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Lessons I Learned As A Bridesmaid

October 8, 2016. I woke up to the noise of branches being slapped across the window. Did we evacuate to the wrong city? The smell of pancakes and French toast and the thought of drinking my chilled boxed wine lingered over me. The three-story building across from the Govenor’s Mansion held 13 of us: 6 kids and 7 adults. Two of those adults were supposed to be celebrating their wedding weekend, but Mother Nature had other plans. This Hurrication was bittersweet.

Lessons I Learned As a Bridesmaid -- The Palmetto Peaches

That’s right, the wedding we spent a year planning and celebrating was rescheduled. Instead of champagne toasts and a bouquet toss, we were testing I-26 lane reversals. Life throws us many curveballs. Those curveballs usually turn into life lessons, also known as, major keys and gems. The lessons I learned as a bridesmaid are no exception.

Lessons I Learned As a Bridesmaid

Eloping is underrated.

I will give my full support to anyone who chooses to skip the traditional marriage celebrations. Just like most “commercial” holidays, the love between 2 people has literally nothing to do with most of the stress that comes with the wedding planning process. Do I love participating in those celebrations? Yes. Do I think they’re necessary? Nah.

My time management skills are weak af.

I may have the same 24 hours in a day as Beyoncé, but not the same organization skills and team as the Queen. It feels like I will be catching up on sleep for at least a month. Between my clients, the blog, bridesmaid duties and maintaining a social life — I’se tired.

I need to learn to sew/hem.

To be clear, not as a career or even a legit hobby. Just having the skill would’ve been helpful and a hell of a lot cheaper than having to go to a seamstress. I asked a woman if she would teach me, and she said no. “You’ll hate it,” she said while folding 1 of the 4 layers of my dress, “If you don’t have a passion for it, you will hate it.”

Thoughts becoming things, but not everything can be controlled.

We shouldn’t give so much negative energy to the things we can’t control. I know from personal experience that this is easier said than done. It was so hard to see my cousin upset over things and people she had no control over. Maya Angelou said it best:

People will eventually show you who they really are.

Anyone can claim unconditional love for another through social media and text messages, but their true colors shine when it’s time for more action and less words. There’s another Maya Angelou quote for this one:

This isn’t my first time learning these lessons. History repeats itself, so I guess one more go ’round won’t hurt. What lessons have you learned from life’s curveballs?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

Bachelorette Party Must-Haves

She said yes, and it’s time for you to plan a lit bachelorette party. If the thought of marriage scares you, all the fun that comes with celebrating marriage might ease your mind. Traditionally, planning a celebration to honor the bride-to-be is the job of the Maid of Honor. I’m going to be a little shady and announce that I haven’t been granted the MOH title yet, but I’ve planned 2 bachelorette parties. I’m just a dope bridesmaid, duh.

The bachelorette party planning process is a lot of work regardless of who is planning the festivities. At the end of the day, the most important thing is the bride enjoying her last fling before the ring! Here are the must-haves to remember when you plan a bachelorette turn-up.Bachelorette Party Must Haves -- The Palmetto Peaches

Bachelorette Party Must-Haves

Theme

The theme for your bachelorette party is the most important detail, after date and location. Every must-have on this list is so much cuter when it compliments the theme. You might remember the Feyoncé Weekend from last year, but this year the theme was Mickey Mouse. Nope, not Minnie Mouse…Mickey!

Favors

Shirts, koozies, tumblers, temporary tattoos — the whole shabang! This is the time to show-off your theme for the weekend.
Tip: Remember to use nicknames on your shirts, in case you want to give your fake names to strangers in the club.
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Pictures and shirts by the amazing LJ Craft Life.

Social Media Presence

If you don’t have a Snapchat Filter or hashtag, did the bachelorette party really happen? I’m a huge fan of unplugging, and living in the moment, but this celebration needs some documentation. Use social media to share priceless moments with everyone missing out on the fun, and to laugh at later. Please remember to be respectful by keeping embarrassing pictures or videos to yourself, or don’t take them at all.
Tips: Set your Snapchat filters for multiple locations and for more time than you think you may need. Plans can change regardless of how far in advance you made them, so be prepared for that while setting up your filter. Visit Fiverr for custom geo-filters. Use my Fiverr referral code for a free filter or $5 off!
Bachelorette Party Must-Haves -- The Palmetto Peaches

Activities

It’s fun to play things by ear, but it’s nice to have some sort of direction–especially when you’re in a city you’re not familiar with. Add a Bachelorette Scavenger Hunt, dinner reservations, touristy activities to your itinerary.
Tips: Make sure you cater to what the bachelorette wants and likes. If you’re visiting a different city, try to visit places and see things that aren’t in your hometown.

Signature Cocktail

Choose a cocktail, or mocktail, that compliments your theme. Mickey mimosas was our drink of choice: champagne + orange juice + grenadine. If you don’t use Pinterest yet, planning a bachelorette party would be a good time to start!
Bachelorette Party Must-Haves -- The Palmetto Peaches

An amazing Bride Squad

Leave the party poopers and Negative Nancy’s at home. #YouCantSitWithUs The bachelorette party is one of your last chances to show the Future Mrs. why she chose you to be by her side in the first place. Don’t mess it up.
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Don’t forget to bring an open mind, patience and good vibes. This is a celebration after all! Have you ever planned a bachelorette party? What would you add to this list?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

How to Be an Amazing Bridesmaid

How to Be an Amazing Bridesmaid -- The Palmetto PeachesThere was a time when I thought bridesmaid duties only included planning a boozey bachelorette bash, picking a dress and learning to walk in heels.

I was wrong.

Being in a wedding party requires time, money and emotions. Those #WeddingGoals pictures don’t just happen overnight. Although it can be stressful, there are ways to help you keep your bestie and your sanity. Below are tips to help get your girl down the aisle while being an amazing bridesmaid. (Groomsmaids, this is for y’all too.)
How to Be an Amazing Bridesmaid -- The Palmetto Peaches

Get your finances and life in order immediately.

As soon as she posts that “I said yes!” Facebook status, you better get in formation. Connect with the other bridesmaids and MOHs, and make a to-do list. Being a bridesmaid isn’t cheap or easy, so the more time you have to prepare and organize, the better. Use social media and group texts to help make plans and answer questions.

Communicate effectively with the bride.

Don’t complain about every detail, but be upfront and honest when your feedback is needed. There are people who actually turn down invitations to be in their friend’s wedding because they can’t fully commit. If you can’t afford a $200 dress, or can’t attend the bridal shower–let her know in a timely manner.

Just get the damn dress.

Give suggestions while choosing the dress, but don’t argue with the bride. You only have to wear it for one day. If you”re forced to get a dress that doesn’t flatter you, then let her live with those awkward wedding photos for the rest of her life. Also, if it’s THAT bad, vent about it to someone else and get over it.

Turn up (or down) for the bachelorette party.

Other than an open bar reception, the bachelorette party is the best part of being a bridesmaid, but a huge throwdown isn’t always necessary.  Plan a celebration based on the bride’s personality and interests, not what you assume a bachelorette party is supposed to be like. Penis confetti and strippers don’t always equal a good time. Don’t play yourself trying to re-do The Hangover.
How to Be an Amazing Bridesmaid -- The Palmetto Peaches

Speaking of The Hangover, don’t blackout.

Bridesmaids deserve to let loose and have fun too, but keep in mind you’re representing the bride. This goes for the bachelorette party, bridal shower and reception. Stumbling down the street and slurring words while talking to her new family isn’t a good look for ya girl. If anything, you need to be alert enough to help carry her out of the bar, not the other way around.

Don’t steal the bride’s shine.

Enthusiasm is appreciated, but don’t takeover the show. This ain’t about you. She chose you to be by her side for a reason…to stay by her side, and not jump in front of her. Be cooperative, play nice with the other bridesmaids and don’t wear white to any event in honor of the bride-to-be. Simple.

Stay positive, but prepare for hell to break loose.

The future Mrs. is going to need your support.  Whether it’s to cry about obnoxious future in-laws or to help make wedding favors, be open to being down for whatever. Even a Bridezilla needs her Bride Tribe to have her back.

Have you been a bridesmaid before or preparing to be a bridesmaid?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

 

 

 

Bridesmaid photos: Gina Zeidler for Melanie Miller Wedding