7 Questions People With Unique Names Hate Answering

Unique names are bittersweet. While being the only *insert name here* on Facebook is great, the headache that comes along with it isn’t. Folks with unique names have no choice but to be great: Beyoncé, LeBron, Oprah, Acecily, Donnica — to name a few. We have to be great to forget all the stress and annoying questions we get in our daily lives.

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On top of never finding a souvenir, and giving a fake name to the Starbucks barista, there are several questions we are tired of answering.

7 Questions People With Unique Names Hate Answering

  1. “Did your mama really give you that name?”

    In my head I usually respond with, “Did your mama teach you to mind your business?” OLC people try to avoid calling me Ace because it’s a “man’s name”. K…7 Questions People with Unique Names Hate Answering - The Palmetto Peaches

  2. “Does it mean something, or did your parents make it up?”

    This one isn’t too bad. I appreciate genuine concern about my life, but just know that sometimes folks with unique names get this question A LOT. If I’m being introduced to new people at an event or bar, I answer hear question at least 5 times. Depending on my mood, the response changes.

  3. “Are you from here?”

    Because Americans can’t have names originated in other countries, I guess.7 Questions People With Unique Names Hate Answering - The Palmetto Peaches

  4. “Can I call you something else? I can’t say that.”

    Can you not?

  5. “Why is it spelled that way?”

    The same reason you’re so nosy. That’s an awful comeback, but whatever.

  6. “Can you break it down into phonics for me?”

    Okay, so no one has ever asked me that, technically. It really just reminds me of having to write the phonetic spelling of my name during my college graduation. Long story short, the announcer BUTCHERED it.

  7. “Is it hard for you to find souvenirs?”

    The fact that someone has to ask that should basically answer the question. Yes, it is hard. In fact, I’ve NEVER seen a keychain, t-shirt or Coke can with my the same name on birth certificate.

Do you have a unique name? What questions are you tired of answering?

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Awkward Questions to Ban from Your Dinner Table

My high school global studies teacher always told us:

There are three things you don’t discuss at the dinner table: money, religion and politics.

His words have been my life mantra ever since. I never minded telling folks, “sorry, I don’t discuss politics” in bars or parties. Like, can we talk about this when alcohol isn’t involved?

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Maybe I’m extra careful because I’ve lived a very far from traditional life. Disclaimer: Close friends and family members, who actually care about you and aren’t trying to control your life, may ask you the questions below. I’m referring to the nosy Sherlock Holmes’s who want to push their beliefs on you. Harsh? #IAintSorry 

Awkward Questions to Ban from Your Dinner Table

“What do your parents do for a living?”

I used to respond with, “I don’t have parents,” but that made things even more awkward. You know the movies where a poor person and rich person fall in love, and the rich family disapproves? That’s what this question reminds me of. It also reminds me of all the people who don’t have positive relationships with their whose parents, or the ones living without parents.

“When are you going to start having kids?” Followed by, “Why?” or “Why not?”

Please mind your own uterus friends. Aside from having the right to decide to not have kids, some people deal with infertility, miscarriages and other life changing issues.

“Did you gain weight?”

Actually, I avoid anything weight related. Unless I know the person was working towards a specific goal. Even “Did you lose weight?” is an awkward question for some. Stress, depression and sickness all effect weight. The last thing you need to do is bring it up for discussion around others.

“When are you going to get a ring on that finger?” Also see, “When are you going to put a ring on that finger?”

Let single folks be single in peace. What if you’re ruining a surprise proposal, or pressuring this person to settle for an idiot?

“Who did you vote for?”

This may also be disguised with, “How do you feel about the Presidential Election?” No. Nope. Nah. It’s a setup. A setup to sabotage dinner and/or friendships.

Moral of the story: ask yourself if this question is appropriate for a group setting before asking anything. Spark a conversation, but don’t set the damn room on fire. K? K!

What cringeworthy life questions have you been asked? If you don’t mind reliving it, comment below!

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Football Fireside Chat: SEC vs. ACC & The New National Champs

There are people who hate football, merely tolerate football and for others it’s a way of life. I woke up this morning to about approximately 7845468787 texts, Snapchats, Facebook tags, and carrier pigeon messages about old Clempson Clemmy Clemson Clemsux, Dabo and the greatness of the ACC. For those of you who may not know my alma mater,THE University of South Carolina, is the in-state rival of Clemsux. See below for actual footage of my response:

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But let’s back up, I’ve got some explaining to do.

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I went to a small Christian private school from 1st – 7th grade. At one point we had a “competitive” basketball team. I was a cheerleader (We are Evangel and our mascot is the Warriors. Clap. Stomp. Snap.) and played volleyball. We even had homecoming, but it wasn’t enough to give you that real fan experience. High school football was never a thing for me. I went to an arts school where we didn’t have any sports, but we did have cheerleaders. I’m still scratching my head on that one. So besides watching NFL games with my Dad, I didn’t really get rivalries or understand why people were so loyal to teams.

A Fan is Born

My freshman year at THE University of South Carolina changed that. While I was accepted into UNC (the other Carolina) and Spelman and visited those schools, USC felt like home the moment I stepped onto the historic Horseshoe. I’ve tripped up and down those aged bricks, camped out at Russell House for football tickets with strangers (yeah things weren’t always electronic, kids), passed out from heat exhaustion at Williams-Brice Stadium and had the best tailgating experiences with friends, old men (for another time), strangers, and rivals.

Thankful. 🍂 #UofSC

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Now I love all Gamecock sports. I witnessed our baseball team bring us back-to-back national championships. Our women’s basketball team is phenomenal and will be bringing home a championship soon and our men have gotten really good under Frank Martin and allowed me to witness some awesome upsets of #1 Kentucky. However, let’s just stick to football. Being a Gamecock football fan has taught me about heartbreak:

  1.  I watched Marcus Lattimore, the heart of our team, and just an overall good person, get injured not once, but twice. The video still makes me cry.
  2. This year we were crushed by Clemson 56-7, one of the biggest blowouts in series history.
  3. Losing at Kentucky in 2012 and at Tennessee in 2013 when we would have won the SEC East.
  4. Our 3-9 season last year.
  5. Losing the SEC championship to Cam Newton and the Auburn Tigers. I really don’t like Tigers…any tigers.

I could go on, but you get it. However, I’ve experienced some some high highs as well:

  1. Upsetting #1 Alabama 35-21 with old drunk Stephen Garcia
  2. The comeback in Columbia, Missouri
  3. The Goon Squad (see The Hit, DJ Swearinger, Melvin Ingram)
  4. The Five-Peat (2009-2013) over Clemsux
  5. Justin King Hype Videos
  6. This year’s win against Tennessee 

It’s the highs and lows that make me a Gamecock and I wouldn’t change that for the world.

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How to Survive Mercury Retrograde

What is Mercury Retrograde? Kathy Biehl and OM Times are going to help me explain this one.

“First, the technicalities: Mercury is retrograde when it’s traveling backwards. That’s an optical illusion, of course, and happens when the planet’s orbital speed changes in comparison to the earth’s. It’s the planetary equivalent of speeding up on a highway, passing a car and seeing it fall far behind after you in the rear-view mirror.

How this works: When Mercury is moving in reverse, the areas of life it governs do not play by the usual rules. Anything related to communication and travel requires extra attention. This includes phones, computers and electronic devices, the mail (remember that?), cars, public transportation and commutes.”

From December 19th, 2016 to January 8th, 2017 Mercury will be in retrograde in earth-sign Capricorn. Shoutout to my fellow G.O.A.T.S! To some of you that means absolutely nothing, while some of you maybe seeking shelter in your adult fort.

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Maybe it’s all in our minds, but here’s what I’m doing to get through the weird communication and technology struggle this year.

How to Survive Mercury Retrograde

Take responsibility.

Please don’t play yourself by blaming your bad decision making on Mercury Retrograde. You did not spend your rent money on a new wardrobe because the planets and stars are out for a twirl. Keep in mind that although this phase lasts a few weeks–the decisions you make could last forever. FOR-EH-VAH.

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Change your perspective.

Mercury Retrograde is a great time to reflect. If you’re going to be stuck in your feelings for a while, you might as well try to make sense of it. A few months ago, I lost precious sleep over this thing called life. There’s an actual note in my iPhone which reads, “What am I doing?” Instead of thinking the universe is against me, I try to switch my attitude. Lately I’ve been saying yaaas to things I normally let anxiety control, and nah to things that didn’t sit well with me.

Write down your feelings and thoughts. 

Writing works for some, but maybe you’re the thinking out loud type. In that case, sitting down for a face-to-face conversation or a phone call might be your thang. If you have tendencies to overreact or overthink, putting it on paper is a good first step to clear your head. My journal has stopped me from saying PLENTY of stupid things. Trust me.

Don’t make any super serious life decisions.

…with lots of emphasis on “super serious”. This is where I went wrong in the past. For years I thought my birthdate was jinxed. Now I blame Mercury, and 2016 was the first time I made the connection. Last year’s party was “a time” for lack of better words. I’m still too salty to share those series of unfortunate events publicly. Just believe me when I say that although I’ve had A LOT of great celebrations in my life–there are 28 years of awkward, sketchy and sad birthday stories to be told.

 

The world isn’t coming to an end (at least for now), but life maybe a little crazy during these times. Just grab your sage wand, meditation playlist and good vibes. You got this!

Have you ever felt the force of Mercury Retrograde? How did you survive?

Ace Siggy--The Palmetto Peaches

Detox January

I read somewhere (probably Cosmo) that January is the month of the detox. So let’s get to detoxing, people. Now I’m not talking about one of those juice only cleanses or alcohol-free months. Scandal is back later this month and I need my wine. I’m thinking more of a detox of unhealthy habits.Detox January - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com

detox

noun, often attributive ; de·tox \ˈdē-ˌtäks, di-ˈtäks\
1. a process or period of time in which one abstains from or rids the body of toxic or unhealthy substances; detoxification.
Although, my title says Detox January, I’m actually proposing a yearlong detox from the following things:

self-doubt

Unfortunately, I find that I easily get distracted by the things that go wrong and it feeds into my self-doubt. So I’m countering that by writing daily affirmations in my journal. Positive affirmations help us believe in our potential and strengthen our minds.  Buh-bye, self-doubt!!

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excuses and fear

“Perfection isn’t real, but progress is.”  I sometimes make excuses because I’m afraid. A lot of that comes from fear of failing. However, that fear has probably kept me from some really great experiences. I had the opportunity to graduate early and go intern in New Zealand my senior year in college. My excuse for saying no was that I was going to miss out on my full college experience. In reality, I was just afraid to go to a new country on my own and I one hundred percent regret not going. I find myself erring on the side of caution still when presented with crazy, cool opportunities because what if I suck/fail/, but I never want to miss out on a potentially life-changing experience because of fear. So fear and excuses, you’ve got to go.

Comparing my life on social media

I think we’ve all used social media to judge how our life is going by comparing it to other people’s social media feeds. Why doesn’t my hair grow as fast as hers? What is she using for her twist outs? Oh, my-lanta, her planner decor is on another level! Did she just get another promotion? She’s got a boo? She got a ring? All I have is my puppy and pizza.  I’m not going to stop scrolling because that’s an impossible goal, but I can definitely stop comparing my life to what’s being presented on social media. I have to remember that a lot of what I see has been carefully curated to present a certain image or to promote their brand. I think that’s why I’ve started to gravitate to bloggers who keep it real, show their messy kitchens and hair, and makeup free faces once in awhile. Sayonara, comparisons. 

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What do you need to abstain from in your life? Leave a comment with your detox plans.

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Happy Holidays!!

 

Merry Christmas and happy holidays to all of our readers!

Sometimes the holidays can be stressful so our wish for all of our readers is that you all have an amazing, enjoyable and wonderful holiday. Sip on holiday cocktails and munch on some yummy treats.

We’re going to take a few days off, spend time with family and friends and recharge our creativity. We’ll be back in 2017 with new content and hope to connect to more of you.

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Peace out 2016! You’ve been…interesting.

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