coming of age

Lessons I Learned As A Bridesmaid

October 8, 2016. I woke up to the noise of branches being slapped across the window. Did we evacuate to the wrong city? The smell of pancakes and French toast and the thought of drinking my chilled boxed wine lingered over me. The three-story building across from the Govenor’s Mansion held 13 of us: 6 kids and 7 adults. Two of those adults were supposed to be celebrating their wedding weekend, but Mother Nature had other plans. This Hurrication was bittersweet.

Lessons I Learned As a Bridesmaid -- The Palmetto Peaches

That’s right, the wedding we spent a year planning and celebrating was rescheduled. Instead of champagne toasts and a bouquet toss, we were testing I-26 lane reversals. Life throws us many curveballs. Those curveballs usually turn into life lessons, also known as, major keys and gems. The lessons I learned as a bridesmaid are no exception.

Lessons I Learned As a Bridesmaid

Eloping is underrated.

I will give my full support to anyone who chooses to skip the traditional marriage celebrations. Just like most “commercial” holidays, the love between 2 people has literally nothing to do with most of the stress that comes with the wedding planning process. Do I love participating in those celebrations? Yes. Do I think they’re necessary? Nah.

My time management skills are weak af.

I may have the same 24 hours in a day as Beyoncé, but not the same organization skills and team as the Queen. It feels like I will be catching up on sleep for at least a month. Between my clients, the blog, bridesmaid duties and maintaining a social life — I’se tired.

I need to learn to sew/hem.

To be clear, not as a career or even a legit hobby. Just having the skill would’ve been helpful and a hell of a lot cheaper than having to go to a seamstress. I asked a woman if she would teach me, and she said no. “You’ll hate it,” she said while folding 1 of the 4 layers of my dress, “If you don’t have a passion for it, you will hate it.”

Thoughts becoming things, but not everything can be controlled.

We shouldn’t give so much negative energy to the things we can’t control. I know from personal experience that this is easier said than done. It was so hard to see my cousin upset over things and people she had no control over. Maya Angelou said it best:

People will eventually show you who they really are.

Anyone can claim unconditional love for another through social media and text messages, but their true colors shine when it’s time for more action and less words. There’s another Maya Angelou quote for this one:

This isn’t my first time learning these lessons. History repeats itself, so I guess one more go ’round won’t hurt. What lessons have you learned from life’s curveballs?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

Words of Wisdom to My Younger Self

Words of Wisdom To My Younger Self -- The Palmetto Peaches

For as long as I can remember, my Auntie Karen took the younger generations of our family on Kids’ Day Out trips. They eventually turned into Girls’ Day Outs because the amount of boys in my family was slim. Girls’ Day Out blessed me with some of my favorite memories. These memories include, seeing Beauty & the Beast in theaters, riding a horse for the first time and declaring my dreams of becoming a ballerina.

This weekend, the Peekaboo PrettyGirl Foundation will host their first ever Girls’ Day. The one day mentoring camp will focus on building relationships with 20+ high school aged girls, through girl talk, vision boards and of course — pizza. Reminiscing about my personal connection to experiencing girls’ day in my childhood, and preparing the Peekaboo event, made me think about all the lessons learned in my 28 years of life.
Words of Wisdom To My Younger Self -- The Palmetto Peaches

Image by Tenaciously Tanece for Peekaboo PrettyGirl

After reading Maya Angelou’s Letter to my daughter, I wrote a letter to my 19-year-old self. Besides it being my golden year (I turned 19 on the 19th), it was the year of a few major changes. The year I moved to and from Florida; the year I fell in love, and quickly got my heart broken. Unforunately, the list goes on. Needless to say, a letter was hard to write–let alone publish for the world to see. Here’s a list of things I’d want Young Ace to know.

Words of Wisdom to My Younger Self

Don’t dim your light to make other people comfortable.

You can’t trade in your rough past for an easy future, but it doesn’t work that way.

Don’t the ending of one friendship stop you from embracing another.

Acecily is a dope name.

Don’t let your head write checks your hustle can’t cash.

Be the example the best example of what it takes to love you.

What would you say to your younger self?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches