespiration.  Toni Daley has a collection of awesome earrings, hair wraps, and out of control natural wigs (for you ladies looking for protective styles). I’m rocking on of my many pairs of Toni Daley earrings in the picture below.

 

Until next time dolls and gents!

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Black Girl Magic: Exploring My Healing Powers

I was about 8-years-old when I discovered healing powers. One night I was having excruciating stomach pain. My mama grabbed her blessing oil, and wiped it onto my forehead in what felt to be shaped like a cross. Minutes later, the pain was gone. That wasn’t the last time I needed that same oil for pain.

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Fast forward to 12 years later. After burning incense purchased from a store, which I’ll leave nameless, I had weird dreams and nightmares. While visiting a similar store, Natural Vibrations, I told the cashier about my creepy experience. She said:

“You’re not the first person to tell me this. I have something to cleanse your room, but don’t bring stuff from them into your space again.”

Sure enough, the dreams went away that night. Although I come from a predominantly Christian family, I’ve never considered myself a religious person. Gospel music is my jam, the scriptures are inspiring, and I even slide into church from time to time (aka whenever I visit my aunt). However, I became the girl who only prayed when she “needed” something, and as I got older it became clear that I was entering the I’m spiritual, not religious life.

Why I’m Exploring My Healing Powers

It’s been on my to-do list for a year.

One of my 2016 goals was to learn more about chakras. Along the way, I reconnected with things like crystals/minerals and sage wands. Check out my awesome raw rose quartz and chunky pyrite from The Hoodwitch.   Exploring My Healing Powers -- The Palmetto Peaches

I’ve always believed in magic.

As a little girl, I would wish on the brightest stars for all kinds of things, including to wake up with magic like Sabrina the Teenage Witch. In my “adult” years, I’ve discovered things like the Law of Attraction and meditation. Those methods are more centered around self-awareness rather than glitter and wands, but they’re still magical.

Genetics.

While my aunts and mom were the “pray on it” type, they were also the clairvoyant + third eye on fleek type. I can bet money that there’s something in our blood. There are several stories I can tell that might give you goosebumps– like how my aunt saw the 1977 Tenerife airport disaster (deadliest plane crash in history) before it happened. Or how I sensed my nephew’s surgery the night before he was rushed to the hospital.

I’m not casting any spells or reading palms (yet), but I’m definitely tapping more into my spirituality. Have you explored your healing powers? What has worked for you?

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Hey Soul Sistahs

Tis the season for sharing dopeness. Some of you may have seen the touching video of actress Essence Atkins’ washing the feet of a stranger. I’m not that deep. Sorry. But I am here for uplifting my sisters, and sharing their greatness. In September, I shared 4 of my favorite #BlackGirlBloggers with you. It was hard to narrow it down, so here I am with 4 more.Hey Soul Sistahs - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com

Write On Kiah x Kiah McBride

www.writeonkiah.com

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Source: Twitter @writeonkiah

I had the pleasure of meeting Kiah, now Managing Editor for XO Necole, earlier this year at The Indie Byline’s Melanin and Mimosas.She gave me all the Poetic Justice vibes.

Favorite posts:

The Truth About Love: I’d be lying if I said I didn’t shed a tear while reading this. I can’t stress enough how much I love when an artist tells her/his story, and it helps me understand my own. I’m literally living through Kiah’s transparency.

Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life: I need to read this every damn day. Lately, I’ve been having some good days, but also some really, really bad days. I waste time getting “lost in my self-pity”, when I could be focusing on shifting my thoughts and working harder…or at least getting out of the house. On top of that, I’m bombarded with Instagram inspirational quotes and gym selfies. (Staying off social media would be a lot easier if I wasn’t a social media manager.) As many times as I’ve watched and read The Secret, I seem to forget that thoughts become things. I can relate to Kiah more than the folks featured in The Secret, so maybe I should focus more on this post instead.

Favorite quotes:

  • “Cherish your battles, for they are the key to your wins.”
  • “I just don’t care to lead guys on for a free All-Star meal at the Waffle House.” LOLOLOL (Insert all the laughing emojis here!)

So Fundamental x Trelani Michelle

www.sofundamental.com

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How could I not learn more about the author of a book titled “Women Who Ain’t Afraid to Curse When Communicating with God”? HOW? I bought the e-book to help with writer’s block and motivation, and it was love at first click.

Favorite posts:

How to Pray When You’re Spiritual vs. Religious: When I read this, I immediately thought about the time I fixed my lips to ask, “How do I know God is real?” and my aunts basically filled out the adoption papers for my mama. I could not wrap my mind around how there were so many religions different than the one I was born to believe in. It was tew much.  “I’m more spiritual than religious” are words I’ve said too often without really understanding what I was saying. But alas, Trelani be knowing.

I Reserve the Right to Change My Mind: *cues Adele* Hello? It’s me... This one hits home for a few reasons. 1- I needed someone to confirm that it’s okay to say, “I don’t want to do this today. Why? Because I don’t want to.” 2- I needed to realize this also meant people who’ve broken promises and left my life had the right to do so. They can change their minds just like I can.

Favorite quotes:

  • “I reserve the right to change my mind, because I continuously evolve and because my first responsibility is my own happiness.”
  • “Because you agree with  most of what someone says, don’t allow that to make you question your beliefs that conflict with theirs. Regardless who it is.”

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Redefined Leading Ladies Campaign

We’re still celebrating all the #BlackGirlMagic that was sprinkled around during the 2015 Emmys. Our girls Uzo Aduba (Orange is the New Black), Regina King (basically, everything including American Crime) and Viola Davis (How to Get Away with Murder) all took home awards, meaning 2015 had the most Emmys wins by Black actresses in 24 years. According to the LA Times, “Since 1966, only 48 out of 1,001 nominees for lead actor and actress in a drama or comedy were Black.”

Homegirl Viola, made history as the first Black woman to win best actress in a drama series.

‘In my mind, I see a line. And over that line, I see green fields and lovely flowers and beautiful white women with their arms stretched out to me, over that line. But I can’t seem to get there no how. I can’t seem to get over that line.’

That was Harriet Tubman in the 1800s. And let me tell you something: The only thing that separates women of color from anyone else is opportunity.

You cannot win an Emmy for roles that are simply not there. So here’s to all the writers, the awesome people that are Ben Sherwood, Paul Lee, Peter Nowalk, Shonda Rhimes, people who have redefined what it means to be beautiful, to be sexy, to be a leading woman, to be black.

And to the Taraji P. Hensons, the Kerry Washingtons, the Halle Berrys, the Nicole Beharies, the Meagan Goods, to Gabrielle Union: Thank you for taking us over that line. Thank you to the Television Academy. Thank you. -Viola Davis

If you haven’t guessed by now, these leading ladies are more than t-shirt worthy! We’re holding on to this memory with v-necks, tank tops and our personal favorite, sweatshirts! For the next 4 days, you can order the “because of them we can” inspired shirt from our Teespring store. (http://teespring.com/stores/the-palmetto-peaches)
Redefined Leading Ladies--The Palmetto Peaches
Redefined Leading Ladies--The Palmetto Peaches
Redefined Leading Ladies--The Palmetto Peaches
Redefined Leading Ladies--The Palmetto Peaches
Redefined Leading Ladies--The Palmetto Peaches

We’d love your support, even if it’s just sharing this with a friend. There are a variety of styles and colors in the store, and only a few more need to be bought before they can be shipped. Here’s the store link one more time: http://teespring.com/stores/the-palmetto-peaches 🙂 Spread the word!

Thank you in advance!

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What Happened, Miss Simone?

“Miss Simone, you are idolized, even loved, by millions now. But what happened, Miss Simone?”

High Priestess of Soul, Maya Angelou

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Netflix (and select theaters) premiered an authorized Nina Simone documentary “What Happened, Miss Simone?” in June.  The film opened with a quote from Maya Angelou, so I was already sitting up straight and anxious for it to start. Other than falling in love with a few of Nina Simone’s quotes and old photos, I was unfamiliar with her story. But when I saw the documentary begin with a word from Auntie Maya I thought, “This gon’ be good, y’all.”

Documentaries and biopics, especially the ones based on the lives of prominent, Black individuals from the 60s and 70s, hold a special place in my heart. I wanted to avoid writing a review of “What Happened, Miss Simone?”, because that meant I’d have to re-watch in order to explain the things I didn’t like–and who wants to ruin a good thing? Not writing a review also made it harder to not share every “aha” moment I had. Instead, I chose four quotes and three songs by Nina Simone to bless your mind and soul.

“What Happened, Miss Simone?” Gems

On being asked what it means to be free:

 “It’s just a feeling. It’s like how do you tell somebody how it feels to be in love? How are you going to tell anybody who has not been in love how it feels to be in love? You cannot do it to save your life. You can describe things but you can’t tell them, but you know it when it happens…I’ve had a couple of times on stage when I really felt free, and that’s something else. I’ll tell you what freedom is to me, no fear. I mean, really, no fear. If I could have that half of my life, no fear.”

That quote in itself can be series of blog posts. After playing it back three times, I stopped to think about how it would feel to not be afraid of ANYTHING or ANYONE. Just living your life for you. Nina was right. Even though I had hopeful images in my head, I couldn’t actually feel anything.

 

“Sometimes I sound like gravel, and sometimes I sound like coffee and cream.”

I love this quote because it’s basically my life. Although she’s describing her voice, it’s exactly how I’d answer someone if they asked, “How are things going you?” Some days are rough, and some are smooth sailing.

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“I was never non-violent. Never. I thought we should get our rights by any means necessary.”

*sips tea* Sis played no games. I’m more of a peacemaker than Miss Simone, but her 1960’s frustrations feel a little too familiar in 2015. With the recent events including the Charleston Shooting and the burnings of several predominantly Black churches, you better believe I drifted into my feelings. Although her views were more extreme, I appreciate how she used music to support the Civil Rights Movement.

“Mississippi Goddamn” was written after four girls were killed in the 1963 Birmingham church bombing.

“To me we are the most beautiful creatures in the whole world, Black people. So my job is to make them more curious about where they came from, and their own identity and pride in that identity. That’s why my songs, I try to make them as powerful as possible, mostly just to make them curious about themselves.”

As a lover of the arts and a rising, low-key activist, this turned on so many light bulbs. Growing up, I struggled with my Blackness. I wanted lighter skin, a smaller nose and straight hair SO badly… until I started paying attention to the right people. People, of all races, who were not only proud of their history, but proud of themselves. You know the saying “You can’t know where you’re going to if you don’t know where you’re coming from”? YES. YES. When I started to learn my family’s story is when I began to “wake-up”. I grew to love my wide Alexander nose, my darker-than-a-paper-bag skin and my kinky (aka nappy) hair. I think it’s important to use our talents and whatever outlets available, to educate and increase awareness on many things, including self-love.

What are your thoughts on “What Happened, Miss Simone?” Comment below or tweet me @TheAceAlexa! I’d love to hear your perspective on the documentary and on the High Priestess of Soul, Nina Simone.

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