Say What?: Best/Worst Advice


guidance or recommendations concerning prudent future action, typically given by someone regarded as knowledgeable or authoritative.

However, not everyone is knowledgeable or authoritative in the subject in which they are trying to advise you on. We all know those people who always seem to know what to do in every situation. You receive their unsolicited advice about everything in your life from career to relationships. If we really sat down we could go on and one about the worst pieces of advice we’ve received. However, we thought we would share some just a few of the best and worst advice we’ve gotten.

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It’s okay to drive if you’re drunk – just close one eye.

Say what? Closing one eye will not make you a  better drunk driver! Just don’t do it! Call an Uber/ Lyft or your best friend that decided to stay in and Netflix binge.

You’d be a better dancer, if you lost some weight.

In college a dance teacher told me that I didn’t have the right body for dance – my thighs and hips were too big. No, they were too big for her. I’ve seen beautiful dancers of varying ethnicities that don’t have the “typical” ballet body. And now enter Misty Copeland, the first African-American woman to be named a principal in the 75-year history of American Ballet Theater.

Misty Copeland

I hope dance instructors are taking note of all the barriers Misty is breaking and showing young girls that a curve or two won’t stop them from accomplishing their dreams.


The worst advice I’ve ever gotten came from a fortune cookie. I was going through hard times and (against my will) went to dinner with my roommates. At the end, everyone opened their cookies to read the fortunes. Mine was blank. BLANK Y’ALL! It could’ve basically say, “Your life sucks. Bye.” Usually, the notes in fortune cookies give me a little inspiration or a good laugh. But this one hurt my feelings!
“Put an out of state address while you’re applying for jobs.”
Girl, what? One of the few times I was “in between jobs”, a friend of the family told me to put an out-of-state address on my résumé and applications. She said it would make me stand out if I was from another city looking for a job in Charleston. I never tested the theory to completely bash it, but I can’t figure out what my location has to do with my education and/or job history.


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“Walk like you love yourself.”

My mama yelled this out of the car one day as I was crossing the street. Men old enough to be my grandfather would cat call me when I was young, and it was super embarrassing. I was probably walking like I was afraid of my own body, because I didn’t want to draw attention. I can hear her saying this every time I’m slouched over in a chair or when I walk into a room full of people.

 “Skinny b*tches wear Spanx too.”
I probably made this up in my head, but I repeat it to myself whenever I need a little help getting my clothes to fit just right.

It matters, but not that much!” -Mr. Filmore

I was a straight A student all of my life  Halfway through high school I began to put extra pressure on myself –  I needed more extracurriculars and better grades, if I was going to get scholarships. Then I attended a program called college experience where a program leader said that quote everyday. All the things I was stressing about mattered, but only to a certain extent. I learned to exhale and focus only on the things I could control.  Note: Mr. Filmore would stroll around the College of Charleston campus in Easter Sunday suits and a fedora (licking an ice cream cone) in the 90+ degree heat of Charleston claiming he wasn’t hot. I’m not hot! You must be hot! If you think cool, you will be cool! He would also crumple peppermint candy wrappers in your ear and yell Get yo hand out my pocket while we practiced taking SATs so feel free to question what authority he had to offer advice.

 “If you don’t see a clear path for what you want, sometimes you have to make it yourself.” – Mindy Kaling

Let’s be clear my mom and dad, as well as a few teachers have always told me to be my own person and to be a trailblazer. However, in the event a rising senior stumbles across the blog looking for a senior quote for the yearbook and doesn’t want to quote my mom, I thought Mindy would work.  In the age of brands empowering young girls (Always’ Like a Girl) and #Girlboss or #bossbabe, I try to remind myself daily that no matter how society would like to limit me, there’s always a new path I can make to steer me to my dreams.


So what’s some of the best/worst advice you’ve received? Leave a comment below or tweet us @PalmsinATL.

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9 Replies to “Say What?: Best/Worst Advice”

  1. “They only person who can make you happy, is you.”

    Sometimes people say the craziest things huh?
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  2. “Skinny b*tches wear Spanx too.” – Weirdly, this has always made me feel better.
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    1. The Palmetto Peaches says:

      Haha, it’s the little things right?

  3. Definitely make your own path, where ever you go!
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  4. I need to implement some of the best advice into my life, especially the one “Walk like you love yourself”—I like that one! On a side note, My daughter wants to be the next Misty Copeland….Love her.
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    1. The Palmetto Peaches says:

      Whenever I catch myself slouching or dragging my feet, “Walk like you love yourself” pops right back into my mind. Oh, and we should get your daughter’s autograph before she’s too cool for us. 🙂 Thank you for reading! -Ace

  5. That bad advice is pretty terrible. I love the best advice though. I’ve never heard the walk like you love yourself .Awesome .
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    1. The Palmetto Peaches says:

      Luckily, we didn’t take the bad advice. 🙂 Thank you for reading!

  6. Ugh, some of this is awful. An out of state address? Pretty sure that makes you look like a less-than-ideal candidate because they have to wait for you to move.
    xo, Caitlin
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