Last week I read a post by Blissfully Brunette that shared 5 of her favorite blog posts from the month of September. We’re quickly approaching the season of giving, so why not give the gift of good reads?
Despite all the blogger myths and stereotypes, let me tell you one more time that blogging isn’t easy. Therefore, as part of the blogging community, it’s my job to help spread the love by sharing some of my favorite (October) blog posts.
On top of this being one of my favorite lines from Solange’s “A Seat at the Table”, I just love a good post about consciousness. You’d have to be living under a rock (like I wish I was sometimes) to not know about the nerve-wrecking current events. However, pretending like issues don’t exist makes you part of the problem. Everyone should use their platforms responsibly, and even us free-spirited artists, should be held accountable.
In the words of the great Erykah Badu, “I’m an artist, and I’m sensitive about my sh*t”. The rise of social media made it easier to get exposure, AND easier to be criticized. Read this if sharing your work makes you anxious, or if you’re in a creative rut. Let me take this moment to also thank Monika for introducing me to the #DoItForTheProcess hashtag.
I do believe everyone should travel for the experience and culture, but I don’t support criticizing others who haven’t had the opportunity. Yep, Courtney called out the travel-shamers, and I’m here for it. It is possible to be helpful without forcing your beliefs on others. You bought a round-trip ticket this month instead of an iPhone? Good for you! Now spend time on your trip being thankful for the privilege, instead of worrying about the “competition”.
If you’re too embarrassed to admit how much time you spend on your phone or computer, read this. Being present is easier said than done for a lot of us. Working for the weekend, taking care of our loved ones, documenting everything on Snapchat– can all distract us from being present. Dave’s post is for all of us who struggle to stay “in the now”, or in need of advice on how to start.
What are some of your favorite blog posts, or bloggers, these days? Drop a link or name in the comments for me to check out!
Here’s my disclaimer. You’re either going to laugh at me at the end of this post or totally hate me for bringing back some repressed feelings of grief for fictional characters that you may have finally made peace with. My apologies. I read a lot and I watch a lot of TV. Because of this, I’ve got a lot of thoughts and feelings about fictional characters. I’ve shared a few of my fictional crushes, but I need to process some heavier emotions.
Raise your hands if you’ve ever grieved a fictional death?
Yup, I’m going there. On Sunday The Walking Dead gut punched me and countless others as they brutally killed off two amazing characters. One in particular hurt like hell. Glenn Rhee, the beautiful soul and father-to-be, who in my opinion was the true soul of the show was snatched from our screens. He managed to utter four beautiful last words to the love of his life and from the mass hysteria spreading across the interwebs you would have thought a real person died. I’ve read the comics and knew that Glenn was going to meet his fate. That didn’t make watching Denny Duquette Negan beat Glenn to a pulp any easier. But he’s not even, real!, you say. Uh, I know that, but he’s been gracing my screen for seven years. I’ve watched his character grow and evolve. Suddenly, he’s gone. Can’t a girl feel a sense of loss?
I’m sure every fandom has a few fictional deaths they’ll never let go of. Hell, I’m still angry at Rose for being selfish and not sharing that wardrobe door with Jack. Empathy and sympathy are phenomena we experience almost daily in our dealings with others, and they play key roles in the way we respond to fictional characters.
“These characters are an escape from some of the stresses of life,” he said. “Watching these shows allows you to decompress and not have to think about things for a little while. You’re exposed to different aspects of the characters’ lives — their losses, their loves and their own griefs, everything that goes into the human condition — and you eventually begin to empathize with them and form an attachment. We see some of ourselves in them.”
Because of these emotional bonds we form watching certain characters, it’s perfectly understandable that we mourn their loss when they die on a show, Rowney continued.
Let me start by saying this isn’t in any particular order and I’m leaving Glenn off this list.
1. Poussey Washington, Orange Is The New Black
Poussey’s death was spoiled for me because I had the audacity not to watch all the episodes the day they were released on Netflix. I hope you read that in the most sarcastic tone ever. However, it still hurt, especially with the recent deaths of black people by the hands of law enforcement.
2.The Young Ones, The Hunger Games
Primose Everdeen and sweet, innocent Rue. Lawddd why?! I know the tributes are going to die, but I closed my book/shutdown my Kindle when we lost little Rue. To make matters worse, Prim’s death is the reason Katniss chooses Peeta – which I wholeheartedly disagree with.
3. Jen Lindley, Dawson’s Creek
I became a puddle of tears watching Jen Lindley record a goodbye video for her daughter. Also, can we talk about the choice of having Sarah McLachlan’s Angel play during this scene- like we weren’t already suffering.
Dear John Green: The Fault In Our Stars was already sad then you riddled Gus with cancer and gave us this eulogy from Hazel.
“I can’t talk about our love story, so I will talk about math. I am not a mathematician, but I know this. There is an infinite between 0 and 1. There’s .1 and .12 and .112 and an infinite collection of others. Of course there is a bigger infinite set of numbers between 0 and 2, or between 0 and a million. Some infinities are bigger than other infinities. A writer we used to like taught us that. There are days, many days of them, when I resent the size of my unbounded set. I want more numbers than I’m likely to get, and God, I want more numbers for Augustus Waters than he got. But, Gus, my love, I cannot tell you how thankful I am for our little infinity. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. You have me a forever within the numbered days, and I’m grateful.”
9. Tris Prior, The Divergent Series
I’m still not convinced this death had to happen. Veronica Roth, get at me girl. I need to chat with you about this one.
If none of these fictional deaths registered with you shame on you I’m going to give you one more chance to prove you’re not heartless.
10. Mufasa from the Lion King
I hope the sadistic Disney writer who suggested this particular scene is proud of himself. I am 27 years old and Mufasa’s death is still one of the most tragic things I’ve ever seen.
Hmm, I may have to make a Part Two of this list. Which fictional deaths would you add to this list? Leave a comment below.
The life of a blogger isn’t perfect. However, sometimes a blogger’s social media presence will give off an illusion that it’s all amazing outfits, exclusive events, free products, latte art, perfect twist-outs and/or model-like messy buns. No. Just no. Don’t let some of these Instagram feeds fool you and don’t make those assumptions about the Palmetto Peaches.
Camera rolls will prove that what ends up on Instagram was likely take 12 of 15. Staged. We’re not all cranking out posts on Macs and making money off our E-books. Although, some bloggers are and we can’t knock their hustle. So here’s some thoughts on common blogger myths and stereotypes – Palmetto Peaches’ style.
Blogger Myths and Stereotypes
“People become bloggers because they want to be famous.”
Oh okay…We’re still waiting for our E! reality show offers to come in and our sponsorship from SheaMoisture. This blog began as a creative outlet and a way to start an online conversation with girls like us: supporters of coffee, liquor, laughter and sweatpants.
“Every blogger I see has an obsession with Starbucks, planners, and labels.”
We both have Gold Starbucks Rewards cards, but we also rack up bonus stars during challenges and hoard those bad boys for free coffees when out bank accounts aren’t looking too good. Yes, Donni has a planner obsession, but it’s because she’s on the spectrum for Type A aka Type Awesome. She’s been carrying around a planner since 5th grade so it’s not a “blogger thing”.
“Blogging can’t be that hard.”
Well let’s see. First we have to brainstorm about new content, write the content, create graphics, confirm that our SEO is on point, promote the posts, and respond to comments. Don’t forget that we’re also balancing work and social lives. Blogging, when done correctly, takes a lot of energy and a huge time commitment. It is fun, but it’s also hard work.
“You’rE a reporter…like a journalist. You have to write about whatever Is trending.”
While both of the Palmetto Peaches have degrees in journalism, that ain’t us. One of the first things we set straight before creating this blog was to avoid becoming entertainment or gossip bloggers. Nothing against bloggers who take that route (they’re actually some of favorites), but we knew early-on that our posts would be more about our lives and not other people’s.
“Bloggers are self-involved.”
Not going to lie, there are some situations where we’d rather be locked away with our computers and cameras than deal with the real world–but we aren’t self-involved. Bloggers usually try to use their personal experiences to help readers solve a problem or discover a new passion. Yes, we occasionally rant and rave, but who doesn’t?
If you know us personally, what did you think when we told you we were starting a blog? Bloggers, what are some myths and stereotypes you hear?
Truth: Sometimes Ace and I will text each other something on the lines of:
Can I post tomorrow? I’m just not feeling it.
Creativity isn’t reserved for artists. Creative thinking skills and coming up with original ideas are useful in a wide variety of fields. So we’ve all had those moments when we’re just uninspired and unable to create or produce anything.
“Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn’t really do it, the just saw something. It seemed obvious to them after a while” – Steve Jobs
A constant push for creativity can leave you burnt out and unhappy. For me, this blog is my creative outlet. I don’t really have that many opportunities to showcase my creativity at my 9 to 5. However, sometimes the blog can feel more like work than my actual job when I’m experiencing a creative block or I feel like I’m forcing myself to be creative. So today I’m sharing seven ways to recharge your creativity.
For most creative pursuits,with the exception of performing arts, you pretty much have to remain stationary as you work on your project and many jobs require that sit at your desk all day. Give yourself a reason to stretch out your muscles and move. Expending energy can jump start your body and brain.
Try a new creative outlet or hobby.
If you’re a writer – you cannot write all the time. Hello, burnout. Find something else you love to do and you’ll end up valuing the time you spend on your art even more. Check out Ace’s post on hobbies. Look into taking a class to further your skills or to learn something new entirely – this could be your new source of inspiration.
Break your routine.
Do some of your work outdoors on a coffee shop patio, or take your laptop to a new part of the office. Sometimes you just need a change of scenery to give yourself the opportunity to refocus or to be inspired again.
Don’t let a deadline limit your creativity.
Trust me. I understand deadlines. My job consists of nothing but timelines and immovable deadlines. However, sometimes we can let our time limit pressure us into just creating a product without allocating time for thinking and brainstorming. Quick results may impress, but I’d bet innovation would be considered even more impressive.
“Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try” – Dr. Seuss
Find a buddy.
Another great way to recharge your creativity is get a new perspective. Seek out a coworker or friend to run your idea by. However, don’t limit the people you speak with to only those who are artistic or creative by nature. Sometimes it’s the people who think the most unlike you, that will spark your creativity.
Revisit past ideas.
Circle back on things you’ve created in the past to help spark new ideas.Y’all should know by now that I’m a list girl and I keep a notebook and pen with me at all times. For example, when I’m looking for inspiration for new blog posts, I flip through my notebook for ideas. If you’re not a notebook and pen kind of person – start a running list on your phone and jot down your observations.
Get some zzzzs.
Sleep. Well that sounds reasonable right? Check out the research. A 2009 study from the University of California – San Diego found that participants who spent more time in REM sleep performed better on tests that demanded creative problem-solving. A 2012 study from Georgetown University, suggests that taking a power nap can boost your creativity. In my research, I also found a number of articles that outlined how dreaming and daydreaming enhances creativity.
So peeps, I hope these tips are helpful and I’ll leave you with a quote:
“Creativity is contagious, pass it on” – Albert Einstein
How do you recharge your creativity? Leave your tips and tricks in the comments below!
October 8, 2016. I woke up to the noise of branches being slapped across the window. Did we evacuate to the wrong city? The smell of pancakes and French toast and the thought of drinking my chilled boxed wine lingered over me. The three-story building across from the Govenor’s Mansion held 13 of us: 6 kids and 7 adults. Two of those adults were supposed to be celebrating their wedding weekend, but Mother Nature had other plans. This Hurrication was bittersweet.
That’s right, the wedding we spent a year planning and celebrating was rescheduled. Instead of champagne toasts and a bouquet toss, we were testing I-26 lane reversals. Life throws us many curveballs. Those curveballs usually turn into life lessons, also known as, major keys and gems. The lessons I learned as a bridesmaid are no exception.
Lessons I Learned As a Bridesmaid
Eloping is underrated.
I will give my full support to anyone who chooses to skip the traditional marriage celebrations. Just like most “commercial” holidays, the love between 2 people has literally nothing to do with most of the stress that comes with the wedding planning process. Do I love participating in those celebrations? Yes. Do I think they’re necessary? Nah.
My time management skills are weak af.
I may have the same 24 hours in a day as Beyoncé, but not the same organization skills and team as the Queen. It feels like I will be catching up on sleep for at least a month. Between my clients, the blog, bridesmaid duties and maintaining a social life — I’se tired.
I need to learn to sew/hem.
To be clear, not as a career or even a legit hobby. Just having the skill would’ve been helpful and a hell of a lot cheaper than having to go to a seamstress. I asked a woman if she would teach me, and she said no. “You’ll hate it,” she said while folding 1 of the 4 layers of my dress, “If you don’t have a passion for it, you will hate it.”
Thoughts becoming things, but not everything can be controlled.
We shouldn’t give so much negative energy to the things we can’t control. I know from personal experience that this is easier said than done. It was so hard to see my cousin upset over things and people she had no control over. Maya Angelou said it best:
People will eventually show you who they really are.
Anyone can claim unconditional love for another through social media and text messages, but their true colors shine when it’s time for more action and less words. There’s another Maya Angelou quote for this one:
It’s not “When can I meet your parents?”— or the ever-so-awful “Paper or plastic?” It’s even worse…
“What are you doing?”
My answer to this question is usually a lie…
Answering this question is like saying you’re fine when someone asks how you’re doing. Instead of venting about frustration or expressing excitement, we hit them with a vague response. ‘I’m okay’, ‘Great! How are you?’
I read a Quiet Revolution article that said introverts avoid small talk because there’s no meaning behind the conversation, and it feels forced. This is true. The author, Jennifer Granneman, dropped a real gem with:
“In reality, most introverts are drained by small talk because it feels fake and meaningless. When you exchange pleasantries or chat about the weather to avoid silence, you don’t learn anything new or gain a better understanding of your conversation partner.”
Amirite?! The “scariest question ever” also reminds me of sneaky children. It’s what I ask when my nephews get too quiet, and the question my mama asked me when I took too long to do what she told me to do. Other than avoiding conversations all together, I stick with my go-to answer: ‘nothing‘. However, I’m rarely ever simply not doing anything.