Let’s Rap About Mental Health

Let's Rap About Mental Health - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comI guess I’ll start with the news: Kanye West, who late last month abruptly canceled the rest of his Saint Pablo Tour and was taken to UCLA Medical Center on a psychiatric hold, has finally checked out. Kanye “[was] exhausted and currently dealing with sleep deprivation,” People quoted a source as saying. “He went to the hospital at will under the advice of his physician.”

There’s been hundred of articles about the theories behind Kanye’s breakdown, but I thought I would also mention another hip hop artist that sparked discussions about mental health.

Then there was Kid Cudi…

I like Kid Cudi. I loved Man on the Moon: The End of Day. Seriously, Pursuit of Happiness still does something for me seven years later. I loved him on How To Make It In America and I secretly want Netflix to revive this series (even if it’s just for a Gilmore Girls style reunion). Back in October, Kid Cudi checked himself into rehab for depression and suicidal thoughts. The message he posted on his Facebook page is below:

Let's Rap About Mental Health - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comI deserve to have peace. I deserve to be happy and smiling. Why not me?

Kid Cudi is a father, a son, a friend, an artist who has made the world a better place with his music. It was so amazing to see him seek help before he did something to hurt himself and the people who love him. He has helped so many people struggling with their own mental health issues through his music.Not only that, but because he is a celebrity, his openness combats the stigma that persists regarding mental illness.

This conversation on mental health must be normalized, and become just as important as our other health issues we need to address in life.

 

#yougoodman

There are days when I despise social media. However, I loved seeing the hashtag #yougoodman start trending after Kid Cudi’s message. People began to have open and honest discussions on race, masculinity, and depression. However, I’ve watched news and social media blame the Kardashians, diagnose Kanye with everything under the sun, laugh and taunt him. I didn’t see #Yougoodman trending after the Kanye news. I get it.  We don’t really know what’s going on. Yeezy didn’t leave us a public statement like Kid Cudi did and he isn’t the most lovable character. However, if this really is a mental health issue, why are we making fun of him?

He’s someone who’s obviously dealing with something heavy and it’s been weighing on him. I was talking to a friend about the situation and he kind of causally and callously said that Kanye just needs to get over his mother’s death already. I talk to my mom every single day and I can’t imagine how I would react if I lost her suddenly. And if that truly is the reason for Kanye’s breakdown, we should be even more sympathetic. He may just be an annoying and outspoken celebrity to you, but I personally like Kanye West’s music and – you can argue you with me on this – truly think he’s an artist and definitely a musical genius who’s been reshaping the sound of hip hop with each album he releases.  Celebrity or not, it must be hard to experience that kind of pain.

I just want to say that for anyone, friend or stranger:

You are important.

Your health is important.

Your mental health is important.

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How To Be A Successful Freelancer

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Choosing to become a freelancer isn’t taking the easy way out. That “work for yourself” lifestyle may look like it’s all about living in a coffee shop, and non-stop deposits into your bank account–but it’s not. If you’re looking for a career change/adjustment in the new year, remember to follow these tips before taking that leap of faith.

How To Be A Successful Freelancer

Do the research

Please know what you’re getting yourself into, before making a big deal of it. There’s no such thing as the perfect time to chase a dream, but it doesn’t hurt to be well prepared. The more you know, the more confident you’ll be in your work, and the more credible you’ll seem to your clients.

Get organized

Freelancers juggle multiple projects at once. Unlike working for a business that provides you office space and work calendars, you have to create your own workspace and schedule.  (You also have to buy your own Post-It notes and highlighters.) Utilize physical calendars, apps and electronics to help keep you on track.

Know the worth of your services and/or product

If you’re like me, you hate talking about money. You know what you will hate even more? Doing a job for half the amount you should be doing it for. Although freelance and contract employees are typically less expensive than hiring a corporation, that doesn’t mean the work isn’t as valuable. Kudos to those who stick to their price list, but if you’re going to adjust your payment, make sure you also adjust the workload.

With that being said…

know your own worth

As a freelancer, I’m guilty of taking on projects that leave me overworked and underpaid. Don’t be me. You can be inspired by others and try to follow their footsteps, but everyone’s journey will be different. Your version of success may not look like the success of someone else. Just because Sarah made 6 figures after a year of blogging, doesn’t mean you’ll achieve the same goal exactly the way she did.

Network

Even if you hate it, you have to get your work out there. How else will your target audience know what you have to offer? Hang in there introverts. Social networking is great too, but you’re going to have to brave a few crowds and awkward ice breakers at some point. Try to find networking events specifically for freelancers, or for the field you’re pursuing a career in.

Continue to learn

Even as a teacher, you can be a student. When I first started my freelancer journey; I consistently joked about having to go back to school so the “young folks” wouldn’t graduate and steal my job(s). Maybe I joked too much, because that’s more real than ever. Take classes, read, ask questions, get a mentor–whatever it takes to keep you at the top of your game. There are too many tools and resources out there to fall behind. You got books, blogs, webinars, chats, Google, Snaps – you naaaaaame it!
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Are you a freelancer? What advice would you add to this list?

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Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner?

Guess Who's Coming To Dinner? (2016 Edition) - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.comWe’re grateful to be able to share another Thanksgiving holiday with our readers! As usual, we’re still grateful for family, friends and wine. Last year, we made a list of people, dead or alive, who we wanted to invite to Thanksgiving dinner. This year, we’re keeping it more on the alive side.

First and foremost, we have to invite President Barack Obama and our slayful First Lady, Michelle Obama. It’s  our last Thanksgiving with them, and we’re in our feelings about it.

Ace’s DINNER GUESTS

Solange. I’m gladly giving Solange a seat at the table. While I’m not opposed to Beyoncé being her +1, I just have to talk the woman behind one of my newest, favorite albums. We’re all “adults” here, so I’m going to admit to being jealous of Solange when growing up. She was the star I thought I would be, which is one reason why admire the hard work and soul she put into A Seat at the Table.

Sarah Paulson. Yes, there are American Horror Story questions for her to answer. However, I need to hear her cover Salt & Pepa’s “Shoop”.
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Luvvie Ayaji. Her writing style, technology skills and philanthropy accomplishments are #RealLifeGoals. Confession: a few years ago I emailed Luvvie about being her assistant. We set up an interview and then life happened. I didn’t try too hard to chase the opportunity, and allowed personal issues to get in my way. Our paths will cross soon, but until then, I’ll continue to cackle at her commentary on current events and television shows.

 

Donni’s Dinner Guests

Along with the POTUS and FLOTUS, I really would love to share dinner with the Joe and Jill Biden. I’m unashamed about the following fact: I love Joe Biden. I’ve had a “Cup of Joe” mug with his face on it since 2008. Before everyone was going crazy over sexy young Joe Biden and sharing the Biden memes I’ve had a slightly unhealthy  obsession with him and Dr. Jill. They are my favorites!

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle – I don’t think they’ve been officially seen them together, but their relationship was confirmed earlier this month by when Prince Harry issued an official statement blasting all the social media trolls harassing his girlfriend with racist comments.  Meghan is an actress on Suits, but is also an activist and lifestyle blogger. Markle was spotted going in and out of Harry’s place at the back of Kensington Palace wearing his baseball cap and carrying groceries from Whole Foods. You know just casually bringing in groceries into the palace. Love her. Here’s a excerpt from an essay she just penned:

“With fame comes opportunity, but it also includes responsibility — to advocate and share, to focus less on glass slippers and more on pushing through glass ceilings. And, if I’m lucky enough, to inspire”.

So I want to hear their story and any wedding plans already in the works. Move over Princess Kate! (although, I love her too.)

Ava Duvernay – I love this everything about this woman and if she wants to bring Oprah as a plus one – I’m completely okay with that. Ava killed it this year with Queen Sugar and her documentary 13th. She’s currently in production on Disney’s “A Wrinkle in Time,” that has made her the first black woman to direct a movie with a budget of more than $100 million. Yass queen. I just want to sip a holiday cocktail with her and pick her brain.

Val Chmerkovskiy – Why do I want to share a meal with Val….

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Plus, he’s basically a sweet teddy bear. I love him on Dancing With the Stars, but this season with Laurie – who is the most precious thing ever- has been awesome to watch.

 

Who would you invite to your holiday dinner?

 

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9 Things I’m Adding To My Gratitude Jar

A gratitude jar is similar to a gratitude journal. Regardless of how cute it’s designed, the main goal is to record what you’re grateful for on a regular basis– also known as counting your blessings. Some people use them year round, but Thanksgiving week is the unofficial start of the season of giving.

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For lack of better words, 2016 has been A YEAR. A stressful, heartbreaking, annoying year. Oprah said 28 was a great time for her, so I firmly believed it would be all fruits and berries on my end too. I was wrong. Although my 2016 wasn’t personally as “drunk” as 2014, there were some bumps along the way.

When things aren’t going in the direction I hope, it’s easy to focus on everything that’s going wrong. You may have heard the saying, “Gratitude is the best attitude.” So, in efforts to shift my thoughts– every morning (after my meditation and before my coffee), I’ll write one or more things I’m grateful for to be added to a gratitude jar.

I’m actually only using a mason jar from my cousin’s wedding. With a little gold star confetti, I added a little character to it. If the food coma isn’t too intense, I’ll make one with a little more pazaaz on Thanksgiving with my family. Until that masterpiece is created, I’m taking notes in my gratitude journal of what will be dropped in my jar.

9 Things I’m Adding to My Gratitude Jar

I’m still here. Some days didn’t feel as magical as others, but I still got it.

My relationships aren’t in shambles. Forgiveness is VERY hard, but it’s never too late to try.

I saw Beyoncé in concert twice in one year. That’s important. Don’t debate me.

My nephews are healthy. Sometimes annoying, but healthy.

My clients still believe in me. Even when I secretly want to hide in a cave and vanish from social media, they’re still around.

I’m not homeless. I’ll probably write this one about 3-5 times per day.

Coffee still exists. You know why this is here.

I still have enough energy to write blog posts. The consistency struggle is mad real.

Seasons change, but my love for wine stays the same. I know material things aren’t always blessings, but I have to give credit where credit is due.

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Imagine sitting down after a few weeks or months of to read what you added to your gratitude jar. Good energy and good vibes to go around.

Do you have a gratitude jar, or anything to help you count your blessings? Has it helped you be more grateful?

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Just Keep Plannin’ – November Printable

I’ve got a list of planner stickers I want to create, but haven’t gotten to them yet. Sorry, planner peeps, moving is hard. Even with all my lists and organization. I’m seriously thinking about picking up a Silhouette Cameo on Black Friday or Cyber Monday.  I’m just thinking about all the crafts I can make. I could even make pre-cut stickers. DIY everything!! Let me know if you have thoughts or a favorite Silhouette machine. In the meantime, I thought I would make a quick printable that many of you could benefit from for the November printable.

Menu Planner (November Printable)

Thanksgiving is right around the corner. Really, it’s next Thursday! This is a menu planner I created for weekly meal planning, but  it will definitely come in handy as you prepare your Friends-giving or  your traditional family feast.

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* This printable from The Palmetto Peaches is for PERSONAL USE ONLY.
*You MAY NOT RESELL, redistribute, or claim the original or derivative designs as your own.
*If you post this on the internet, please give credit to The Palmetto Peaches and link back to our blog (www.palmsinatl.com), so others can obtain the resources.

You can access the .pdf file here or simply click on the picture above for the download.

 If you’re looking specifically for printable stickers check out last November’s planner stickers or head over to our planner sticker collection. Until next time!

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10 Self Date Ideas for Autumn Anxiety

Me: I love the fall.

Also me: I just wanna stay in bed all day, with myself and pizza.

What’s Autumn Anxiety? It’s that icky feeling you get that won’t go away despite all of the pumpkin spice, early Christmas decorations and cozy sweaters. Between the shorter days, not wanting to leave a warm bed and the New Year quickly approaching– fall can take a toll on our emotional and mental states.

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One may think this post is for lonely, single folks, but nah. As much as some claim their lives and partners are perfect –that’s rarely the case. You’re never too perfect for alone time, or a mental health break.

You may need a self date if…

  • Your friends or lover hates your new, favorite band.
  • Money is tight, and you don’t want to pay for the person you extended the invitation to.
  • You have a case of the blues, and want to shake out of it on your own terms and with your own money.
Disclaimer: This list is just for fun. Please seek advice from a medical professional if you’re looking for ways to treat anxiety and/or depression.

 

10 Self Date Ideas for Autumn Anxiety

Take a yoga class.

Yoga is a great way to get the good vibes flowing. A self date to a yoga class is ideal because yoga poses can be hella awkward for beginners. If your friends are like mine, you’ll probably laugh the entire time and get banned.

Drink responsibly at happy hour.

Sometimes you just need to enjoy a hot toddy in an environment other than your home. I used to hit up happy hour solo all the time after work. Bartenders and other folks there alone would always strike up a conversation with me.

Check out open mic or improv night.

If you don’t have a way with words, hearing the stories of others and listening to them express their emotions can help articulate your personal feelings.

See a local band in concert.

Check out a band you’ve never heard of, or one you’ve been wanting to hear. Smaller crowds and cheaper ticket prices are also a plus if you’ve only seen “big” artists in concert.

Get a massage.

I’ve never had a (professional) massage. A self date would be a great time to go, so I can avoid my friends taking pictures of me falling asleep during the massage.

Volunteer.

Gratitude is the best attitude. Give your time to an organization that needs it. Although volunteering is tons of fun in groups, visiting alone doesn’t hurt either. Think outside the box when volunteering. There are lots of opportunities behind-the-scenes: cleaning, admin work, offering transportation etc.

Take a mini road trip.

Try a long drive and car karaoke for your troubles.

Indulge in a culinary or history tour.

Enjoy the good eats and hidden gems by being a tourist in your town. This just reminded me that I won 2 tickets to a culinary tour, and I might go alone…twice!

Visit a museum.

A little culture never hurt nobody. Museums (usually) require more thinking and less talking. A self date wouldn’t be too awkward since you’re just soaking up all the knowledge.

Attend a workshop or conference.

Workshops and conferences are a cool way to meet like-minded individuals while brushing up on a specific skill or hobby. These types of events aren’t as cheap as treating yourself to a coffee self date, so they may take a little more time to plan.

Have you ever been on a self date? Where did you go and.or what did you do? Tweet me or comment below!

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