February is almost over, but feel free to carry this Black History Month Playlist into Melanin March and every other month in the year. I didn’t pick these songs because they’re about “being black”. Some of the jams celebrate blackness, some remind me of my family, friends, and childhood, while others remind me of the struggle. Instead of explaining why this playlist is so necessary to me, I’ll let Tina Lawson school ya.
“It’s such beauty in black people, and it really saddens me when we’re not allowed to express that pride in being black, and that if you do, then it’s considered anti-white. No! You just pro-black. And that’s okay. The two don’t go together. Because you celebrate black culture does not mean that you don’t like white culture or that you putting it down. It’s just taking pride in it, but what’s irritating is when somebody says, you know, “They’re racist!”, “That’s reverse racism!” or, “They have a Black History Month, but we don’t have a White History Month!”
Well, all we’ve ever been taught is white history. So, why are you mad at that? Why does that make you angry? That is to suppress me and to make me not be proud.”
-Interlude: Tina Taught Me (A Seat at the Table)
Let’s be honest, A Seat at the Table (Solange) and To Pimp A Butterfly (Kendrick Lamar) could’ve made up for half of this playlist, but that was too easy. Let me also point out that Beyoncé’s Lemonade isn’t on Spotify, along with a handful of other songs I wanted to add to this playlist — but I did my best! Enjoy and remember to never turn down!
Warning: I tried to find “clean” versions, but some songs may contain explicit language.
Black History Month Playlist
What songs would you add to the Black History Month Playlist? Leave a comment, and maybe I’ll add it!
I’ve touched on the difficulty of making new friends before, but what about the friends you already have. One of my goals for this year was to put more effort into maintaining and cultivating stronger friendships. I’ve thought a lot about why it’s so easy to drift apart from the people you love so much. I finally realized for me, it’s because my friends and I are in all different stages of life.
I’m 27. Single – not actively looking, but open to a relationship. I’m focused on my career and perfectly happy being a fur parent. I love kids, but at this stage I can’t imagine trying to find a babysitter to watch my kid when I want to have a wild night in Buckhead. I also don’t want to go out every weekend. I’m perfectly content with parking my body on the couch with Netflix or a good book, my pup, and sweatpants (wine is always included).
Some of my friends are married. Some of my friends are married with kid(s). Others are out every weekend, waking up with hangovers. I’ve got a few friends who are actively trying to lock down a significant others, while others are on every dating app – just looking for hookups. A few people have never left our hometown, while others are traveling every chance they have. Some are still doing what we were doing at 21 (how Sway? Is your liver okay?) others have started companies.
So what’s a girl to do to stay connected?
Friendships take work
Don’t forget about how your friends have been there for you. Likely, they’ve seen you through something – even if it was just a rough finals week. Then think about what connected you. Friendships take work, just like any other relationship. So you’ll have to put in a little effort. I’ve been lucky to hold on to a few of my friendships from high school. Oddly enough, I’ve also become very close with some people I went to high school with, but would not – at that time – even think to call them a friend.
It’s hard to stay connected to someone you were friends with when you were 14, but not impossible. One of my high school besties is married and a fantastic mom. Have I ever had a wedding? No, but we talked about all the wedding things. I even designed her Save the Dates. Have I ever had a baby? No, but we talked about all the baby things and I helped her sister-in-law through her baby shower.
My point is as long as you don’t forget about those who have been there for you – you will be able to find You won’t always have everything in common, but you will always have the common ground that your friendship was based on. Sometimes that is enough, if you both still want to be in each other’s lives.
This year, I’m determined to make more of an effort. I’m celebrating birthdays. I’m sending letters, cards, care packages – just because. Earlier this month, I sent Galentine’s Day packages to some of my favorite ladies – local and abroad. But it’s not just about gifts. I’m going to schedule regular phone dates and just check-in on people. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone ask you “Are you okay” and mean it.
I realize my friends are my friends because they support me in whatever I do. Sometimes they laugh at me, but I know they love me unconditionally.
So to my friends who may be reading this:
If you need a home cooked meal, to borrow my dog for some puppy snuggles, a hug, a ride, my Netflix password, someone to proofread your resume, occupy your little one while you wash your hair, a wing girl, someone to help you hide the body or someone just to do nothing with – I’m here. And I love you!
Anyone else struggling with maintaining friendships? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
I am always Team Book. I will always be Team Book. However, I do like to see the screen adaptations of the books I read. I have to read the book first though. I’ll wait until a movie is available on DVD, rather than view the screen adaption before getting a change to read the book. I’ve got a few book-to-screen adaptations I’m looking forward to in my list below. You will not find the new 50 Shades movie here because I think the book is trash. To be clear, it’s not the “sexy” content that I think is trash, it’s the awful writing.
#TeamBook: 7 Book-To-Screen Adaptations To Look Forward To This Year
I joined the Show Your Blog Love Book Club and Big Little Lies is the book we’re reading for February. My book was just delivered last Friday and It’s a page turner. The HBO miniseries premieres this weekend and I don’t think I’ll be finished in time to watch it live, but I’m off on Monday and don’t plan on leaving the couch much. 🙂
Premieres: February 19, 2017
Starring: Nicole Kidman, Reese Witherspoon, Alexander Skarsgård, Shailene Woodley and Zoë Kravitz
Synopsis:Big Little Lies follows three women: Madeline, Celeste, and Jane, each at a crossroads. The book is a brilliant take on ex-husbands and second wives, mothers and daughters, schoolyard scandal, and the dangerous little lies we tell ourselves just to survive.
Before I Fall was recommended to me by a fellow bookworm. The premise reminds me of If I Stay which was also became a book-to-screen adaptation. Before I Fall been sitting on my Kindle for a few months now, but I plan to tackle it after Big Little Lies.
Coming to theaters: March 3, 2017
Starring: Zoey Deutch, Halston Sage, Logan Miller
Synopsis: Samantha Kingston has it all: looks, popularity, the perfect boyfriend. Friday, February 12, should be just another day in her charmed life. Instead, it turns out to be her last. The catch: Samantha still wakes up the next morning. Living the last day of her life seven times during one miraculous week, she will untangle the mystery surrounding her death—and discover the true value of everything she is in danger of losing.
In one semester of English, in either my freshman or sophomore year of college, (why does this feel like such a long time ago), my professor constructed a WWII unit. In addition to having us all watch Life Is Beautiful, she introduced us to this book.
Coming to theaters: March 31
Starring: Jessica Chastain, Daniel Brühl, Johan Heldenbergh
Synopsis: A true story in which the keepers of the Warsaw Zoo saved hundreds of people from Nazi hands. After their zoo was bombed, Polish zookeepers Jan and Antonina Zabinski managed to save over three hundred people from the Nazis by hiding refugees in the empty animal cages.
I saw this book continuously being recommended in my book clubs and I’ve always wanted to read it, especially after I found out it inspired the Choose Kind Movement, an anti-bullying campaign. I recently saw the trailer and I just can’t say no to a Julia Roberts movie. So the book makes my list.
Coming to theaters: April 7, 2017
Starring: Julia Roberts, Owen Wilson, Jacob Tremblay
Synopsis: August Pullman was born with a facial difference that, up until now, has prevented him from going to a mainstream school. Starting 5th grade at Beecher Prep, he wants nothing more than to be treated as an ordinary kid—but his new classmates can’t get past Auggie’s extraordinary face.
This is probably the book-to-screen adaptation I’m the most excited about. If you liked The Fault In Our Stars, you’ll love Everything, Everything.Seriously if you don’t tear up watching the trailer, you’re a monster — and not one of Lady Gaga’s.
Coming to theaters: May 19
Starring: Amandla Stenberg, Nick Robinson, Anika Noni Rose
What it’s about: A quarantined girl who’s allergic to basically everything and everyone falls in love with the boy next door, who becomes the biggest risk she’s ever taken.
The anti Beyoncé thinkpieces and discussions are in full swing these days. Between her pregnancy announcement and the GRAMMYs, people have been trying to get a reaction out of me. Well, here you go!
Why I Don’t Entertain Anti-Beyoncé Debates
The BeyHive is full.
We good. We poppin. If you’ve ever tried to get tickets to a Beyoncé concert, you know exactly what this means.
Your opinion is YOUR opinion.
I’m a recovering Spice Girls and Mariah Carey stan. Needless to say, when it comes to my faves–I’ve had my fair share of hateration in this dancerie. Instead of worrying about why I love someone who doesn’t “know” me, worry about why you dislike someone who doesn’t know you.
“If you don’t understand my record, then you don’t understand me. So this is not for you.” -Master P, For Us By Us Interlude
Thoughts become things.
You do realize that talking about how overrated she is, or how much you don’t like is only bringing her more attention, right? To me, it’s similar to politics. Hence, I said similar, not the same. When you’re an advocate for a cause, bringing light to certain issues is necessary. But Beyoncé isn’t healthcare or minimum wage. Like, wyd? Where is your fave?! Go support them!
Me when people sayBeyoncé is overrated, and they’re over the hype.
I do not “worship” Beyoncé.
Will I faint WHEN we make eye contact? Yes. Do I skip a few meals to buy tickets to her concerts? Yes. Am I keeping index cards with facts on why she’s one of the G.O.A.Ts to prepare for your anti Beyoncé debate? Nah. Some fans are on another level of obsessive when it comes to Queen Bey, but let them live! It’s not hurting me or anyone else, so it’s not my business.
This post goes against what I’m venting about, but I needed a written statement to direct people to in the future. I’ve silently sat through too many anti-Beyoncé debates. Yes, I adore her, but she doesn’t pay my bills. See what I did there? It would be a full-time job entertaining these conversations, and I ain’t got the time.
Are you a full-time anti Beyoncé debater? If so, your comment may not get published–but thank you for reading!
Today’s our second blogiversary, y’all. It all started with a text message to Ace during Donni’s lunch break and here we are. From the bottom of our hearts – thank you for supporting The Palmetto Peaches for the past TWO YEARS!!!
The Palmetto Peaches Turn Two
Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give yourself before launch day?
Ace: Worry about yourself. There will be people who write about a topic before me, attend an event I won’t, or visit a place I haven’t, AND THAT’S FINE! Everyone’s journey is different, so there’s no need to wish to be someone else – except Beyoncé.
Invest. Even if was $1 a week, having a stash specifically for blogging needs is something I should’ve done 2 years ago.
Donni: Besides giving myself some much needed expectation setting regarding time management, I’d probably tell myself to stay true to my voice. In the beginning, I was trying to create content that other bloggers were creating rather than writing about things I was passionate about. I’d also tell myself to network and actively try to connect with other bloggers. I’m becoming better at it, but I should have done more in the beginning.
What are your wishes for The Palmetto Peaches in year number two?
Ace: I want us to get recognized by a major publication or platform, and to make some money. Please don’t confuse this with, “I want a popular site to copy our posts and ideas.”
Luvvie is one of my favorite people. She’s had an amazing year (already), and it’s been inspiring to watch her journey. She went from writing hilarious Scandal recaps on her blog, to landing a deal with Shonda Rhimes! #RealLifeGoals
Donni: I feel like 2017 is going to be a good year for the blog. High on my wishlist is a new blog photo shoot. Um, hello my braces have almost been off for a year. I’d like to see us attend a blog conference this year. I would also love to upgrade the look and feel of the blog, so don’t be surprised if there are a few changes soon.
What’s your craziest blog post blooper?
Ace: Every post day is a crazy day for me. I’m convinced WordPress, Photobucket and Canva get paid to conspire against me. The craziest experience is a recent one. As I was editing the post, it kept auto-saving to a “more recent version”. Once I finally got it to chill, WordPress wouldn’t let me log-in to publish. So, I called upon my Tech Goon aka Donni. It was handled.
Donni: I’ve been coding websites since back in the days of Geocities and Angelfire (yup – took it there). Yup, I learned HTML, CSS, and PHP and coded in Notepad or some similar program. So WordPress should not be an issue. I repeat it should not. However, on the days that I’m way behind on the editorial calendar and I’m working on a post at two in the morning, WordPress is like:
So then plugins start malfunctioning, pictures disappear, Chrome freezes, I get writer’s block…you name it. But hey “nevertheless, she persisted”.
Cheers to two years of blogging and to the many memories and moments that are yet to come!
If you don’t know by now The Palmetto Peaches love a good playlist. I’ve made playlists for the best cover songs, work out jams, and productivity. With Valentine’s Day approaching, I thought I’d put together a little love jams playlist. You can play this as you’re having your dinner for two on Tuesday or on your way to your early Valentine’s dinner this weekend.There are some cheesy songs, but cheese it up. Twirl your significant other around.
Flowers and Candy: Love Jams Playlist
Ed Sheeran – Thinking Out Loud
B2K – Gots Ta Be
Beyonce – Love On Top
Whitney Houston – I Will Always You
Drake – Take Care
Mariah Carey – Always Be Baby
John Legend – All of Me
Justin Bieber – U Smile
Katy Perry – Unconditionally
Bruno Mars – Treasure
Adele – Make You Feel My Love
Florence + the Machine – Stand By Me
John Legend – P.D.A. (We Just Don’t Care)
Peabo Bryson – Tonight, I Celebrate My Love
Savage Garden – Truly, Madly, Deeply
Barry White – You’re The First, The Last, My Everything
Monica – Angel of Mine
Aresomith – I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing
Miley Cyrus – Adore You
What are some of your favorite love songs of all time? Leave me a comment below and I’ll add some to my love jams playlist!