About Donnica Smalls

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Resident Palmetto Peach expert on glitter, baking and why football is the 5th season. Pragmatic dreamer. "I might bend a little bit, but I don't fold."

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The Bachelorette and Breakups

I’ve spent approximately 25 hours in the past few months watching Rachel Lindsay as The Bachelorette. I avoided every spoiler and blocked any mention of Reality Steve from popping up on any of my social media feeds or Google cards the entire season, but had my guess which man would get the final rose.

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The final episode aired what Chris Harrison would say was one of the most dramatic breakups in Bachelor history. I haven’t seen every season but it was pretty emotional and I think there are some real world takeaways regarding breakups. Okay, but before I get to the real world application I have to admit I was #TeamPeter.

The Bachelorette and Breakups

PETER

 

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The entire season I fell for what the producers wanted America to see of Peter: perfection. Perfection that came in the form of a former model, with the cutest gapped-tooth smile, salt-and-pepper hair, and swoon worthy moments. Please see the evidence of my infatuation:

And even watching Monday night’s finale, I was all the way here for him making breakfast shirtless and giving Rachel forehead kisses for the rest of their lives. Alas, Peter would not be the last man standing/kneeling and Twitter was outraged.
However, I think Rachel made the right choice. Through editing we only saw them swapping kisses, but it was clear she lit up around Bryan. We’ll have to see if they will be one of the few Bachelor/Bachelorette/Bachelor in Paradise couples to make it, but I’m rooting for them.

THE BREAKUP

Many people were calling Peter reasonable for not wanting to propose after a short amount of time. I applaud him, but I think people are forgetting he was completely aware of how the show works. I saw tweet after tweet and many articles calling Rachel a ring-chaser or claiming she was just after a proposal. It was more than that. Peter’s reluctance wasn’t just about not wanting to rush things. He was actually saying, “I’m not sure I will ever be ready to marry you.”

Rachel had every right to be frustrated that after being very clear of what she wanted, and not wanting to peer pressure him into proposing. That was her decision people. Homegirl, said I’m 32 and I’m over being someone’s girlfriend with no promise that they’ll ever want to commit to me.


Yes, sis!!
She asked for what she wanted and would not be persuaded of otherwise.

PETER THE PETTY

After a lot of back and forth about this process ending in an engagement and what the future would like, Peter hurled one of the cruelest, f*ckboy statements out at Rachel: “Go find someone to have a mediocre life with.” My immediate thought was how could Perfect Peter say something so mean to the woman he’s allegedly in love with.  It also took reminded me of a breakup where I was lashed out at. Instead of telling me to go have a mediocre life, I was told I would never find love. Anyways, the format of the show is obviously not made for someone like Peter. So if he’s the next Bachelor, I call shenanigans and will be convinced he used Rachel. Compare Peter to Eric (who was rocking a sexy revenge beard), who struggled at the beginning with the format of the show, but eventually came around and took a leap of faith.

The Bachelorette and Breakups: Real World Application

In Rachel’s post-finale interviews she mentions of how she felt manipulated by Peter. He would give her just enough to keep investing in him and then pull away. I’ve been Rachel. Maybe you’ve been Rachel. Not arguing over a proposal, but commitment. Peter is the guy who talks about your future together, but still has Tinder on his phone. Peter is the type of guy that will stay with you for seven years and make a statement like: Why do we need a paper/ring, I already feel like I’m married to you. To be fair, this could be a guy or girl, purposefully stringing you along or saying just enough to keep you. The argument is that Rachel settled for Bryan (for a ring). I think she was always ready and willing to be with Bryan.

So take Rachel’s lead: Be firm in your expectations in a relationship. Don’t settle for the emotionally unavailable man or woman you have to work for.

Any advice on The Bachelorette or breakups? Leave a comment below!

Simplify Your Life Week – Blog Roundup

I recently learned that the first week of August is National Simplify Your Life Week. Now I know there are national days and weeks for just about everything, but a little late-summer simplifying will be a great excuse to declutter as fall approaches. However, as I talked about in the minimalism challenge simplifying your life isn’t just about removing the physical clutter out of your closets and cabinets. Minimalism pushes us to examine our lifestyle and eliminate the things that keep us from truly enjoying life.

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While there isn’t just one way to simplify your life, I’ve pulled together a list of blogs that may help you in a pursuit for a simpler lifestyle. First up are a few of my blog posts to get you started:

Minimalism 101The Art of Decluttering |  Decluttering Challenge

Simplify Your Life Week – Blog Roundup

The Minimalists 

If you’re going to start anywhere, I would suggest The Minimalists – Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. They’ve got books, a podcast, and a documentary that will help you understand what minimalism is all about.

Un-Fancy

Un-Fancy was one of the first blogs I found on the topic of simplifying your wardrobe. I’m still battling with this because I love clothes. However, if you’re interested in capsule wardrobes – this is the blogger for you.

Minimalist Baker

Dana and John, a wife and husband duo, create recipes that consist of 10 ingredients or less, require a single bowl or pot, or takes 30 minutes or less to prepare. Can someone say: Amen!!

Save. Spend. Splurge.

 Ok, one other area to consider simplifying – finances.  Sherry, of Save. Spend. Splurge , managed to pay off $60,000 in just 18 months. So if you’re looking to live more minimally when it comes to financial aspects this is the blog for you.

Lavendaire

Lavendaire is a lifestyle youtuber and podcast host. She writes and vlogs about ways millennials can embrace their true potential and create their dream life. She has some great organization and minimalism videos that I love.

Happy Friday, peeps! I hope you find some of these blogs interesting and informative. If you have any favorites send them my way. 

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I Miss (Old) Kanye Playlist

What is Kanye West? An asshole, a genius, a victim of the Kardashian curse — probably all of the above. I put on a random workout mix the other day and there were so many throwback Yeezy songs. It was fantastic and I started thinking about all the hits Yeezy has that I still love.I Miss (Old) Kanye Playlist - The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com

The Ultimate I Miss Kanye Playlist

“Through the Wire” — The College Dropout (2003)

I cannot start an I miss (the old) Kanye playlist without the song that started it all. Do not forget ‘Ye recorded the original version while his mouth was still wired shut. In comparison, I don’t want to move when I have a headache.

Favorite Lines: Good dude, bad night, right place, wrong time
In the blink of a eye, his whole life changed
If you could feel how my face felt, you would know how Mase felt
Thank God I ain’t too cool for the safe belt!

“Flashing Lights” — Album: Graduation (2007)

Favorite Lines:In my past, you on the other side of the glass
Of my memory’s museum
I’m just saying, Hey Mona Lisa
Come home you know you can’t Rome without Caesar

“Can’t Tell me Nothing” —  Album: Graduation (2007)

I pretty much know this entire song by heart and when I stroll into anything late I’m basically humming the line: Class started 2 hours ago, oh am I late?

Favorite Lines:Man it’s so hard not to act reckless
To whom much is given, much is tested

“The New Workout Plan” — Album: The College Dropout (2004)

Kanye is funny or he can be when he wants to and this song is testament to that.

Favorite Lines: Ooh girl your breath is harsh!
Cover your mouth up like you got SARS
Off them tracks yea I bought them cars

“Otis” — Album: Watch the Throne (2011)

This sample of Otis Redding?! IS. EVERYTHING.

Favorite Lines:Luxury rap, the Hermes of verses
Sophisticated ignorance, write my curses in cursive

“Jesus Walks” — Album: The College Dropout (2004)

C’mon, this video was everything (both versions). I specifically remember ‘Ye preforming this at the BET Awards with Yolanda Adams.

Favorite Line:I ain’t here to argue about his facial features
Or here to convert atheists into believers
I’m just tryna say the way school need teachers
The way Kathy Lee needed Regis, that’s the way I need Jesus

“Gold Digger” —  Album: Late Registration (2005)

This song broke all kinds of chart records and it most importantly it still rocks when it comes on at a party. It’s like the real response to No Scrubs. If you’re about to comment about the tragedy that is called No Pigeons, please exit immediately.

Favorite Lines: You will see him on TV any given Sunday
Win the Superbowl and drive off in a Hyundai

“Stronger” — Album: Graduation (2007)

Did you have a pair of those damn shutter shades? I had like seven pairs, but trends come an go.

Favorite Lines: Bow in the presence of greatness
‘Cause right now thou hast forsaken us
You should be honored by my lateness
That I would even show up to this fake shit

“All Of the Lights” — Album: My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy (2010)

Did you know that  14 artists lent their voices as background vocals to this song: Alicia Keys, John Legend, The-Dream, Drake, Fergie, Kid Cudi, Elton John, Ryan Leslie, Charlie Wilson, Tony Williams, Elly Jackson, Alvin Fields, Ken Lewis, and Rihanna. This was basically the Golden State Warriors all-star championship team.

Favorite Lines:Restraining order
Can’t see my daughter
Her mother, brother, Grandmother hate me in that order

“Monster” — Album: My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy (2010)

Not going to lie Nicki Minaj stole this for me, but still speaks to Ye’s genius. I mean how else do you get Bon Iver, Jay Z, Rick Ross and Nicki on one track.

Favorite Lines:  Please see Nicki’s whole verse.

“Touch The Sky” — Album: Late Registration (2005)

The horns — a sample from Curtis Mayfield’s Move On Up — are a standout.

Favorite Lines:Now let’s go, take ’em back to the plan
Me and my momma hopped in that U-Haul van
Any pessimists, I ain’t talk to them
Plus I ain’t have no phone in my apart-a-ment

 

“All Falls Down” — The College Dropout (2004)

R.I.P. Stacy Dash. I know she’s still alive, but this her appearance in this video one of the last times the black delegation claimed her.

Favorite Lines: The prettiest people do the ugliest things
For the road to riches and the diamond rings

“Heartless” — Album: 808s & Heartbreak (2008)

Ok, there are a lot of people who hated 808s and Heartbreak. I was not one of the those people.

Favorite Lines: Talk and talk and talk and talk
Baby, let’s just knock it off
They don’t know what we been through
They don’t know about me and you

“Hey Mama” — Album: Late Registration

If you didn’t cry or feel something after Ye performed this song at the Grammys in 2008 aftter Donda passed, you have no soul.

Favorite Lines: As we knelt on the kitchen floor
I said mommy I’mma love you till you don’t hurt no more
And when I’m older, you ain’t gotta work no more
And I’mma get you that mansion that we couldn’t afford

“N****s in Paris” — Album: Watch the Throne (2011)

I basically put this next because we need a spirit lifter after “Hey Mama”.  Plus, it gets the people going. 🙂

She said ‘Ye can we get married at the mall?
I said look you need to crawl ‘fore you ball

“Runaway” — My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy (2010)

 

Favorite Lines: Never was much of a romantic
I could never take the intimacy
And I know I did damage
Cause the look in your eyes is killing me

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I know I’m missing a few (Heard ‘Em Say with Adam Levine). What are your favorite old Kanye songs? Let me know in the comments below!

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Milk and Honey | A Review

I kept seeing posts on Instagram like the one below. Who is this Rupi Kaur I would say?  making a mental note to look up the poet. I would forget until another poem would appear on my feed. When I finally did my homework, I immediate ordered Milk and Honey, Kaur’s first collection of poems.

Milk and Honey…that sounds nice

this is the journey of
surviving through poetry
this is the blood sweat tears
of twenty-one years
this is my heart
in your hands
this is
the hurting
the loving
the breaking
the healing
– rupi kaur

The poem above is featured on the back of the book and is a brief synopsis of the book. Do not let the brevity of the poems fool you. Rupi’s poems are experiences. They are honest. Kaur breaks her book into four parts: the hurting, the loving, the breaking and the healing.

Review: Milk and Honey – Rupi Kaur

The Hurting

The hurting touches on topics of rape, sexual abuse, and abusive parenting. It describes feelings of emptiness and suppression, however, also the ability to transcend the hurt with kindness.  It describes the fractured relationship left as a result of abuse.

you have sadness
living in places
sadness shouldn’t live

The Loving

The loving section of Milk and Honey is about love, hope, sex, intimacy, women’s bodies and being consumed by a relationship.

you might not have been my first love
but you were the love that made
all the other loves
irrelevant.

The Breaking

The breaking is about heartbreak, the bitter aspects of relationships, and relationships that break you down or cause to be someone you aren’t.

i am a museum full of art
but you had your eyes shut

The Healing

The healing is about loving yourself, openness and kindness.  It’s about celebrating and supporting other women’s successes and celebrating feminine beauty in all its different colors, shapes and sizes.

our backs
tell stories
no books have
the spine to
carry
-women of color

 

#Summer Reading List

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What have been your favorite reads this summer? Leave a comment below!

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TV Boyfriends We (Love to) Hate

 As you may know by know, I have strong thoughts on fictional characters: fictional crushes, fictional deaths that crushed me, and favorite couples. While I’ve shared my love for Pacey and Mr. Darcy, I’ve yet to share the TV boyfriends I loathe, but also have at some point liked.TV Boyfriends We (Love to) Hate- The Palmetto Peaches - palmsinatl.com

TV Boyfriends We (Love to) Hate

Logan Huntzberger, Gilmore Girls

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To be fair, I actually liked Logan on the show and the damn reunion ruined him for me. So Logan turns up engaged and still hooking up with Rory. I mean yes, he treated Rory well and I loved that outing with the Life and Death Brigade, but at the end of the day, no one likes a cheater. C’mon man! Also, Logan seriously gives me Mr. Big vibes. (P.S. Keep scrolling)


Lucious Lyon, Empire

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Lucious has put Cookie through everything…including jail time. He is a terrible father. He loves them certainly, but good goodness. I’m still not over him putting Jamal in a trash can for wearing heels. As much as I kind of want Cookie and Lucious together, I know he’s bad news bears and will only do something else unforgivable. His problem is that he carries his hate, greed, and desire for power like a badge of honor. Over the course of the show, he has moments where he seems to temporarily let that go, but he picks it up again. Hopefully, the new Lucious fresh from a coma will be different. 


Fitzgerald Grant III, Scandal

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Say what you want. I am tired of Olitz and this isn’t because I am and will always be #TeamJake aka Pillow Lips. I was the happiest when Papa Pope read him to filth and I was most upset when she ran out to the White House Lawn to kiss him. That Olitz music kills me.

Fitz is domineering, arrogant, and child-like. Let’s talk about how they got together. Fitz seduced Olivia during the campaign despite her trying to be professional. That’s called sexual harassment people. As an employer you should not do that. Also, I guess I missed the obvious, he cheated on Mellie (and other women) to be with her. Thankfully, the upcoming seventh season is the final and I wouldn’t be upset if the chopper Fitz is on blows up on the way to Vermont.

Mr. Big – Sex and the City

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I can hear some of the complaints now, but I don’t care. I was never and will never be a fan of Mr. Big. Before I even mention that time he was a runaway groom, let’s talk about how utterly disappointed I am in him as a match for Carrie. As if it isn’t very obvious- I am very much still #TeamAiden. I’ll take him, Pete, and his lovely handcrafted furniture any day.

Mr. Big cheated on Natasha with Carrie. And we all know the saying: Once a cheater, always a cheater. There were definitely commitment issues on both sides, but Mr. Big was the worst. He basically only wanted Carrie when he couldn’t  have her. The minute she would move on, he would suddenly come back into the picture. I’d like to also casually mention he had not one, but two failed marriages. Bruh, it might be you.

One of the biggest pro-Big arguments I hear is that Aiden didn’t give Carrie butterflies. Well and this is more than just a comment about fictional relationships:

Did you ever stop to think those “butterflies” you’re feeling is just anxiety generated by an unreliable guy?

The other pro-Big sentiment: but he changed in the end. That’s all that matters. Let’s be real, he didn’t change which is why we have two SATC movies where their relationship is rocky and not some storybook ending.

Who are some of the TV boyfriends you love to hate or just hate? Leave a comment below!

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7 Things to Remove From Your Résumé

I was recently asked to review a the résumé of a recent grad. I am not a HR specialist, but upon quick glance there were a few items I noticed that could be removed from his résumé, which made me think about putting it all together in a blog post.

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1. Objective Statement

Ultimately, your objective is to get hired.  Usually people use this section to tell the company what they are looking for in a position. Here’s the thing ladies and gents that company’s main concern isn’t what you a looking for. Also, you are taking up precious space on your résumé with an objective statement. I have heard that an executive summary or personal profile can replace the objective statement. However, I say use your cover letter to talk about yourself.

2. Passive Language

If you are updating your résumé, Google action verbs for résumé first.  You want to always use action verbs when describing what you accomplished at your previous job. Now with that being said don’t just drop a bunch of fancy action verbs all over the document. Using non-conversational words doesn’t make you look smart. It makes you look like someone who spends too much time in a thesaurus.

3. A Photo

I’ve seen some creatives include photos so I don’t think this necessarily a hard no. However, there are other ways you can get employers to view your picture without having to add your photo to your résumé. Consider including the URL of your LinkedIn profile. Although, unless you’re an actor, the employer shouldn’t be judging you based on your looks.

4. A Bunch of Short-Lived or Unrelated Jobs

Your résumé is not an autobiography of every job you’ve held in life. Include the relevant ones and delete everything else. You don’t want your résumé looking disjointed. Also, employers are not interested in achievements or abilities that are not applicable to the job. Think about if you’re applying for a public relations job and all of experience is in the healthcare. One exception, is to, if possible, highlight transferable skills.

5. Really Obvious Skills

The last time I updated my résumé this was the first thing I removed. Look –  proficiency in Microsoft Word and basically all of the Microsoft Office suite is kind of expected. Substitute these basic skills with less common skills or more technical skills that will make you stand out from other applicants.

6.  References available upon request

You don’t need a line that states the obvious and takes up valuable real estate for the accomplishments you really want to highlight on your résumé!  Like are you going to refuse to give references if they ask? The answer is no. Employers today expect you to offer references when requested, which is typically during the latter part of the interview process.

7. Personal Social Media Accounts

If you take nothing from this post. Remember this: keep it professional, people! Don’t give that hiring manager a reason to dig into your personal life. The red solo cup picture as your Instagram profile pic may not be the best idea, but don’t go broadcasting it on your  résumé. At most include your LinkedIn profile and leave everything else.

Let’s chat! What has worked for you when creating and/or updating your résumé? Leave a comment below. 

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